Ubomi bokwenene, ngokubhekiselele kubantwana abancinci, abanamava kuphela onothando kunye nothando, kodwa kunye nokuxhalaba, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha nokucatshukiswa. Amaphupha apho umncinci acinga ukuba nawo anentsingiselo emininzi. Yingakho ukutolika kuyimfuneko ukuzama ukukhumbula ezinye iinkcukacha zesalathiso ezibonwayo, kunye nomthwalo wemvakalelo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, qwa lasela oko inkunzi ebonakalayo, ukuba yena nawe wenza kwaye wazizwa. Konke oku kwenza ukuba ukwazi ukufumana ingcaciso echanileyo kunye nenyaniso.
Kutheni umntwana ephupha?
Iincwadi ezininzi eziphuphayo ziyavuma ukuba iphupha elinjalo lihle. Kwixesha elizayo elisondeleyo, kufuneka ugxininise onke amandla akho kwaye ukholelwe kwimiphumo emihle, kuphela kule meko ungathembela ekuzalweni komntwana. Ukuba inkwenkwe encinci ibonakala ephupheni, iyinxalenye yeenguqu kwizinto eziphathekayo. Ngokukodwa oku kuthethwa ngenyani, ukuba iphupha yayilo busuku ukususela ngoLwesine ukuya kuLwesihlanu. Kwinye yeencwadi zokuphupha, inkwenkwe encinci iyisimo seengxaki kunye neengxaki ezihlukeneyo. Ukuphupha umntwana omncinane njengentombazana, ngoko unokulindela utshintsho kwisicwangciso sengqondo. Kukho nolwazi lokuba iphupha elinjalo lithembisa ukulahleka.
Ukukhawuleza ngentsana ephupheni kuthetha ukuba kungekudala uza kufuneka uthathe inxaxheba kumsebenzi wasesidlangalaleni, ekugqibeleni awuyi kuzisa ukwaneliseka kokuziphatha kuphela, kodwa kunye nenzuzo yenyama. Kubasetyhini abaselula, eli phupha liyingqungquthela yokukhohlisa okukhulu. Iphupha apho umntwana omncinci wayesesandleni sakhe sisilumkiso seengxaki ekuphunyezweni kwezicwangciso. Kusenokuba ngumqondiso wokuba kungekudala kuya kubakho ukufumana umsebenzi omhle ngomvuzo ophezulu. Ngamantombazana, ibali elinjalo lithembisa ukukhulelwa. Ukuba kwakufuneka ugcine umntwana ogulayo esandleni sakho - oku kuwuphawu olubi, uqikelele amava ayenzileyo. Ukuba le nkwenkwe yayingumphambukeli, iphupha linokuqwalaselwa njengesilumkiso sokuba abanye abantu bayakufuna ukusebenzisa inzuzo yakho.
Kuba umfazi onomntwana omdala uphupha ngomntwana omncinci, unobungozi beengxaki ezintle, mhlawumbi, kungekudala kuya kubakho intlanganiso kunye nabadlali bezemidlalo. Ukuba umntwana wasesitulo sabakhubazekile - lo luphawu olubonisa ubukho bezakwabo abathembekileyo nabani na ixesha baya kuhlangula, kwaye banike iingcebiso ezilungileyo. Iphupha, apho umphuphi ngokwakhe wayekhwele umntwana kwi-stroller, uyinxalenye yokuhamba okuthakazelisayo. Ndaphupha ukuba kufuneka ndihlambe abantwana abancinci, ngoko ningakhathazeki, kuba ngamaxesha anzima kuya kwenzeka ukuba wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Kwanjalo iphupha elinjalo libonisa ukukhohlisa. Inkwenkwe ehambayo iprofeta iingxaki kunye neentengiso zabantu abakujikelezile. Umbono ebusuku, apho umntwana omncinci wayekhala ngokukhawuleza, uthembisa iingxaki ezincinane kunye neengxaki. Ukuba umntwana waqala ukuhamba ephupheni, kuyinconywa ukuba akufanele uphulaphule abanye abantu kungekudala.
Kubafazi, umbono wobusuku, owamanga umntwana, ubonisa ukuba kuya kubakho ukugcina ubumnandi nobutsha kwiminyaka emininzi. Ukuba umntwana omncinci ungumphupha ngokwakhe, oku kuyimpawu yokuba kuzakufuneka kwenziwe iinzame ezininzi ukunqoba zonke iingxaki. Umbono ebusuku, apho umntwana omncinci ofile eqikelelwe, uthembisa ukuzinza kwezinto, ezixhomekeke kwinqanaba lezinto eziphathekayo. Kwincwadi enye yokuphupha, ibali liyisixwayiso sokuba akufanele wenze izigqibo zokukhawuleza, njengoko oku kungabangela iingxaki ezininzi.