Ungalususa njani uthando?

"Kutheni ufuna ukulahla uthando, kuba le mvakalelo ifunwa ngumntu wonke" - ubuza? Kubonakala kuyinyaniso, kodwa akukho mntu ufuna ukufumana ubunzima obungathandabuzekiyo okanye obungathandabuzekiyo uthando. Ngoko kukufanelekile ukuzama ukujonga indlela yokulahla loo mvakalelo. Kwaye kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba uthando lwaluyintsebenziswano, kodwa ulwalamano lwayeka, wahlukana, kwaye iimvakalelo azizange zihambe. Kwimeko enjalo, uthando luya kukulimaza nje.

Indlela yokuwususa njani umvakalelo wothando?

Makhe sijonge kwiingongoma indlela yokulahla uthando, kungakhathaliseki ukuba okokuqala kwakungenakutshitshiswa okanye kuba ngumphumo wokuhlukana.

1. Into yokuqala efuna ukuba yenziwe yinto enqwenela ukuyilahla le mvakalelo enokukukhathaza. Akunandaba nokuba uyayenza njani - qhagamshelana neengcali, bhala kwiforum ethi "Uncedo lokuphelisa uthando" okanye, ukuvuka ekuseni, uthathe isigqibo "kodwa konke kuhamba, ndiqala ubomi obutsha." Kubalulekile ukuba uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala, ukuba uqaphele ukuba le mvakalelo awuyidingi, ukuba kuyo kufuneka nje uyilahle. Yaye ukuba usenokungathandabuzeki, cinga ukuba unokubiza oko uvakalelwa yintando? Inokwenzeka ukuba, iimvakalelo zakho zinjengomlutha. Ingaba yinto eyahlukileyo - kunye nezinto eziphathekayo, zesondo, kunye nemvakalelo, kwaye akusoloko ivakalelwa. Ukutshitshiswa kunamandla kuveliswa ngamava ambi, kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo, ukuxhomekeka kungaphinda kuvele kubo. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, le meko ibuhlungu, kodwa njengawo nawuphi na ukugula, kufuneka iphathwe.
2. Ngoko, wanquma ukuba awuyidingi ukuxhomekeka oku. Ungayichitha njani loo nto, ngokoqobo, uthando lomlutha? Ukuze uqaphele ukuba zininzi iziphazamiso ezi zinto ezilethwe kuwe, bhala phantsi iphepha olahlekileyo ngenxa yothando lwakho: waqala ukudibana nabangani, waqala ukulala kakhulu, wakhumbula ukuba unokuzonwabisa njani? Uyabona, yiyiphi inqwaba yeengxaki ezikule ndawo, kodwa emva koko awufumanga nto.
3. Emva kokuba uqaphele kwaye uthathe isidingo sokususa le ngxaki, sele usenza isiqingatha somsebenzi. Isigaba esilandelayo kukujonga zonke iingxaki ozibhalileyo ephepheni, kunye nesisombululo sabo esifanayo - iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo, iinkqubo zokuzonwabisa nokuzonwabisa. Ukufunda ukuvuya kwakhona imihla ngemihla kuya kuba lula, kodwa uya kuphumelela, into ephambili ayiyikuyeka, kuba ufanelwe ulonwabe, kwaye kungabi ngobusuku kuzaliswe iintlungu kunye neinyembezi.

Ungayinqanda njani uthando?

I-intanethi inceda ukuxazulula iingxaki ezininzi, nangona isiqingatha sazo ngokwakhe sakha. Ndixelele, awonina oomama, kwaye nangona kunjalo baninzi nogogo, babenothando oluthile? Akunjalo! Kwaye kwixesha lethu, le ngxaki ayinqabile. Into ebangel 'umdla kukuba abantu bayaziqonda ukuxhomekeka kwabo, kodwa abanakukulahla, ngenxa yokuba akunakwenzeka ukugqogqa ikhompyutha kunye ne-intanethi ukusuka kwimpilo yanamhlanje. Ngoko ke, yintoni omele uyenze, njani ukujamelana nothando olubonakalayo?

Indlela efanelekileyo kukuhlangabeza into yokubonga kwakho kweli hlabathi. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva kwintlanganiso enjalo, uthando lobuxoki luxubha njengentambo yomsi we-tobacco smoke. Umntu onyanisekileyo akakho konke oko, ebonakala ngathi xa sithetha kwi-ICQ kunye ne-skype. Abantu abanokuzithemba abanokuzithemba baya kuba ngabantwana baka-mama, abaphengululi beengcali kunye namazwi amabini akakwazi ukudibanisa (akukho mntu uhambayo), kwaye i-hamovatye i-macho iyinyaniso. Ewe, ukuba unenhlanhla, kwaye into enomdla wakho yindlela ocinga ngayo, kulo mzekelo, uthando olupheleleyo luya kunyangwa. Uza kuthandana naye sele usenobomi bokwenene, obona lunomdla ngakumbi kunokonwabisa kwi-Internet.

Ewe, ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuhlangabezana, sifanele senze ntoni? Kukho indlela enye kuphela - ukuthetha nomthandi wakho, uchaze imeko kwaye ususe bonke oonxibelelwano, ukuze kungabi nasilingo sokuqalisa ukuthetha. Ewe, phuma, ekugqibeleni, esitalatweni.