Kuqala kuphi?
Ukuba awukwazi ukutsala umntwana iminyaka emi-5 ukugaya izipikili, ngokokuqala into yokuqala ukudibana nodokotela. Musa ukuba neentloni kwaye nethemba lokuba ingxaki iza kuxazululwa ngokwayo.
Ukuphelisa umkhuba ombi kakhulu kwaye wazi indlela yokululela kuyo, xa umntwana eneminyaka eyi-5 i-gnaws kwiiphonkwane, kuyimfuneko ukufikelela kwingcambu yesizathu salo mkhuba. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kubonakalisa i-neurosis, kwaye akuxhatshazi nje kuphela izicwangciso zeminyaka emihlanu, kodwa kunye nabantwana, kunye nabaselula.
Abazali banokuphikisa ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle kwintsapho yabo, kodwa ngaphezu kwendawo yokuhlala, inkunzi idibanisa nabantu abaninzi, umzekelo, kwi-nursergart okanye kwindawo yokudlala. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana akanakuqonda ukuba uyadla kwaye akukhathaze, ngoko ke ingcali kuphela - ingqondo yengqondo yengane - inokuza kuhlangula.
Umama noTata, nabo, akufanele baphambuke, kwaye ngokufanayo nomsebenzi weengqondo zengqondo ababandakanyeka ebomini bomntwana wabo, ingakumbi ukuba le ngxiba ukuthetha naye kwakungekho kufuphi kakhulu.
Uncedo luya kuba nayiphi na imisebenzi edibeneyo echaphazela izakhono zamancinci ezincinci - ukusika ubuhlalu, imodeli, ukudweba, ukulandelela iipuzzle kunye nabaqulunqi. Yonke into ephazamisa umntwana kumnqweno wokuhlafuna izipikili ngexesha elithile, uya kwenza.
Inzuzo enkulu iya kuvela kumdlalo wezemidlalo, kodwa kuphela kubazali bakho, ixesha elide ochitha kunye kunye, uhlaziye kwaye unethemba lokuba umntwana uya kuba. Ungalibali ukuxelela umntwana wakho ngothando lwakho ngaye, ukudumisa impumelelo kunye nokukhuthaza impumelelo, ngokugqithisa iingongoma eziphambili zokungaphumeleli.
Sekunjalo ama-grandmother bacebisa ukunqanda kulo mkhwa omubi ukuya kwiminwe eminwe ngento enomsindo. Kodwa iindlela zendoda azintle kakhulu kuloo nto, umzekelo, i-pepper ingangena emehlweni akho ize ibangele enye ingxaki. Ngenxa yale njongo, ukuxhamla komhlonyane kulungelele - kuyabonakala kwaye kuyingozi nakumlomo nomlomo. Ithengisa i-lacquer ekhethekileyo, ebuye isetyenziselwa abantwana.