Abazali banamhlanje bazama ukufumana ixesha, kwaye kungabikho umntwana oza kwihlabathi, uqala ukufundisa intetho, ukuhamba, njl. Kodwa indalo ayizange ibone ngaphambili izigaba ezahlukeneyo zophuhliso loluntu. Naluphi na ukunyuka kwikhono elithile kunokutshabalalisa ikhonkco ekuphuhlisweni komntwana. Ngokomzekelo, abazali bahlala bewutyeshela ukubaluleka kwikhono elinjengokukhwela. Okwangoku, kubonga kuye ukuba umntwana udala ingqondo, izihlunu kunye nezakhono ezifanelekileyo zezithuthi. Kwaye umbuzo wokuqala umzali ozihloniphayo unokuzibuza ukuba ungamnceda njani umntwana?
Umntwana kufanele ahambe nini?
Abazali abaninzi abanomntwana wokuqala bahlala bexhala malunga nophuhliso lwakhe kwaye bazame ukumlandela ukuhambisana nemimiselo. Yingakho rhoqo oogqirha beva umbuzo, bangaphi abantwana abaqala ukukhwela. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba umntwana ngamnye ukhula ngamnye. Kukho ixesha eliqhelekileyo kuphela, nini kwaye ngeliphi ixesha umntu omncinane ufunda oku okanye ezo buchule. Ngokuphathelele ukunqumla, ngokuqhelekileyo ukuzama kokuqala ukuhamba ngokuzimeleyo umntwana sele sele eveki ezimbalwa emva kokuzalwa. Kwaye uncedo lokuqala abazali abangabonelela ngalo umntwana lusisasaza rhoqo emthonjeni, ubambe intamo yakhe kunye nesigxina xa efunda ukubamba intloko aze ahlaziye.
Ukususela kwiinyanga ezintlanu ubudala umntwana usasaza esiswini. Kwaye kwithuba eli xesha kubalulekile ukunceda umntwana. Kodwa uncedo lufanele lukhuthaze ukuphuhliswa kweentlungu zomntwana. Nangona umntwana unyanga ezintandathu okanye ngaphezulu, ungalivumi i-alamu. Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba abanye abalekayo kule ngcaphephe kubonisa ukuba imisipha kunye namasipha azinako ngokwaneleyo kwaye umntwana okwangoku uninzi uncedo lwabazali. Yintoni ekufuneka uyenze ukuba uya kuqhutywa ngamanye amathiphu malunga nendlela yokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe.
Ngendlela efanelekileyo ukufundisa ukukhwela umntwana?
Ukuba umntwana uneminyaka engama-5 okanye ezintandathu ubudala, abazali abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba kutheni umntwana engagqabi. Ukunyaniseka okunjalo kubangelwa ukungabi nentshisekelo kwentshukumo yokuhamba okanye ukulahla ekuphuhliseni ubunzima besisu. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana usenamandla okwaneleyo okuhambisa. Uncedo lokunciphisa le mqobo ekuphuhliseni kuya kunceda iingcebiso ezimbalwa iindlela zokufundisa umntwana ukuba akhuphe:
- Nika ingqalelo apho umntwana wakho edla khona. Ukunyusa okanye isikhalazo akuyona indawo apho unokufumana khona izakhono zokukhahlela. Nika ngokukhululeka kwi-crumb kwaye uyinciphise ukuze udlale phantsi. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kuba nommandla omtsha onomdla, oya kufuna ukuwuhlola.
- Hlala kufuphi nomntwana. Xa ebona ukuba abo basondeleyo kumgangatho, umntwana uya kuhlola ngokungazenzisiyo indawo ezingaqhelekanga.
- Yiba nomdla kwintsana kwaye mnike isizathu sokuhamba. Beka amathoyizi anomdla phambi kwakhe, gxuma ibhola enemibala, njl. Umgama kufuneka ube yinto yokuba intshontsho ayiyi kufikelela kwidonti kwaye yaqala ukuzama ukuhamba kuyo ngokuzimeleyo.
- Ukuba umntwana ukhahlela kuphela ngendlela yeplastiki, oku kungabonisa iingxaki ngeenqwelo zezixhobo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iindlela ezizodwa zokuzilolonga, indlela yokumfundisa ukuba atyeke kuzo zonke ezine. Ukuze wenze oku, pha kamisa umntwana ngesisu, ubambe ngesandla sakho. Yenza inkxaso yemilenze ukuze awancede. Mbonise indlela yokuhamba kakuhle.
Abanye abazali basebenzisa umzila okhethekileyo wokuhamba. Kubukeka njengentaba, apho inyane lizama ukunyuka.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuba izinto ezinjengezinto ezinjengeenkwenkwezi zivame ukwesabisa abantwana, kwaye banokucela uncedo. Kwaye akunjalo ukuba umntwana "uyisiqalo". Kubalulekile ukuba azi ukuba umama usekufuphi, kuba Ukuqhayisa ngethuba lokuqala ebomini lobunzima, xa eqala ukwenza into ehlukile kunina. Ngeli xesha, akusiyo kuphela imisipha yomzimba eqhubekayo, kodwa kunye neesibini zombuso wengqondo. Ekugqibeleni, ukuphuhliswa okuqhubekayo komntwana kuxhomekeke kwikhono lokukhwela. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukunyamekela umntwana ngeli xesha kunye nokuxhasa ngazo zonke iinkqubo zakhe.