Yingakho bonke abazali ngokukhawuleza bathathe isigqibo sokuba bangabhinqa abantwana babo ngaphambi kokulala, nangona kunjalo, babhekana nobunzima obuninzi. Ingane, elalilele ixesha elide kuphela ngoncedo lwale ndlela, ayiqondi nje indlela umntu angalala ngayo ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Abantwana abasandul 'ukuzalwa banomdla kakhulu kunoma yikuphi utshintsho ebomini babo, ngoko ke, izinto ezinjalo zabazali, ziyakwazi ukudibana.
Abaninzi abanomdla nabanomdla nabantwana abanako ukunyamezela ngokukhawuleza kunye nokukhala kade umntwana wabo, okwenzekayo xa bezama ukumbeka elele ngaphandle kokugula, kwaye ngoko ke baqala ukukwenza kwakhona, njengangaphambili. Okwangoku, kufuneka kucaciswe ukuba kwixesha elizayo kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu ukuguqula umntwana, nangona kunjalo, njengokuba uyamncedisa kule nkqubo inzima.
Kule nqaku, siya kukuxelela indlela yokubeka umntwana ozelwe usana ukuba alele ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, kungekhona ukumbangela ukukhathazeka kwengqondo, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ukufezekisa ukulala okufanelekileyo kunye nokunciphisa kakhulu umthwalo kwisantya kunye nomshulokeli wenkqubo yomama oselula.
Indlela yokubeka abantwana ukuba balele ngaphandle kokugula kwesifo?
Okokuqala, kufuneka udale ukulandelana kwemigaqo ethile, ngoncedo apho i-crumb ingaqonda ukuba ixesha lokulala liza. Ngoko, umzekelo, unokwenza ukululaza okulula okulula ngokuhlwa, ngexesha elifanayo, uze uncelise i-formula okanye utshintshe olukhethekileyo, uze utshintshe ama-pajamas, ufunde i-fairy tale okanye ucule i- lullaby, ukuze umntwana ahambe ngokulala.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngexesha lokuqala isenzo sokugqibela kuya kufuneka senziwe ngexesha elifanayo kunye nokugula kwesigxina, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe ukubaluleka kwesi sigaba kuya kuncipha. Xa umntwana eqala ukubopha zonke ezinye izithethe ngokulala, ukunyakaza okuzenzekelayo kungakhishwa.
Nceda uqaphele ukuba ukuba wenze isigqibo esinjalo, akufanele ubaleke kuso. Ngaphandle koko, uya kubeka umntwana wakho kwinqanaba, kuba akayi kuqonda ukuba ufuna ntoni kuye, kwaye uya kukhwankqiswa. Musa ukwesaba ukukhala nokunyanzela kwonyana wakho okanye intombi yakho, kuba awuyikumphoqa ukuba enze into engenakwenzeka. Ukuzilalisa ngokulala kukuyinkqubo engokwemvelo efikelelekayo kunoma yimuphi umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uneminyaka engakanani.
Njengomthetho, iinzame zokuqala zokubeka iimvumba zokulala ngale ndlela zithatha ixesha elide. Ukuba umntwana wakho unzima ukuchasana ngaphezu kwemizuzu engama-50-60, phinda uphinde ubuyekelele ukulala. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukubeka umntwana ukuba alele ngaphandle kokugula, ekugqibeleni kuya kuphumelela, kwaye umntwana wakho akayi kulala kuphela, kodwa uya kulala kakhulu kunokuba ngaphambili.
Uninzi lwabazali baqala "ukuhlaziya" unyana okanye intombi yabo ngokuhlwa, xa iziqu zomzimba sele zithele kwaye zivelisa i-hormones yokulala. Yingakho iinzame zokuhlwa ezijolise ekuphuhliseni ngokubambisana kwezakhono ezintsha ziya kuba zivelisa kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, xa umntwana efunda ukulala ngokwalo ngokuhlwa, qiniseka ukuba umqhelisele kulolu suku nangomhla. Ukwenza oku kunokuba nzima nakakhulu, kodwa ke unako ukuzisa iimfuno zakho ezintsha kumntwana.