Ephupheni, umntu uchitha ixesha elininzi efumana iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezinjengezinto eziyinyaniso. Iingcali zengqondo zithi amaphupha adibanisa phakathi kwengqondo kunye nengqiqo, kwaye ngokuchazwa ngokuchanekileyo umntu unokufunda izinto ezininzi ezinomdla. Abasetyhini bahlala bethemba abaguquli bephupha, kuba banengqondo. Iphupha apho indoda ethandekayo isesandleni somnye umfazi kunokukhokelela ekubhukukeni kwaye kubangele ukwesaba. Ungethuki kusengaphambili, kufuneka udibanise kunye kwaye ufunde ngokukhawuleza oko kwenzeka. Yintoni ekuthethwa ngokuqinisekileyo kukuba emva kokuba iphupha elinjalo kubalulekile ukuhlaziya ngokutsha ubuhlobo kunye nomthandayo.
Kutheni ufuna ukuphuka umyeni wakhe?
Iphupha lokunyaniseka lingabonakalisa iimvakalelo zakho kunye namava ngokwenene, mhlawumbi uye wanikezela ukuba umyeni uhamba "ngakwesobunxele" okanye umona ogqithiseleyo ufumene wena kunye nephupha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukugwenxa kuyisimboli sokukrakra kunye neengxabano, kungekhona kuphela kumlingane, kodwa kunye nezihlobo, oogxa kunye nabahlobo. Zama ngeli xesha ukuzola kunye nokuxazulula ngokukhawuleza zonke iingxaki ngaphandle kokukhokelela kwizinto ezimbi.
Ngaloo mbono ebusuku ungakuxelela ukuba ebomini boqobo kukho utshintsho, oluqaliswe ngumyeni wakho. Kungenokwenzeka ukuba awufuni ukuwamkela kwaye uphambene nentando yakho. Olunye uguqulelo lokuba kutheni amaphupha indoda yakhe yokukopela iya kukuxelela ukuba okwangoku uqalise ukuphumeza isicwangciso, kodwa ngelo xesha uzinikezele, kwaye ungakhange uqwalasele iinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo, kwaye oku kunokuchaphazela umphumo.
Kweminye yeencwadi zokuphupha kukho ulwazi lokuba iphupha lokukhohlakala luphawu lokuba uza kutshutshiswa ngokukhawuleza umthetho, kodwa loo nto iya kuba yinto engabalulekanga, kodwa i-remnant remnant will remain. Ukuba ubona ukuba umntu ukopela nomhlobo luphawu lokutshatyalaliswa kwamathemba akho. Umcebisi wephupha ucebisa ukuba atshintshe isimo sakhe sengqondo kumlingani wakhe, abe nomusa kwaye axolele iimpazamo zakhe ezincinci, oku kuya kumnceda ukuba akwazi ukujamelana neengxaki kunye novuyo. Ukuba kuwe, amaphupha, ukuba umyeni utshintsha rhoqo, mhlawumbi, unqwenela ukufumana okanye uqale isimo sengqondo okanye ulwalamano kwiqela okanye kwicala kwaye uhlale ucinga ngako okanye oku.
Unokufumana ulwazi lokuba iphupha lokuguquka libangelwa lixhala lenu, elivakalayo ngenxa yecala ngenxa yesenzo. Oku kungasetyenziswa kwi-infidelity kuwo onke, kodwa indoda ingakwazi ukuphendula kakubi oko kwenzekayo. Iphupha lokunyaniseka linokuchazwa ngokuchaseneyo, mhlawumbi kwikamva elikufutshane phakathi kwakho kunye neqabane lakho ubuhlobo buya kuba bufudumele kwaye bube buqotho.
Ukuba uvuka ekuseni, ungayifumana into oyibonayo, kwiinkcukacha ezincinci - kuyisilumkiso sokuba ngobomi benene kufuneka uqaphele abantu abasondeleyo, kuba banokukuhlazisa. Xa umyeni wam wayefuna ukutshintsha, kodwa ngexesha elithile watshintsha ingqondo yakhe, luphawu lokuba zonke iingxaki ziya kudlula.
Kutheni iphupha lomfazi wayo?
Ukuba umthandi womthandi ungumhlobo osondeleyo, incwadi yephupha iyancoma ukuba ungayithobeli ingqalelo kumyeni wakhe, kodwa kuye.
Kutheni ufuna ukuphupha malunga nendoda yakhe yamshiya?
Ukuba ephusheni iqabane liye lavuma ukuba utshintshile kwaye uya kuhamba-le ngqungquthela ikunika inkcazo yokuba ingxaki sele ifikelele kulwalamano kwaye iphupha liyakwenzeka. Musa ukukhathazeka, usenalo ithuba lokulungisa yonke into kwaye udale ubudlelwane, konke kusezandleni zakho.