Iinyani zehlabathi lanamhlanje zihlala ziguqula abantu abangengcono. Oku kubonakala ngakumbi ekufikeni kwentsha , xa intombazana encinci yelanga, i-tit, ngokukhawuleza iba yintombazana ehlaselayo kwi-mini-skirt, kwaye inkwenkwezi yokulala egalazi ingumvukeli kunye noxhatshazo. Iintsholongwane ezinzima ziyinto evamile ngaphandle kweyodwa. Unokukunceda njani umntwana onzima ukuba aphile kwintlekele ? Ukunyamezela, ukuqonda, ubulumko kunye neengcebiso zethu - konke oku kunokuzisa uxolo kwiintsebenziswano zakho nabantwana abaselula.
Sonke sakuba siselula, kwaye mhlawumbi, nabazali bethu nabo babengenasiphelo nathi. Iingxaki zobunzima abaselula ziyaziwa malunga nabo bonke abazali. Ukuze uqonde oko umntwana wakho owenzayo kule minyaka, kufuneka uqhagamshelane naye. Abantwana bakho ngoku akudingeki nje ukuphawula kunye neengcebiso, kodwa nokuqonda kwakho, ukunxibelelana nawe. Konke oku kuya kunceda ukusetha ithowuni kwizigqibo zokugcina ubomi.
Intombazana enzima - yintoni oyenzayo?
Unokukunceda njani umntwana onzima? Ngezantsi sizinike iingcebiso zeengqondo zeengqondo ezibizwa ukuba zize zancedise abazali ukuba baqhagamshelane nabafundi abakhulayo, ukuba bavuselele abahlobo kwakhona:
- Ukunxibelelana - qhagamshelana imihla ngemihla, kuphela oku kungasindisa ibhuloho ephosakeleyo yokuqonda kwakho! Ithemba lincike kwizenzo, kwaye liyakhiwa kuphela kubuhlobo obuninzi. Zama ukuchitha ixesha lokunxibelelana ngaphandle kweengcebiso kunye neenkcazo, nje ukufumana umbono womntwana, ukuthanda kwakhe, iimfuno zakhe. Funda ukubeka kwindawo yonyana okanye intombi, ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda kakuhle iinjongo zakhe, ukuziphatha ngendlela ethile. Le nto ibaluleke kakhulu, kuba abaselula baziva bekhululekile kubazali abachaphazelekayo ebomini babo. Ngaphandle koko, xa kungabikho nxi Khumbula, ukuba ungumzali omhle, kufuneka ufunde ukuba ngumhlobo olungileyo.
- Ibhizinisi eliqhelekileyo kunye nomdla. Nokuba uhlukile kakhulu, ukuba iimfuno zakho kunye neminqweno yakho ihamba phambili (uthanda iiklasi, i-rock-rock, ufunda iincwadi, umntwana uhlala emva kwekhompyutheni), zama ukufumana ubuncinane into onokuyithanda kokubili. Makube nokuthenga, iibheke, ukuhamba ngebhayisikili. Nangona ukuba ungumntu oxakeke kakhulu, thabatha ixesha lokwenza into kunye. Kuza kukubuyisela kwixesha elivuyisayo xa umntwana engumntwana, afunde kuwe, ethembekileyo kwaye aphulaphule. Mhlawumbi kukho into yokuba unyana wakho uyazi ukwenza ngcono kunakho. Kule meko, unokucela ukuba unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ikufundise.
- Ubunzima, ngamanye amaxesha kunceda. I-psychology yengxaki yobutsha kukuba uya kumelana nayiphi na imiqobo kunye nemithetho. Nangona kunjalo, imimiselo ethile iyimfuneko nakwiyona nto ibona yintsapho emele. Yenza kucacise ukuba uza kunika ngaphezulu, kodwa ngelo xesha uxanduva olukhulu luya kuhlombe akhe. Kufuneka uhlale unceda umntwana, umfundise indlela yokucwangcisa, enze ngokwakhe. Kwiimeko ezinzima, uxoxisana, wenze ulungelo - ukunyaniseka kuhlale kunceda.
- Indlela yokuhlangabezana nomntwana onzima? Ukunyamezela nokuphinde ube nomonde! Ukuba nomonde kuhlale kunzima, kodwa kuyimfuneko. Ukuba umntwana wakho ungumntwana ongenakulawulayo, awukwazi ukuba wenzeni, mhlawumbi kufuneka ufune uncedo kwi-psychologist, kwaye uhlalutye le meko.
- Mthetho kuphela! Abazali abaninzi abavumelani ngezigqibo kwiimeko ezithile malunga nobunzima ebomini. Musa ukuxelela umntwana ngale nto, kufuneka acinge ukuba usebenza kunye, ngeliqela. Akufanele ube nombono wokuthi "unokubalekela" phantsi kwephiko lomnye wabazali.
Mthande umntwana wakho, naphezu kwazo zonke izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi kunye noshintsho ekuphatheni, imvelo. Bonisa ubulumko nomonde, kuba ngoku ufuna uncedo lwakho, njengangaphambili.