Ukuncelisa ukubeleka kumnandi kumama nomntwana, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kukho imeko engathandekiyo, apho umama engazi ukuba asabele njani. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana usabetha esifubeni sakhe. Kuthekani ukuba umntwana unika intlungu kunye nokukhathazeka, kunye nendlela yokumkhupha kuyo?
Kutheni umntwana ebetha isifuba?
Enyanisweni, izizathu zokuthi umntwana uyabetha isifuba, kunokubakho ezininzi. Umntwana omncinci kakhulu, mhlawumbi, uyabetha isifuba ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle. Umntwana osekhulile osuvele enamazinyo, angaluma isifuba ngenxa yokuba iinsini zakhe zihlambulukile, okanye uzonqwenela ukukhangela izakhono. Kwiimeko ezi zimbini, kuyimfuneko ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kuba umntwana uyaluma ibele ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo.
Indlela yokunciphisa umntwana ukuba alumise isifuba?
Ukuba umntwana uyabetha isifuba sakhe, kwaye umama uyaqiniseka ukuba akayidlala, kwaye kufuneka ukuba wenze isicelo esifanelekileyo. Umntwana oncelisayo akayikuqonda kuphela ingono, kodwa i-halo. Ukuba umntwana engazange athabathe isifuba ngokufanelekileyo, kuyimfuneko ukuyithatha kwisifuba kwaye uyifake kwakhona.
Ukuba umama ubona ukuba umntwana uyaphanga, kufuneka usebenze ngobumnene nangenkani. Ukuba umntwana uyabetha isifuba ngelixa esondla, kuyimfuneko ukuthatha ingono, kwanele ukuyifakalisa ngeminwe emibili ngaphezu komlomo womntwana, kwaye ubisi luyeke ukuza. Njalo xa umntwana eluma, kuyimfuneko ukumisa ukutya kunye nokuqhubeka ngokucacileyo ukuba wenze ntoni oko akunakwenzeka.
Ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kunokubangela umphumo ochaseneyo. Abantwana bathanda izandi ezibukhali, kwaye umntwana unokuthanda loo mama ngokukhala ngokukrakra kwizenzo zakhe. Amaninzi amaninzi, kwaye umntwana uya kuluma ngenjongo yokuphumeza umphumo ofanayo.
Ukuba umntwana uyabetha isifuba, yintoni umama ayenokuyenza isigqibo ngokusekelwe ekuphatheni komntwana. Into ephambili kukuthatha ngokuzithemba nangokuqhubekayo.