Ngaba bekufuneka ukuba, emva kokudumala emva komntu obambezelekileyo ngaphandle komgca, engeza ngengqondo "enguneliseko"? Okanye siyakholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kunjalo, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, oku "ulonwabo lwesibini" - into engcolileyo kwaye ayifumaneki.
Masicabange kunye, ngaba kukuzikhukhumeza, njengokuba kukholelwa kakhulu. Yaye phi na ubuso, xa kukho inkalipho yokwenza into esiyithethayo ukuba i-audacity and pride.
Okokuqala, cinga ngesimo sakho sengqondo ngokuzikhukhumeza: ngaba usibona njengolonwabo lwesibini, isicatshulwa okanye into eya kuba luncedo kuwe. Abaninzi bayalitshitshisa le mfanelo, kodwa kukho abo bacela ukuba ukuzikhukhumeza kuphuhlise njani.
Ukunyamezela akusilo siphene?
Okanye i-vice? Cinga: ininzi yethu yaziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo ebuntwaneni, kwaze kwaba yilapho abazali befaka isohlwayo. Inkalipho encinane kakhulu iphuma esandleni, kwaye ifunyaniswa njengento yokuzigcina engumntwana. Kodwa ke ngokukhawuleza kungabonakali, kungabi nongqondo kwaye kwaneengxaki zokunyaniseka, kwaye uluhlu lwezinto ezibhekwa njengento ehloniphekileyo. Ekudala, ubomi obuzimeleyo, umntu ngamnye ubeka imida yokungabi nantoni, kodwa ubungakanani banzi bubanzi buxhomeke kakhulu kubazali.
Lithini igama lokuzikhukhumeza? Oku kungenangqiqo, kunye nokukholelwa komntu ukuba ufanelekile. Kulo mongo, akuvakala ukuba kubi, uya kuvuma, kuba akukho nto ihlazo ekufuneni ukufumana ubuninzi bomsebenzi. Akumangalisi ukuba bathi ukutshutshiswa kwesi sixeko kuthatha, kuba bekuza kubumba imbali yethu, ungabi phantsi kwabantu abakhathazayo.
Enye into apho umntu engayazi umlinganiselo, kwaye ukungahambi kwakhe akukho mda. Xa kuziwa ekulahlekelweni kwentlonelo kwabanye, ukuzikhukhumeza okunempilo kunika indlela yokungazinzi. Emva koko umbuzo uvela, indlela yokulwa nokuzikhukhumeza.
Njani ukuzikhukhumeza?
Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntu oziphatha ngayo njengesihlazo, akayikrokreli ukuba wenza into ongenako ukuyifumana. Okokuthi, akuyena omnye obeka phezulu, kodwa wena ngokwakho uzilahla. Eyona nto ingabonakaliyo - ingcamango eqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kwenzeka ukuba sijamelana nokunyaniseka, kwaye asiyazi indlela yokuphendula ngokuzidla.
- Okokuqala, zama ukuqonda ukuba akukho ntlonipho kwabanye ekuziphatheni komntu ongekho. Ukuba ukuzikhukhumeza kungenxa yokungahloneli, ke ungabi namahloni okubeka umntu oye wakwenza. Ngokukodwa, ukuba emva kokutshatyalaliswa uyacaphuka kwaye uchaza iimpendulo ezinokwenzeka, eziye zahlala zingabonakali. Emva kwakho konke, kuvela ukuba akusiyo nje umntu ongenamdla onokucinga ukuba awufanelekanga, kodwa wena ngokwakho.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo ubuqhetseba bubuhlungu, kwaye bubonakala njengesiphumo sokungaqiniseki. Ukuba ubamba le nqaku kwimpumelelo yomnye
ndoda, kuya kuba lula ukuba uqaphele ukuzama kwakhe ukugubungela iindawo ezinobungozi kunye negobolondo yokungahambi kakuhle kunye nokuziphendulela. - Ukuba kunokwenzeka, zama abantu abanobumba ukuphepha okanye ubuncinci ukunciphisa unxibelelwano kumncinci.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, xa ubhekana nokuzikhukhumeza kuyo yonke into, cinga ngezinto ezingalunganga ngokuzithemba kwakho kunye nehlabathi. Mhlawumbi ukhethe isikhundla sexhoba, kwaye ke abantu abahlala kufuphi nawe bahlala entanyeni yakho. Ababaleki, amacandelo, abakhohlisi kunye nabangcolileyo - bonke aba bantu banomuvo onobuhlungu kakhulu ngokuziphatha kwabo. Ngoko ke, indlela efanelekileyo yokulwa nokuzingca kukuthanda nokuzihlonela!