Ngokuqhelekileyo, iintloni kubantwana ziqala ukwakha kwiminyaka emithathu. Kodwa abazali abazi indlela yokunceda umntwana onamahloni. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bona ngokwabo baxhoba lo mlinganiso ngokungazi. Emva kwakho konke, njengokuba sinesithuba esiphezulu seSoviet samukelwa, abantwana abathobeliyoyoyikisa uBabay, amapolisa kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zoobuqabane obuyingozi kwaye abacingi ngemiphumo ngokwabo. Kwaye abantwana bahluke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye bayazibona izinto ezahlukeneyo. Omnye kwinqanaba elincinci liqala ukwakha isimo sengqondo esingalunganga kumfokazi, ukwesaba ukuba umfokazi uya kwenza into emelene nomntwana. Kukho ukwesaba ukuba ubuncinci kunye nobudala buguqula ukuzihlukanisa. Ingane icinga ukuba xa ingabonakali, abayi kuhlawulwa.
Kodwa, njengoko ekhula, kunye neentloni, umntwana unesidingo soqhagamshelwano, kodwa akakwazi ukuyiqonda, kwaye unengqungquthela elibi - umntwana ufuna ukuthetha, kwaye xa efika kwindawo leyo, uhlazekile kwaye ucebile.
Iingcebiso kubazali babantwana abanentloni:
- Ukuthintela nayiphi na imizamo yabanye (kubandakanywa ootitshala kwi-kindergarten) ukunyelisa umntwana wakho;
- Cinga ngesimo sakho sengqondo kumntwana. Ngaba ungazifuni kakhulu kuye? Uyasabela njani xa uhlazeka ngumntwana wakho? Musa ukugculela ngenxa yokubuthathaka? Ngaba uyayithelekisa nabanye, bekhululekile? Shintsha kuqala isimo sengqondo sakho kwinto eyenzekayo;
- Ungabize untloni emehlweni;
- Ngokusoloko ushiya umntwana wakho wedwa kunye nabantwana abangaqhelekanga kunabo;
- Nika umntwana kwicandelo lezemidlalo, kuba ukuqhuba okusebenzayo kunomthelela ekwandiseni ukuzithemba;
- Musa ukunyanzela ukulungiswa kobugcisa beentloni ngoncedo lomntwana wengqondo yengqondo.
Yaye ukhumbule ukuba ingxaki ayishiyi ngokwayo, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, iyancipha ngobudala. Ngoko ke, khangela umntu osebenza nabantwana abantloni, uyazi kwaye uyaqonda iimpawu zonxibelelwano phakathi kwabantwana abanentloni. Mthande umntwana wakho njengoko unjalo kwaye umncede afunde indlela yokuthetha nabanye.