Abaninzi abafazi bafuna ukwazi ukuba babe yindoda engumfazi ukuba bafanelane nezithixo zabo, njengabo ngokwabo kwaye benze impembelelo ebantwini. Kukho inqaku: abafazi abazalwa, abafazi bayaba. Yaye la mazwi angamaqiniso kakhulu, kuba ekubeni intombi ayiyinto elula njengoko kubonakala, kwaye ukukwazi ukuba yiyo kufuneka kufundiswe kuwe. Masiqwalasele ngokukhawuleza kule mbuzo ngokukodwa kunye nolula.
Njani ukuba ube ngumfazi wenene?
Ngoko, inkqubo yokuguqula ibhinqa ibandakanya iinkalo eziliqela-kubonakala, impahla, ukuziphatha kuluntu kunye nemikhwa. Ngalunye wale miba ibaluleke ngokulinganayo, kuba, ngokungabandakanyi omnye wabo, umphumo olungeleyo awuzukufezekiswa. Zigweba wena: ngaba unako ukubiza intombazana intombazana enxibe kakuhle kwaye ephakamileyo, edibanise kakuhle, kodwa iphinde isebenzise ulwimi oluhlazo kunye nokutshaya kwindawo zoluntu? Oku akunakwenzeka. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuba yintombazana yangempela, kufuneka uhambisane nazo zonke ezi ngongoma.
Ngoko, kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumfazi oyinyani? Ewe, kunjalo, ukuhlala ubeka iliso, ukubonakala kwakho nokuziphatha kwakho. Intombazana yokwenyaniso, ithetha ngokufuziselayo, isebenzisa ubomi bayo kwiiglavu zebhokhwe, ngaphandle kokuzikhawulela ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo libe nesakhelo esithile malunga nokuziphatha kunye nendlela yokuphila. Ukuze uqonde oku ngokubanzi kwaye uqonde indlela yokuba yintombazana yokwenene, makhe siqhelane namacebiso ambalwa alula aya kunceda kule ndlela enameva eya kuye.
Imithetho yale ntombi
Kubonakala. Okokuqala, makhe sijonge indlela igosa eliyinyani eligqoka ngayo, ngenxa yokuba utshintsho lwangaphandle lulokuqala, kwaye lulula. Izambatho akufanele zibe zibala okanye zivule. Inenekazi kufuneka igqoke ngokugqithiseleyo, ibhinqa, ngokukhawuleza, kwaye akukho nto ihlambulukileyo. Khumbula ukuba xa amantombazana egqoke ngokunyanisekileyo, ayenzi ngokwabo, kodwa ukukhangela umdla wesini esahlukileyo, kodwa abafazi baqinileyo bahlala begqoka ngokuzikhethela ngokwabo, ukuze bajonge kwisibuko ukuze bazive bevuyayo. Ngoko, gqoka, ucinge, okokuqala, malunga nawe. Ngokufanayo, yenza iifiti kunye neenwele. Kwakhona, musa ukulibala ukuba i- makeup ekhangayo kakhulu ngosuku lubonakaliso lwenkcazo embi kwaye ngokubanzi, ubuninzi bemvelo kumfanekiso, bhetele.
Imilinganiselo. I-Etiquette yintombi yangempela ithetha kakhulu kwaye ihlala iqala kuqala. Emva kwakho konke, kwimeko nayiphi na imeko ongekho, kubalulekile ukuziphatha ngesithunzi. Amehlo abuhlungu aya kumangaliswa mntu, kodwa ukunyamezela kubangele kubangele. Ukuziphatha kwesi sikazi kuhlale kungenakwenzeka. Uyazi indlela yokuziphatha ebantwini, uhlala esho amazwi okubulela aze abingelelane ngokuthobeka. Kwakhona, intombazana inokuthi "hayi" xa banikela into ayithandayo. Ukongezelela, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba intombazana yeyona nto ihlala ihamba kakuhle kwaye iyancwina, iyamkholisa abanye.
LeMfundo. Kwakhona, inenekazikazi akufanele ilibale ngemfundo yakhe. Ukuba ufuna ukuba yintombazana yinyani, yoloko ukwandisa iindawo zakho zokufunda: funda iincwadi ezahlukeneyo, unomdla kule mimandla yesayensi kunye nobugcisa obukhangayo kuwe, ukuhamba. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuba inenekazi yeyona nto ayikho nje inhle kwaye inentlonelo "inqabileyo", kufuneka kubekho ubutyebi ngaphakathi.
Amabhunga malunga nendlela yokuba ngumfazi oyinyani, unako ukunika uninzi, kuba kukho imithetho emininzi enokuthi ibambelele kuyo. Umzekelo, ukutya okunempilo kunye nendlela yokuphila enempilo. Kodwa kufuneka siqale encinci. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyazikhethela ukuba ufuna ukuba yintombazana yinyani, ke qalisa ubuncinci ngento ethile, kwaye ungalokothi unqande oko kuphunyeziwe, kwaye yonke into iya kulandela.
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