Sonke sele sidlulile kwiingxaki zobutsha. Kodwa kuphela ngokuba ngabazali, sinokuqonda ngokupheleleyo umthwalo opheleleyo wale xesha lobomi. Omnye uloyiko lokuba umntwana wakhe angena kwinkampani embi, umntu utyhafiswa ngumntu okhuselekileyo okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuziphatha okungenamdla komntwana. Amava abantwana abenza ukuba singene kwi-psychology yabaselula, kwaye sifune iindlela zokusombulula iingxaki zabo. Nangona kunjalo, ungamangaliswa ukuba umntwana uyalahla uncedo lwakho: ekufikeni komntwana, zonke iingcebiso, ngakumbi kubantu abadala, zibonwa "ngendlela enobubi."
Ukuncedisa umntwana osemtsha ukuba anqobe ubunzima, umntu kufuneka agcine engqondweni kwiindidi zeengqondo zobuntu bakhe ngeli xesha. Makhe sibone ukuba zeziphi iingqondo zengqondo kunye nezobubele zentsha kunye nokuba kutheni le nto yenzeka.
Impawu zeengqondo zabaselula
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba isimo sengqondo sabantwana abaneminyaka eyi-11 ukuya kwimizuzu engama-15 sinokutshintsha rhoqo. Oku kubangelwa ukuvuselelwa kwe-hormones yomzimba womntwana, osukulungele ukuba ngumdala. Kwaye akukho nto ibamangalisa kukuba ezi zinguqu zichaphazela i-psyche-le ndawo yindawo ekhuselekileyo, "i-Achilles" isithende "nawuphi na umntu. Iingcali zengqondo zihlukanisa ezi zilandelayo zintlobo zengqondo yengqondo yabaselula:
- umsebenzi - ukungahambi;
- ukunyaniseka - ukunganakwa;
- uvuyo - ukuvinjelwa;
- uxinzelelo - ukukhululwa;
- uloyiko luvuyo;
- ukuzimisela - ukudideka;
- ithemba liza kutshabalaliswa;
- uxhalabo - ukuthula;
- Ukuzithemba kukuzithemba.
Nangona iimeko zengqondo zichasene, kwiintsholongwane ziyakutshintsha kwaye zitshintshe ixesha elifutshane. Njengoko kwathiwa ngasentla, kubangelwa isiqhwithi se-hormonal kwaye sinokuba ngumntu onempilo, umntwana oqhelekileyo. Ngoku unako ukuthetha nawe ngendlela enobubele, kwaye emibini imizuzu - vala kuwe okanye ulungiselele isityholo uze ushiye, udibanise umnyango. Kwaye oko akusiyo imbangela yokuxhalabisa, kodwa kuphela ukuhluka okuqhelekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, loo miqathango ibangelwa ukuziphatha komntwana kule minyaka, igalelo ekwakheni izakhiwo ezihambelana nomlinganiso (ukuphakama okuphezulu okanye okuphantsi, ukuxhalaba okanye ukuvuya, ithemba okanye ukungathembeki, njl njl), kwaye oku kuya kuphazamisa ubomi bakhe bonke.
Izindlela zokulawula kunye nokuzilawula kweengqondo zentsholongwane
Iingcebiso eziqhelekileyo kubazali bomntwana osemncinane kukuba 'basinde', banyamezele ngeli xesha. Enyanisweni, umntwana onempilo uyakwazi ukunqoba ubunzima obuvela kuye. Abazali bafanele babe novelwano kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo kwaye bangaba kunye noqinileyo kunexesha eliqhelekileyo. Ngokuchaseneyo, kulula ukuphatha umntwana wakho okhulayo, kuya kuba lula ukwenza ubuhlobo nawe. Hlaziya imigaqo yakho kwintsebenziswano "umzali-umntwana", ncokola naye ukuba kungengamanani alinganayo, ngoko ubuncinane njengokuba ulingana nawe. Khumbula ukuba ngeli xesha umntwana usengozini kakhulu, nangona engabonakali. Kwaye kufuneka aqonde ukuba abazali bahlala ecaleni kwakhe, ukuba akaye wedwa kwaye xa kukho iingxaki oza kuzifumana kuyo nayiphi na imeko
Ukuba kuyimfuneko, unganqikazi ukufuna iingcebiso kwisifo sengqondo seengcali ezinengxaki zentsha , kwaye xa kukho iingxaki ezinzulu, kwi-psychiatrist ofanelekileyo.
Bazali abathandekayo! Musa ukulibala ukuba kufuneka uqulunqe ulwalamano oluthembekileyo nomntwana wakho, uqale kwasebuncinaneni. Oku kuya kuthintela iingxaki ezininzi kwixesha elivisayo.