I-Deviant ibizwa ngokuba yihambo engahambelani kwimida yemveli evunyelwe ngokuqhelekileyo. Ukubaluleka kokuthintela ukuziphatha kakubi kwabantu abancinci kubangelwa ukuba iimeko ezinokubakho zingabungozi nje kuphela kwabanye, kodwa nakwabantwana abaselula. Ukuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo kuyonakalisa; ukuvimbela ukungena ngokuqhelekileyo kulutsha kuluntu, kuthintela kakubi isimo sengqondo sabaselula kunye ukusebenzisana namanye amalungu oluntu.
Iingxaki zokuthintela ukuziphatha kakubi
Ukubaluleka kokuthintela ukuziphatha okungahambiyo kuhambelana, okokuqala, ngokulungelelaniswa ngokuthe ngqo kwindlela yokuziphatha engafanelekanga yabantwana abaselula kunye nolwaphulo-mthetho kuluntu: ngokubhekiselele ekuziphatheni kokubhubhisa kwabantwana nakwishumi elivisayo, ukuphakamisa ukuziphatha kwabo kwenzanga-mthetho.
Inkqubo yokuthintela ukuziphatha kakubi kwabantwana abaselula kufuneka incedise abantwana ukuba babe neqondo elifanelekileyo loqoqosho noluntu. Iintsholongwane kufuneka ziqonde imida yento evunyelweyo kwaye icacise ngokucacileyo phakathi kweendlela zokusombulula iingxaki zabo ezibalulekileyo.
Izindlela zokuthintela ukuziphatha okungahambiyo ziquka:
- qeqesho lwengqondo;
- iintetho zemfundo, iintetho;
- iinkqubo zemfundo.
Naliphi na inkqubo yokukhusela ngokwengqondo yokuziphatha okungahambiyo kubandakanya iibhloko eziphambili, phakathi kwazo:
- Ukuthintela ukuxhomekeka kwengqondo.
- Ukuqulunqwa kwesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kunye nesimo sengqondo esithi "Ndicinga".
- Ukuthintela ukwephulwa ngokwesini.
Ukuthintela imfundo yokuziphatha ngokungahambiyo kunceda abantu abatsha ukuba bafunde indlela yokusombulula iingxaki zabo ngokuvunyelwa ngokubanzi, iindlela ezifanelekileyo kunye neendlela.
Ngokuxhomekeke kwinqanaba elibi elibangelwa kwiminqweno yoluntu, amaqela okanye abantu bahlula iintlobo ezininzi zokuziphatha okungahambiyo:
- ukubhubhisa, ukulimaza kuphela kwintsana ngokwakhe - masochism, accumulation, njl.;
- ubuhlanga, ukulimaza iqela lentlalontle (intsapho, abahlobo, abamelwane) - ukuxiliswa kweziyobisi, utywala, njl.
- engekho mthethweni, oko kukuphula umthetho wemilinganiselo yokuziphatha yoluntu-ukukhohlisa, ukuphanga, ukubulala, njl.
Izindlela zokuthintela ukuziphatha okubi
Ukukhusela ukuziphatha okungahambiyo, iindlela ezilandelayo zisetyenzisiweyo:
- banakekele ukhuseleko lwezezimali zabantwana kunye neentsapho zabo;
- intlangano yolonwabo kubaselula. Ngexesha elifanayo, ukulungelelanisa ukuphucula abantwana kunye nabantwana abaselula kufuneka babe sezingeni elifanelekileyo - ngokuhambelana neemfuno zamaxesha, ngoko kunomdla kubantwana;
- ukuqhuba izifundo zezemfundo kunye neenkqubo ezikhuthaza imfundo yabaselula kunye nokukhutshwa kwabantwana abaselula ngokuchasene nokusetyenziswa kotywala, ukutshaya nokusetyenziswa kwezinye izinto ezidakayo;
- ukukhuthazwa kwendlela yokuphila enempilo, ukuthintela ukuthengiswa kotywala, iimveliso zecuba.
Amanqanaba okuthintela ukuziphatha okungafanelekanga kufuneka afake onke amanqanaba ebemi kunye nazo zonke izakhiwo zoluntu. Ngaphandle kwenkqubo ekhuselekileyo, ekhuselekileyo, akunakwenzeka ukufikelela kwiziphumo ezintle ezizinzileyo.
Izindlela kunye nezindlela zokuthintela kufuneka zihambelane nokubonakaliswa kwemibonakalo yokuphambuka.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthintela ukuziphatha okungathandekiyo kuqhelekileyo, ukuxhamla ubudlelwane nabazali. Kwenzeka ukuba abantwana abaselula bayabonisa ukuziphatha okungahambiyo kwiimeko ezithile - kuphela ekhaya, kuphela esikolweni okanye nabahlobo. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bafune ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nomntwana wabo-umntwana osemtsha kufuneka aqonde ukuba nangona wenza iphosakelo, abazali bakhe abayi kumnikela, unokuhlala encike ekuxhaseni nasekuncedeni intsapho yakhe. Ngaloo ndlela ungaqiniseka ukuba xa kwenzeka iingxaki umntwana osemva kokuqala ufuna uncedo kubazali bakhe.