Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuxilongwa kwemfundo kwenziwa esikolweni, xa isazi sezengqondo, kwaye ngezinye i-titshala utitshala, sivavanya kwaye sivavanye umntu kumbono wendlela yokuziphatha, edla ngokubhekisela kumbono othi "ukuzalisa kakuhle". Okwangoku, akukho nkqubo enye yokumisela izinga lemfundo, kodwa kukho uluhlu lwezinto ezingasetyenziselwa ukuhlalutya. Ezi ziquka:
- Uvavanyo olulula ukuba lukulungele ukulandela indlela umntu aphatha ngayo imilinganiselo, ngokukodwa njengendalo, ubuhle, umsebenzi, ukufunda, abantu kunye nobuntu bomntu.
- Ubukho beempawu ezibalulekileyo kwimpilo yoluntu yomntu, kuquka ukunyaniseka, ubuntu, ukukhuthaza, ukuziphatha, ukugcina ixesha, uxanduva, ukuhlonipha, ukuphendula, ukuqonda, njl. Imfundo yokuziphatha ngaphandle kwezi mbonakalo ayinakwenzeka.
- Imfundo yomntu isoloko ivakalelwa kwiinjongo zezenzo zakhe: kutheni umntwana enza ngale ndlela, kwaye akunjalo? Nazlo okanye ngaphandle kwesizathu esiphezulu?
- Ukuvavanywa kwendlela yokukhuliselwa kufuneka kuthathele ingqalelo iimpawu ezinjalo njengendlela yokuzibandakanya komntu jikelele-ebubi okanye entle, kuye okanye kwabanye. Ingaba umntu ulungelelanisa okanye u-egoist, ingasetyenziswa ukuhlonipha abantu, njl.
- Uhlalutyo lwenqanaba lokukhutshwa lungaqhutyelwa ngokusekelwe ekuphuhlisweni komntwana: ubunjani obuhambelana nobudala balo, ukuba lukhula njani kwiimpawu ezithile zeendlela, ukuba lilungele njani kwiimeko ezizungezile.
Ukuxilongwa kokuzalana kakuhle kwenza kube lula ukubona ebuntwaneni bomntu, oko alawulayo, imiphi imigaqo yokuziphatha kunye nemizekelo yokulingisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo ezininzi iimifanekiso zabantu ziqhutyelwa kuwo wonke umphefumlo, kwaye ukuziphatha kakubi komntwana kuya kwiingxaki ezindala kakhulu.