Ngamnye uguqulela igama elithi "ubumbano" ngendlela yalo. Kubani umntu uyinkxaso, uncedo, umntu ukholelwa ukuba kulufanele ukuqonda oku njengentsebenziswano eyakhelwe kakuhle. Abaninzi banamathenga egama elithi "umanyano wabantu." Kwaye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuzwakala buhlungu kangakanani, kodwa ukudibanisa, okuhambelana nesondo esilungileyo, sidibana nexesha elingaphantsi, okanye akukho nto. Masizame ukuqonda oko kubambisana kwabesifazane.
Ukubambisana kwabasetyhini kuyinto ekhethekileyo enegunya elinamandla xa amantombazana ebumbana. Ngenxa yoko, kukho iinqununu okanye ama-scandals. Kukholelwa ukuba ukudibanisa kwabasetyhini kuluphawu kuphela lwe-muzhenenavistnitsam. Ezinye iziganeko ziqinisekisa ukuba umanyano wesifazane ukhona xa abahlobo abasondeleyo befuna ukukhuselwa omnye komunye ngaphambi kokuba amadoda okanye abo baqabane. Oku, mhlawumbi, kuthathwa njengecala elikhethekileyo, xa ubuhlobo besetyhini bungasongelwa ukutshatyalaliswa. Kodwa oku kude kufike ixesha apho abahlobo bababhinqa abaqala ukukhangela amaqabane, ukuze, behlulekile ukwahlula umthandi phakathi kwabo, baxabana. Kwaye kunzima ukubiza uxhamlwano.
Ukubambisana kwabasetyhini kunye nentsebenziswano yamadoda, eneenkcazo ezahlukeneyo kunye neengcambu. Ezi ngcamango ezimbini azifanelekanga ukuthelekisa. Ndikhumbule ukufanisa okukrakra ngokuphendula oku:
- Kwimeko yokubambisana kwabasetyhini: umfazi, ongazange alale ubusuku ekhaya, uya kuchaza oku ngokuthi uthe wachitha ubusuku nomhlobo. Xa umyeni eqala ukubethela intombi zakhe, ngoko ngokuphendula kuwo wonke umntu uya kuva ukuba akanalo.
- Ukubambisana kwamadoda kuya kubonakala ngale ndlela: emva kokuba umfazi abize zonke izihlobo zomyeni wakhe, ekugqibeleni uyakuva oko: wonke umntu uqinisekisile ukuba wayelele nabo kunye abathathu baya kubika ukuba uyabavakashela.
Lo ngumzekelo ocacileyo woluphi uncedo oluhlangeneyo phakathi kwabasetyhini namadoda. Indoda isoloko ilungele ukunika "isandla sokuncedisa" kwaye oku kungenxa yokuba kwinqanaba elincinci lizama ukuzithengisa ngokwabo ngoncedo lwaba bantu ababafihlile ngexesha elifanelekileyo kubo.
Ngaloo ndlela, ukudibanisa kwabasetyhini kuza kuhlala kukho,
Ukufingqa, ndingathanda ukuthetha ukuba "ukubambisana" kuhambelana noluntu. Kuphela banokukunceda omnye nomnye ngokungenabugovu, njengabashayeli, ukuncedana kwiimeko ezifanayo. Kwaye akusiyo iphoso labesetyhini, ukucinga nje ngamadoda nabasetyhini ahluke kancinci, nto leyo ibangela ukuqonda okuhlukeneyo "ubumbano".