Ngokumangalisa, sibona umntwana edlala ngothando nonina, ekhupha abafundi ekilasini, ootitshala abakhayo. Ingane ikhupha iinqwelo zayo ngokungenakukhetha, iqhubise ngeengqayi zakhe, kunye ne-tweaks. Abazali bacingisisa ukuba kutheni umntwana enobudlova. Yintoni eyabangela ukuba ngoku kutshanje umntwana ozolile kwaye onomdla ngokukhawuleza uba yinto yokudlala. Kwaye umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu obakhathazayo uninzi lwabazali: yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana ehlasele?
Uphi ulwalamano oluvela kumntwana?
Isizathu esona sizathu sokwenzeka kobundlobongela kubantwana kubudlelwane obungalunganga phakathi kwabazali nomntwana. Kwintsapho enjalo, njengomthetho, umntwana akanakunikwa ingqalelo ngokwaneleyo. Ucaphukisa abazali bakhe, kuba uhlala ephazamisa, udidekile phantsi kweenyawo zakhe. Ingane inomsindo, ididekile ngenxa yesimo sengqondo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uziva engakhuselekanga nabantu abakhe bangabalulekanga kwihlabathi. Kwaye ke umntwana uzama ukutsala ingqalelo kuye, nangona ulwaphulo. Ewe, abazali baya kumemeza, bamgxothe, kodwa into eyona nto iqaphela! Ngaloo ndlela, ukuziphatha komntwana okrakra luhlobo lokuzikhusela.
Ngokuqhelekileyo imbangela yokuziphatha kakubi yindlela yokukhulisisa, xa phantse yonke into evunyelwe umntwana. Abantwana abanjalo abaqhelananga negama elithi "akunakwenzeka" kwaye ngoko awaziyo imida yento evumelekileyo.
Esinye sezizathu zobundlobongela kwabantwana kukuphazanyiswa kwengqondo ngenxa yeengxaki ngexesha lokubeleka okanye ukukhathazeka.
Ukuya kwisikolo esitsha okanye i-kindergarten, isikolo esinobutshaba okanye abasebenzi basebantwaneni bangafaka isandla ekuveleni kokuziphatha komntwana wakho.
Ukusebenza nabantwana abanobudlova
Kucacile ukuba ngokubonakaliswa kobudlova kumntwana kwi-kindergarten okanye esikolweni, ootitshala okanye ootitshala baya kuthatha amanyathelo. Nangona kunjalo, ukubaluleka okubalulekileyo kukungenelela kwabazali. Ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo ziya kunceda umntwana:
- Xa ukuziphatha kakubi kwabantwana, abazali bahlala befuna ukuhlala bezolile. Ukuba uziva unomsindo kwaye unomsindo, vala amehlo akho uze ubalekele kwishumi. Musa ukuphendula "ukulungelelanisa" nangayiphi indlela. Musa ukubeka isandla sakho kumntwana kwaye ungaguquki ukumemeza. Njengoko kuyaziwa, ngokungabikho kwempendulo, ulwaphulo luyacinywa.
- Umntwana kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kukulimaza, okokuqala, kuye ngokwakhe: abantwana abafuni ukuba ngabahlobo naye, abantu baqala ukumphatha kakubi. Ngamanye amaxesha ukulandelwa kwezigwenxa zezihlobo zabantwana akuyi kuphazamisa. Ngoko, udade okhubekileyo unokukwazi ukujonga ukubandezeleka kunye neinyembezi ezibuhlungu, xa umzalwana onobuhlungu engamthandi.
- Ngexesha lokubonakaliswa kobugwenxa kumntwana, abazali bangazama ukucima ukuvutha komsindo. Ukulungiswa kwakhona kwezenzo zomntwana kwisinto esingapheliyo: makakhuphe iinyawo emhlabathini, wubethe umsila.
- Ukuba umntwana uziphatha kakubi, zama ukuphazamisa, ukucela ukuzalisekisa nayiphi na isicelo sakho (umzekelo, ukuzisa iglasi, ifowuni, ipeneni). Okanye, ngokukhawuleza, mdumise, uthi uziphatha kakuhle, wenza into efanelekileyo. Umzali onothando uhlale enento yokudumisa umntwana othandekayo!
- Zama ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nosana lwakho. Kuthetha ukuba uyamthanda, ngenxa yokuba unomntwana ontle nomnene.
Dlala ngeemidlalo ezifaka isandla ekucimiseni ubundlobongela babantwana. Umzekelo, cela ukudweba izilwanyana ezimbini. Makhe umntwana abonise isilwanyana esibi, simnike igama elibi aze amxelele ngezenzo zakhe ezimbi. Emva koko makhele umntwana enze inkunzi enobumnandi kwaye enomusa ngegama elihle. Vumela umntwana achaze izenzo ezilungileyo zeli silwanyana.
Izenzo ezilula ezinjalo, kunye nomonde nokunyamezela nothando lomntwana kuya kunceda ukunqoba ulwalamano. Ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi komntwana kubangelwa ukuzalwa kwezilwanyana, kufuneka kuboniswe ukubonisana nomntwana we-neurologist.