Nasiphi na isiganeko esenzekayo ebomini bethu, ngokungaqhelekanga njengoko kungathi siyandile, ayikho nto. Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Makhe sibone umzekelo. Masithi uphoswe ibhasi. Omnye umntu, ngenxa yoko, uya kuthatha ngempumelelo indawo enokuhlala nayo. Mhlawumbi umntu uza kuza kuwe ebhasini lebhasi, ngelixa ulinde ukuthutha okulandelayo, kwaye utshele umhambi indlela, okanye ixesha, okanye umphathe ngecuba. Kuwe, ukulibaziseka kwakho kuyabuhlungu, kodwa kukuphela kwakho.
Senza le nto okanye eso siganeko "sibi" okanye "sihle" ngesimo sethu sengqondo. Ukuqonda nokusebenzisa olu lwazi kuya kusinceda senze isigqibo sokuba singacingi ngento embi. Ewe, ngaba siya kususa eso sifo?
Ingxaki yangempela
Awukwazi ukucinga ngento embi, ukuba sonke senze isimo sengqondo esifanayo nantoni na. Ukuba le nto "engalunganga" ayenzekanga okwangoku, kodwa awushiywanga ngcamango yokuba kuya kwenzeka, oku kulandelayo kuya kunceda ukulahla le ntshukumo:
- cacisa ngokucacileyo ingxaki okanye ucinge ngolu hlobo olubi kakhulu kuzo zonke iinkcukacha kunye nemibala;
- Ngoku ulahlekelwa entloko yakho into engathandekiyo kwaye engathandekiyo ekuxazululeni le ngxaki, imeko;
- kodwa ngoku zibuze ukuba oku kukhwankqisayo.
Abantu bavame ukunyanisela iingxaki kunye neengxaki zabo, ukubaluleka kwabo ebomini babo. Enyanisweni, abaxakekanga nantoni na, saqonda oku ekuqaleni.
Indlela yokuyeka ukucinga ngendawo embi, ukuba oko kwenzeka kakade. Okokuqala, mhlawumbi kusuka kulo mntu kwaye uzive ungcono, kuyimfuneko ukudibanisa imeko, "wasasazeka kwiishefu," ukuthetha. Yintoni eyenzekayo, kutheni kwenzeka ntoni kwaye ngubani omele ityala le ngxenye yokuqala yohlalutyo. Kwinqanaba lesibini lokuhlalutya, phendula ngokwakho kumbuzo onokukwenza, kodwa, hayi, kuphelile. Yonke into. Le meko ayitshintshi, akukho nto ingenziwa, sele uyifumana. Ngoku kufuneka simkele imeko njengoko kunjalo. Yamkela, jonga kuyo ukusuka kwelinye icala, hlalutye ngokuchanekileyo. Injongo ephambili yohlalutyo lwakho kukutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kwingxaki. Xa usenza oku, into embi iyayeka ukuba yingozi, kwaye uyayeka ukucinga ngayo kwaye udala ithemba. Inyaniso kukuba, ubomi buqhubeka, kwaye konke kukuxabisa amava.
Ingxaki yokucinga
Esemngciphekweni yokuba yintambo yokudakumba kukuba abo bantu bahlala becinga ngendawo embi, kwaye ngubani ocinga ngayo ngabantu ababi.
Ukudandatheka kukugula kwengqondo, ingxaki apho kungekho ndawo yokucinga. Awukwazi ukuhlala ucinga ngezinto ezimbi, ngakumbi ukuba unesizathu. Ziziphi iingcamango esinazo, ezibunjwa ngokoqobo kunye nobomi bethu. Kutheni ucinga ngento embi, xa unokucinga ngokulungileyo kwaye ufike kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo. Ukuba uhlala ucinga kwaye ulindele into engathandekiyo ebomini, ngoko ke iziganeko ezinjalo ziya kutsalwa, njengeemagnet. Njengoko bathetha, iingcamango zizinto eziphathekayo, ngoko akudingeki ucinge ngezinto ezimbi. Zama ukuzungeze izinto ezintle, ezithakazelisayo, abantu abanomdla, bahamba phambili, bathetha, musa ukuzivala. Xa ukhathazekile ngento ethile, unenkxalabo malunga nento, yabelana ngxaki yakho nomntu osondeleyo kuwe.
Elinye iphuzu lokunyamekela ukuxhomekeka kwethu kwiimbono zabanye. Ngaba kaninzi kangakanani sikhathazeke ngento yokuba bacinga kakubi ngathi, ngexesha elifanayo, alinandaba nokuba ngubani ummelwane, umlingane naye, umthengisi kwivenkile. Abo basithandayo abayi kucinga kakubi ngathi. Nangona senze into ethile, umntu osondeleyo uya kuhlala ekwazi ukuqonda, ukwamukelwa nokuxhasa.
"Musa ukucinga kakubi ngam" - isicelo esinjalo sifuna ukuba siziphathe ngesithunzi kubantu abathandekayo kuthi. Ukubaluleka kwaba bantu kubaluleke kakhulu kuthi, kwaye ngokubhekiselele, kukuchitha ixesha. Emva koko, akukho nto iguquka ngokukhawuleza njengombono womntu.