Kukho amaxesha apho uxolo nothando kwintsapho luqhubeka lude luze lube ngumntwana. Kodwa apha umntwana omdala osalindelwe, omnandi, omnene, ofudumeleyo wazalelwa, kwaye umfazi, owezolo kunye neyure eyongezelelweyo akakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwintanda yakhe, ngokuxhalabisa ukuba emva kokubeletha kuyeke ukuthanda umyeni wakhe. Yonke into ayithanda ngayo ukulungele ukunika umntwana, kwaye yena, okwakusandul 'uqobo nje into eyona nto ebalulekileyo ebomini bakhe, ubangela ukucaphukisa nje, kwaye nokuba nompembelelo wakhe uya kuba mnandi kakhulu. Kutheni oku kwenzeka, kunye nento enokuyenza ngayo, kuba sikhuluma ngokulondolozwa kwentsapho kunye nentlalo-ntle?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ingcinga yokuba umfazi osemncinci uyekile ukumthanda umyeni wakhe emva kokuzalwa komntwana kuyinto yesikhashana: uyaqonda indima entsha kumama, kwaye oku akufunanga ixesha kuphela, kodwa nokuqonda kwinqanaba leengqondo. Emva kwexeshana, yonke into izakuwela; Kubalulekile ukuba iqabane liqonde imeko yomfazi wayo, ukuba lihlale linyamekela kwaye linyamezele kwaye libe nomonde, oza kuvuzwa ngokukhawuleza.
Enye into xa kuvela ingxaki enkulu: umfazi wayemthanda umyeni wakhe emva kokungcatsha kwakhe. Ukuba ngaphambi kokuba loo ntsapho ihlala, njengoko bethetha, umphefumlo emphefumlweni, ukuba umfazi wayemthanda umyeni wakhe kwaye wamthemba, ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukunyaniseka kuyabonakala, kwaye kunzima ukuyihambisa. Nangona kunjalo, kwimeko enzima kakhulu kunendlela yokuphuma. Fumana akulula, ngoko ke ukuba umfazi engamthandi umyeni wakhe kwaye engakwazi ukuba yenzeni, icebiso lengqondo luza kunceda ukufumana isigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Yintoni umcebisi weengqondo ecebisa?
- Musa ukukhawulela umnyango: qala ukuzola, ngenxa yokuba i-hysteria ayincedisi kule meko kwaye ukhumbule okulungileyo malunga nobomi bakho kunye. Kwaye, nangona intlungu kunye nentukuthelo, cinga malunga nokuba ufanelekile ukubulala ebomini bakho ukukhanya okukubophayo.
- Ngaba konke kubi kangaka? Emva koko, akukho mntu ufile, intloko, iingalo, imilenze - kwindawo leyo, oko kuthetha ukuba kukho indlela yokuphuma.
- Ungakhange ufune ukuqinisekiswa kotywala - ayikho.
- Thembeka wena: ziphendule wena, uyayithanda indoda yakho. Yaye ukuba impendulo ilungile, mxolele, unyuke ngaphezu kokuthotywa, iinyembezi nentukuzelo . Kodwa ukuba uxolele, musa ukuhlambalaza kwaye ungakhumbuli ngawo onke amathuba.