Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba azimele yena?
Abazali mabahlole imeko ngokufanelekileyo kwaye bakwazi ukufumana izigqibo ezifanelekileyo. Umbuzo wendlela yokufundisa abantwana nabantwana abaselula ukuba bazimelele ngokwabo unokubachaphazela nje abafana kuphela, kodwa kunye namantombazana. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezisisiseko:
- kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba umntwana uyashukumisa iingxabano;
- ukuba umntwana uyaphukiswa rhoqo esikolweni okanye enkulisa, kuyimfuneko ukuzisa utitshala, utitshala, njengoko unethuba lokuchaphazela imeko;
- Kwimeko apho iingxabano ziphindaphindiwe, kungcono ukucinga ngokudluliselwa kwelinye iziko;
- Kubalulekile ukukhulisa ukuzithemba komntwana kuye, ukumdumisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukumxelela ukuba ungumuntu omdala;
- ukuba umntwana akafuni ukunikela utshintsho, kuyafaneleka ukufundisa ukuxelela umoni lowo ongathandanga izenzo zakhe kwaye uyacaphuka;
- Unako ukuqikelela kunye nomntwana, indlela azikhusela ngayo ekuhlaselweni;
- ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayesaba ukuzimela, kodwa ngezinye izihlandlo baqhubeka bemelana nomnye (umzalwana omncinci, udade, intombazana eyaziwayo, entsha eklasini), ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukuzithemba kuya kwanda kunye nokwesaba kuya kuphelisa;
- ezemidlalo, ubugcisa bezobukhosi buya kunceda.
Ukuba sithetha ngomntwana omncinci, unina unako ukutsala abantwana abanobubele emdlalweni, oya kubangela ukuba umxhaphazi uthobele imithetho.
Yintoni engenakuyenza?
Abo bafuna ukuqonda indlela yokufundisa unyana okanye intombi ukuzimela, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba zeziphi iimpazamo ezifanele zigwenywe. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali baxubusha ubunzima beengxabano baze bazenzele. Ukuba umntwana akanamathinteli ngokukhethekileyo kwimeko, mhlawumbi akunakulungele ukugxila kuyo.
Musa ukuzisola rhoqo umntwana, ugxininisa indlela abanye abantwana abamshukumisayo ngayo. Oku kunokubangela ukuba izakhi kunye nokungaqiniseki. Ngesizathu esifanayo, akukho mfuneko yokugxeka ukungakwazi ukunikela utshintsho, ekuthiwa yi "rag", "sly".