Ephupheni, umntu unokubona abantu abahluke ngokupheleleyo: izihlobo, abahlobo, iintshaba, abangaziwayo, kunye nabathandekayo bexesha langaphambili. Kwamanye amaxesha, amaphupha anjalo ayenayo nayiphi na ingcaciso, umzekelo, ukuba umphuphi ngokukhawuleza wabona uthando lokuqala okanye ucinga ngalo mntu. Ukuba kwakungekho mfuneko, ngoko siqala ukutolika. Kule nto kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule iinkcukacha ezininzi njengoko kunokwenzeka, icebo elibonwayo.
Uthando lokuqala luphupha ntoni?
Ngokuqhelekileyo iphupha elinjalo libonisa ukuba lixesha lokugqiba amatyala aqaliswe ngaphambili. Nokuba uthando lokuqala luyakubonisa imicimbi ethile yexesha elizayo eliphazamisa ukuhamba phambili. Kwabesetyhini abatshatileyo, iphupha ngothando lokuqala luchaza ukuba ngobudlelwane nomlingane yonke into ayithethi njengokuba sifuna. Ukuba iqhinga lokulala kunye nolwalamano kunye nomntu owayengumthandi ngaphambili, kufuneka silindele utshintsho oluhle ebomini. Xa uthando lokuqala lubangela ukukhathazeka okungathandekiyo, iphupha elinjalo lithembisa iingxaki kunye neengozi ezinzulu.
Ukubona kwiphupha uthando lokuqala oluye lwayeka ngenxa yongenelelo lomnye umntu ngumqondiso wokuthi ebomini bokwenene kunzima kakhulu. Ukuba iphupha lentombazana eyayithandekayo ibona ngokuhlwa komtshato, ngoko ulwalamano lwentsapho luya kuvuyisa. Ukuze ubone uthando lokuqala ephupheni, ngoko, kungekudala emva koko, kuya kufuneka udibane nomntu wasedlulileyo. Umbono wobusuku, apho ubudlelwane bobuhlobo kunye neqabane lokuqala liqala kwakhona, luchaza ukuqala kolwalamano olutsha nolonwabileyo. Kumntu ogulayo, iphupha lomtshato nomntu owayesithandana naye waprofetha
Ukubona ephupheni uthando lokuqala, kwaye umntu ofa ngokwenene uyisixwayiso ngengozi. Ukuba umntu owakuthandayo wangumnxeba nawe, ke kungcono ukujonga impilo yakho. Umbono ebusuku, apho umthandi wangaphambili uthetha into ethile, ungathatha isiluleko ukuba kukubhetele ukujonga indawo yakho, kuba kukho umntu ofuna ukulimaza. Ukubona uthando lokuqala lomntu ophethe iphupha epaki eliluhlaza luphawu olulungileyo, uqikelele utshintsho olulungileyo kummandla wendaba. Ukuba indawo yokuhamba yayimnyama kwaye iyatshitshisa, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukuqwalasela yonke inyathelo kunye namazwi, njengoko ukunganakwa kungabangela ukuxabana nabantu abasondeleyo.