Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana kwiminyaka emi-2 uqhubela amahlaya. Ukuba ngaba abazali bayiqaphela i-whims kunye ne-hysterics yomntwana kwiminyaka emi-2, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo isizathu salo mkhuba sinesidingo sokwongezwa kwangakumbi kubazali.
Ama-Caprices kwiminyaka emi-2 ingabonakaliswa kwezi zinto zilandelayo:
- inkani;
- ukulila ixesha elide;
- ekhwele phantsi, ngokuqhelekileyo kwiindawo zoluntu apho kukho abanye abaphulaphuli.
Oku kuziphatha komntwana kuyimvelo ngenxa yokungapheleli kwenkqubo yesimmo. Ukuba abazali banqabela into ethile, hlala into ethile, umntwana akakwazi ukuvakalisa ukungafuni kwabo ngokupheleleyo. Ukuze kunciphise ukukhathazeka kwengqondo kumntwana, kuyimfuneko ukumnika ingqwalaselo ayifunayo. Kule meko, kwixesha elizayo, akusayi kuba nesizathu sabantu abahlaziyileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo uhlobo lokubhikisha kunye nomnqweno wokungabaphulaphuli abazali kuba ngumngcipheko kumntwana . Ngomntwana weminyaka emibili imbono ikhula, sele sele iqala ukuhamba nabazali ngokubanzi, ifunda ihlabathi elijikelezile. Kwaye ihlala idibana neendlela zokufunda izithintelo zabazali, ezenzelwe ukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lomntwana ekhaya nasetratweni.
Umntwana oneminyaka emibili unokuqala ukuba neengxaki xa ekhulelwe, ufuna ukutya okanye ukulala. Mhlawumbi inani elitsha lokubonakalisa okungekho mfuneko kumntwana, kwaye wavuya ngakumbi. Ngeemeko ezinjalo, ukukhutshwa komntwana kwiminyaka emi-2 kubonakalisa isimo sakhe somzimba, ukunika abazali uphawu lokuba kufuneka anikwe ingqalelo kwaye ancede ukuhlalisa. Emva koko, ukuqinisekisile umntwana ovuthayo, kufuneka uwuthembele emkhatsini wendawo: uthathe kwi-handles, uyibeke kwiphepha lakho. Umama unako ukumbamba umntwana, u-pat entloko, unike into enhle ukuphazamisa umntwana kwimeko apho waqala ukubonisa ukuqonda.
Mhlawumbi ubukho beemeko ezixinzelelekileyo ezifana nokuya kwi-kindergarten, ukuhlukanisa abazali okanye ukuvela kwintsana yesibini kwintsapho nayo inokubangela ukuhlambalaza. Ekubeni ezi zihlandlo zingamangalisi umntwana, unokuba nomsindo kubazali bakhe, kunye naye, ngoyiko lokwesaba ikusasa. Kwaye ukuze anciphise imeko yakhe kwaye aphephe uxinzelelo, uqala ukuziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo: ukubetha iinyawo zakhe emgangathweni, ukuphonsa amathoyizi, ukumemeza ngokukhawuleza, njl. Into ebalulekileyo kubazali kukufumana isisiseko salo mkhuba wengane kwaye uzame ukuyilungisa.
Xa umntwana egula okanye esesiteji sokuphulukana, unokufumana ubunzima bokubantwana. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana aphazamise ixesha kwizinto eziqhelekileyo kwaye angavumeli abahlaziyi baqhube phambili.
Ukuba ngaba abazali banzima kakhulu kumntwana, bahlala bemjezisa, ngoko umntwana onobuxoki uyindlela yokukhusela le ndlela yokukhulisa kunye nomnqweno wokukhusela ukuzimela.
Ukhohlisi ngaphambi kokulala embhedeni oneminyaka emi-2 ubudala
Ukutshatyalaliswa komntwana kwiminyaka emibili ngaphambi kokulala kudla ngokuba ngumqondiso wokugqithisa ngokweqile umntwana. Mhlawumbi, kungekudala ngaphambi kwesithethe sokulala, umntwana udlala kunye nopapa, okanye ubukele i-TV ixesha elide, ezinokubangela ukuba umntwana abe nexinzelelo.
Kwaye kukho iimeko xa umntwana efuna ukulala, kodwa akakwazi ukulala kwaye uqala ukubonisa ngokugqithiseleyo umsebenzi.
Yintoni enokuyenza ukuphepha i-hysteria?
Kubalulekile ukuhambelana nemithetho elandelayo:
- Kulula ukukhusela umxhasi kunokuba ulwe. Ngoko ke, ngeengcamango ezincinci zokuqala kwayo, kufuneka uphazamise umntwana ngokukhawuleza into ethile: into yokudlala, imoto idlula, njl.
- Chaza kumntwana ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo akuvunyelwanga kwaye akaphenduli nhlobo. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana eqala ukugubungela phantsi, khawuleza unqume konke ukunxibelelana naye kwaye ungaphenduli nhlobo. Umntwana useburhulumenteni onjalo ukuba akukho nto iyakuthintela kuye, kuba akayi kubaphulaphula. Emva kokuba umntwana epholile, ungaqala ukusebenza.
- Unako ukuhlukanisa umntwana ngexesha elifutshane, umzekelo, ufake ekhoneni apho kungekho zixhobo, ithelevishini, uluntu. Oku kuya kuvumela umntwana ukuba ahlalise.
- Kubalulekile ukuba uhambisane nokuziphatha kwakho. Ukuba umntwana uqhuba ekhaya kwaye enganyanzelwanga, ngoko-ke imimiselo efanayo kufuneka ibe yimeko apho umntwana eqala ukumemeza kwindawo kawonkewonke. Nangona abazali bahlala benomnqweno wokuvala umlomo ngokukhawuleza okanye ukuwathabatha.
- Kubalulekile ukunika umntwana enye indlela yokuphalaza iimvakalelo zakhe: umzekelo, ukutsho ukuba xa ethukuthele, unokuthi unqabise unyawo lwakhe okanye aveze iimvakalelo zakhe "Ndiyathukuthele," "Ndibuhlungu."
Ukulwa nama-hysteric akuthathi nje amandla amaninzi kubazali, kodwa kufuneke nokuthintela okuthile, ukuzola kunye nokuzimela kwizenzo zabo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba xa abazali bezolile, ngoko umntwana ngokwakhe uzolile.