Isidleke seentsapho ezinokuthula? Akunakwenzeka, inokwenzeka ukuba, intsimi, apho ukuvunwa kugcwele khona. Ukupheka, ukuhlamba, ukucoceka, amalungu entsapho ayiboni ukuba kuyimfuneko nokuba bahlambele indebe. Imeko eqhelekileyo? Ingxaki yokwabela iimbopheleleko kwintsapho ayiyintsha, ezininzi izibini ezinabantwana kunye ngaphandle kobunzima zifumana isisombululo kule meko. Xa kuziwa kumalungelo e-alimony kunye neemfanelo zamalungu entsapho, zinokunyanzeliswa ngeenkundla, kwaye yintoni enokuthi yenziwe ngemicimbi yendlu? Awuyi kumela ngesibhambathiso ngaphezu komntu wonke, unyanzelekile ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yasemakhaya.
Indlela yokuhambisa iimbopheleleko kwintsapho?
Ewe, kukho iindwendwe apho amalungelo kunye nemisebenzi yamalungu awo asasazwa ngokwawo, akukho mfuneko yokuba nayiphi na imizamo yokuseka umyalelo endlwini. Kodwa iimanyano ezinjalo azikho rhoqo, kwaye akulula ukuba abantu ababini bavumelane malunga nabani ofumana udoti ngosuku, kwaye xa kubonakala abantwana, imeko ayikho ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa iindlela zokuphuma kwixesha leengxaki zikhona, zikho iindlela ezimbalwa zokwabelana ngemithwalo kwintsapho, kufuneka ukhethe enye efanelekileyo ngakumbi kwintsapho yakho ngokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha.
- Unokuhamba kwindlela yokuncincila - yenza yonke into, ngeveki enye iveki.
- Kukho uhlobo oluthile lolwahlulo lwendabuko kwintsapho - umfazi ekhaya uxakeke, umyeni ufumana imali. Ayikho into embi, xa indoda yintloko yentsapho, udonga lwamatye, umkhuseli kunye ne-getter. Kodwa loo myalelo awunakwenzeka ukuhambelana neentsapho apho iqabane elilawulayo okanye elilinganayo lilawula.
- Ukuba umfazi wakha umsebenzi kwaye uvelisa inxalenye enkulu yobume bohlahlo lwabiwo-mali, kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba akupheli ixesha lokupheka nokucoca. Kule meko, kukho iindlela ezimbini kuphela - umyeni uba ngumfazi wendlu okanye umsebenzi wendlu
abelwe umsebenzi. - Ngokulingana kwintsapho (oko kukuthi, ukhuseleko lwezinto eziphathekayo luhlala kumahlombe abo bobabini bomtshato), kwaye iimbopheleleko kufuneka zihlulwe ngokulinganayo. Vumela wonke umntu kwintsapho enze oko akunako kwaye akwazi. Ukupheka kufuneka kube nguye owaziyo ukwenza oko, wonke umntu unokuhlamba izitya (ngaphandle kwabantwana abancinci kunye nezigulane ezisebhedini), unokuthatha inxaxheba ekuhlambeni nasekhulile abantwana kunye nomyeni.
Xoxa ngebhunga lentsapho umcimbi wokusasazwa kwemisebenzi, nje ungavumelani nenceba kwakhona ukuba uphathe yonke into yokukhathalela ekhaya.