Ukudalwa kweseli yentlalo kubandakanya ukuvela kweemfanelo ezine zomthetho ezandisa ukwanda kwabantwana. Ukunyuswa kwamalungelo omzali kayise kunye / okanye umama, izizathu kunye nezizathu zazo eziboniswe kwinqanaba likaRhulumente, lelinye lala ma-subspecies. Le milinganiselo iyona mkhulu kwaye iyodwa, kwaye injongo yayo kukukhusela amalungelo abantwana bethu. Kude kwindoda nganye esitalatini iyazi into efunyanwa ngamalungelo omzali. Kwaye ingxamiseko yale ngxaki ikhula, kuba abantwana, ngelishwa, ngokuya kuba "isixhobo" sokungabikho kwemilinganiselo yokuqhawula umtshato. Ngokwendlela, oku kudla ngokuba kunjalo ngabantu abaneziqhamo nabacebileyo.
Izizathu
Yonke imiqathango kunye nezizathu ezibandakanya ukunyanzelwa kwamalungelo omzali zichazwe kumsebenzi oqhelekileyo (eyona nto yiNkcazo yoMndeni). Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba oku kungabangela ukuziphatha okungekho mthethweni komzali, nangokungasebenzi kwakhe.
Uluhlu, olubeka zonke iintlobo zezenzo ezingekho mthethweni kunye nokuziphatha okuyisiseko sokunyanzelwa kwamalungelo omzali, kubandakanya imihlathi emithandathu:
- Ukusasazeka (kubandakanywa nenkohlakalo) ekufezeni imisebenzi yomzali . Abazali abaziboni ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuba banakekele rhoqo ukukhuliswa kakuhle kwabantwana, uphuhliso lwabo, impilo kunye noqeqesho. Ukongezelela, esi sihlomelo silandela kwaye ngokungabikho kokubonelela ngokwaneleyo komntwana kunye neenzuzo zekhaya ngaphandle kwezizathu ezifanelekileyo. Ukuba ngaba abatshatileyo sele baqhawule umtshato, kwaye omnye wabo kufuneka ahlawulwe ngenkxaso yabantwana, ngoko ukungahlawulwanga kwabo kunye nesiseko sokunqongophala kwamalungelo omzali.
- Ukukhanyela komntwana kwikhaya lokubeleka okanye kwezinye iziko lonyango, lemfundo okanye likarhulumente. Kodwa kule meko, izizathu eziyinyani zihlala ziqwalaselwa. Ukuba i-crumb ine-physical and (okanye) yengqondo ye-pathologies kwaye ibekwe kwiziko lokukhuselwa kwezenhlalakahle, akukho sizathu sokunyanzelwa kwamalungelo omzali.
- Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kwamalungelo. Ukuba umama nobaba basebenzisa amalungelo abo ngokubhekiselele kwiminqweno yomntwana, kufuneka bahlulwe ngamalungelo. Ngokuphathelele ekudaleni indalo yemimiselo kwimfundo, ukukhuthazwa kobuhenyu, ukuxilwa kweziyobisi, ukusela utywala, ukunyathela, ukucela nokunye.
- Ubukho bengxelo yonyango malunga nokugula komzali kunye nokulutha okanye utywala. Lo mhlaba wokunyuswa kwamalungelo ngowona oqhelekileyo. Umntu omncinci akanakukwazi ukuphuhlisa ngokugcwele ukuba umoya owenziwe ngumoya ungadalwa kwintsapho, ngenxa yokuba ininzi ixesha elinyanzeliswayo ukuzibonelela. Ukongeza, kwimeko yokuxhatshazwa, abantu abanjalo bahlala bebeka ingozi eyona kubantwana babo.
- Ukuphathwa kakubi kunye nogonyamelo. Ukubetha, ukusongelwa rhoqo, ukunyanzelwa kokuziphatha, ukuzama ukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesondo, ukuxhaphaza, ukuthotywa kunye nokunyaniseka - konke oku kukunciphisa
Amalungelo omzali abangela. Izahlwayo ezifanayo zilandelayo emva kokusebenzisa kwinkqubo yemfundo imithetho engamkelekanga eyonakalisa ukukhula okwaneleyo komntwana. Kwaye nangona lo mthetho awuphelelanga: ezinye izenzo zikhokelela ekuqalisweni kwecala lolwaphulo-mthetho ngabazali! - Ukwenza ulwaphulo-mthetho (ngokucetywayo) olubhekiselele kwimpilo okanye ubomi bomnye umlingane okanye umntwana. Oku akubandakanyi nje ukubulawa kunye nokubetha, kodwa nokuxhatshazwa, ukuzisa umntwana ngenzame yokuzibulala kunye nezinye izenzo ezingekho mthethweni.
Izizathu zokulahla abazali ngamalungelo abo zinzulu kakhulu, ngoko ke isigqibo sesijeziso esinjalo sinokuthathwa kuphela ngabaphathi abanegunya kwaye kuphela emva kokuvavanya ngokucophelela yonke imiba yolu meko.