Abantwana bathanda ukusondelana nonina, ngoko bazive bekhuselekile. Ukubetha ngeendandatho kuyindlela elula yokubambisana, kwaye kulula kakhulu kubazali ukuba banxibe iimvumba.
Iyintoni isilingi?
Xa uqala ukubona isilingi, abaninzi bazibuza ukuba ungayisebenzisa njani ukuphatha umntwana. Emva koko, ukuyila kwayo kuyinto elula kakhulu: le mida ebanzi yomnxeba, kunye okanye ngaphandle kwamasongo. Indlela yokusebenzisa ityhini ngamacenge , kuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yomntwana kunye nesimo apho umama nomntwana bazizwa bekhululekile. Ukuba kukho kukho ukungathandeki, kuthetha, ngokungahambi kakuhle. Iiphosiso eziqhelekileyo zi:
- isalathisi iqokelelwe ehlombe, iphosa entanyeni: kufuneka ulungele umgca kwiphepha kwaye uncipha phantsi ingalo, apho umthwalo uya kuhanjiswa ngokufanayo;
- Iimpawu zecala kumqolo: kubalulekile ukulungisa zonke iintlobo, ukwenzela ukuba loo nto ifuthe njengento ephathekayo, ngoko kuya kuba akukho misonto, kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, ukuvakalelwa okungekho ngenxa yabo;
- Musa ukululela isalathisi: kufuneka ulungise izinto eziphathekayo emacongeni, kufuneka ukuba zize zize zidibene;
- intloko yesana kufuneka ilele kwicala, kwaye umzimba ugxininiswe ngokucacileyo kumama.
Isihlandlo sokuqala ukugqoka le ngxube engaqhelekanga kwimbono yokuqala, kunzima, kodwa kuya kuba lula.
Kubuphi umda ukubethelwa ngeesongo ezisebenzisiweyo?
Isalathisi esifakwe ngokufanelekileyo kwindawo yokulala isifanele iintsana ukusuka kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi. Into ephambili kukuba isalathisi kufuneka ihlale phantsi phantsi komzimba womntwana, intloko ibekwe phezu kwayo, kwaye ukubethelwa kwaqina. Kunconywa ukuba usana olusanda kuzalwa, njengoko umntwana engakwazi ukufumana ukufudumala komama aze ahlale naye rhoqo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, xa kunikezelwe ukuba umama ulungele ukubeka umntwana kuloo mntwana, kuba ngokusoloko ukwesabisayo kubazali abancinci ukuba bathathe intsana, kwaye nangakumbi bafaka kwindawo ethile. Ukuba kukhwankqisayo, ngoko-ke unomntwana onokuyilinda kwaye ulinde.
Elinye iphuzu elibalulekileyo: ukuphuhliswa okuchanekileyo kwemisipha yomgudu womntwana kunye nomthwalo ofanayo kumva kamama, kufuneka udlulise elinye ihlombe, eligqoke kwisibetho. Oko kukuthi, awukwazi ukuwugqoka kuphela kwicala lasekunene okanye langasekhohlo, isikhundla somntwana kufuneka sitshintshwe.
Ukubethelela ngeesondlo eziza kutshatyalaliswa kukuvumela ukuba uhambe ngokuhamba, uzifihle ekuhloleni amehlo. Ukuba i-crumb ilambile, kukulungele ukuyondla, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ifihla umsila, oko kukuthi, umda walo okhululekile.
Kuze kube yiphi iminyaka yokugqoka isilingi kunye namacenge, kuxhomekeke kumva kamama ngendlela engokoqobo. Izindonga zilungisa ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye ukuba loo nto ibomelele, inokumelana nomntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Oko kungenakutshiwo malunga nabazali babo. Nangona umntwana oneminyaka engama-50 ubudala angakwazi ukulinganisa ngokwaneleyo ukwenzela ukuba umqhubi abe yizothutho ezifanelekileyo kakhulu kuye. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana ugqitywe kwiminyaka eyi-1-1.5, kodwa ukuba ikulungele kwaye akunzima kumama (okanye uyise), umntwana unokugqithisa ixesha elide.
Ukufakela izikhundla ngeesongo
Ngokudla kaninzi umntwana ugqoke:
- ukulungelelanisa kwindawo yokulala, efanelekileyo kwiintsana okanye abantwana abalalayo;
- ngokuqinisekileyo kumama kamama, iziqhekeza ezincinane kakhulu ziya kuziva;
- kumlenze womama, umntwana akayi kukhululeka kuphela, kodwa unomdla, kuba uya kukwazi ukuqwalasela yonke into;
- emva komnye wabazali, umntwana uya kuba nomdla ukugcina oko kwenzekayo.
Enye into efanelekileyo: ukuba i-crumb yalala kwindawo ebonakalayo, kulula ukubeka, ukutshintsha isikhundla kwindawo yokulala. Kwakhona, shenxisa i-sling kunye nomntwana olele, velisa nje ingcongolo ngaphezu kwembombo.
Ingaba ukubethelwa ngamacenge kuyadingeka kuxhomekeke kwindlela elula ngayo ukuba umama athathe umqhubi kunye naye, ukhetho lomntwana kwaye ulungele ukuchitha ixesha elithile ukuba ufunde indlela yokuyisebenzisa. Kubaluleke kakhulu kunina oomabini ababantwana abanomncinane weminyaka. Nangona omncinci elele kumama wakhe, unokudlala kunye nomdala, mthabathe kwisitrato okanye uhambe nje epakini.