Indlela yokunciphisa inzala?

Xa indoda nomfazi baba ngabazali abonwabileyo, bambalwa abantu bacinga ukuba ubomi babo bentsapho, buzaliswa ngumntu omtsha, baya kuvuya. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba umntu akawufezekisi umsebenzi wakhe kumntwana kwaye umama uqala ukuzibuza ukuba angamnciphisa uyise kayise womntwana.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, ibhinqa ihambisa imibhalo emva kokuqhawula umtshato ukususa lo mntu ebomini, ngokukodwa ukuba uyayifaka ukuzalisekisa izibophelelo zabazali. Ngaphambi kokulahla ububele bomyeni wangaphambili, kuyimfuneko ukuqokelela zonke iintlobo zobungqina obhaliweyo malunga nokungakwazi kwakhe ukuhlala uyise wengane.

Indlela yokunciphisa ubaba emva komtshato?

Kwindawo ye-post yaseSoviet yamazwe e-CIS, inqubo efanayo yokunyanzelwa kwamalungelo omntu kwamkelwa. Nazi izizathu eziqwalaselwa yinkantolo:

1. Ukungalunganga / unyango olubi lomntwana. Oku akubandakanyi nje ubundlobongela emzimbeni kuphela, kodwa nokuziphatha okanye ukuzimisela kwisebe xa eyazi ngobudlova ukusuka kwelinye icala, kodwa akazange athathe inyathelo.
2. Ukukhusela ngokusesikweni ukusuka ekukhulisweni komntwana, ngokungabalulekanga ebomini bakhe.
3. Utywala obunxilisayo kunye nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi.
4. Ukusebenza (ngokomzimba, ngokwesondo) ngokumalunga nomntwana.
5. Ikhefu lingaxhaswanga ixesha elide, elibangelwa yimiphumo emibi.

Okokuqala, umfazi kufuneka afake isicelo kummeli oza kukuxelela ukuba yimaphi amaxwebhu okuza kukuqokelela, kwaye unokunceda ukubhala isitatimenti sesibango. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukuba ibhale inkxaso yeenkonzo zentlalo, eyakha ngokusemthethweni inkohlakalo yokunyuka komzali kwimisebenzi yakhe.

Ngaphambi kokuba ulahlekelwe ngumzali, ukuba akukho ntlawulo ye-alimony evela kuye, kufuneka ufake ifowuni kwi-ofisi yomtshutshisi ukubuyisela ityala kumntwana womntwana. Ukuba ishishini alihambeli kwiziko elifileyo phakathi kweenyanga ezintandathu, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo inkundla yenza isigqibo esilungileyo kwaye kukho ukunyanzelwa kwamalungelo omzali, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuya kuba kukho ityala okanye kungenjalo.

Akuyena wonke umntu owaziyo ukuba kunokwenzeka yini ukunqanda ububele bomyeni womntu kunye nendlela yokwenza ngayo. Inkqubo ifana nomtshato osemthethweni. Umama kufuneka abonise ukuba uyise onobomi, obhalwe kwisatifikethi sokuzalwa, akasithathi inxaxheba ekuphatheni umntwana wakhe.