Uninzi kunje, lo mfazi wayezivelele esecaleni lobomi obutsha obonwabileyo, kwaye ngoku kubonakala ngathi kukho iindawo ezichithayo kuphela. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba indoda ingayithobeli. Kwaye lo ngumntu kuye ngokwakhe owamnika yona ikusasa lakhe. Kutheni kukho iimeko xa indoda ingayithobeli umfazi wayo, nendlela yokuphuma kuyo, siya kuqonda kweli nqaku.
Kutheni umyeni wam wayeka ukunyamekela?
Ngezantsi siza kuqwalasela okukhethwa kukho kwaye kwimeko nganye sixoxe ngendlela yokulungisa imeko kunye nokutsala ingqalelo yomyeni wakhe.
Ngoko, imeko yowokuqala-indoda ijolise ngokupheleleyo kwenye into
Eli bhinqa angenza izinto ezilishumi ngexesha elinye, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ugcine umntwana wakhe ebona. Amadoda adalwa ngokuhlukileyo. Yaye ukuba ithuba elithembisayo liza kuye, uya kugxininisa kuzo zonke izibonelelo zakhe zesikhashana kunye nezibonelelo. Kodwa umfazi okwangoku akanakunakekelwa ngokwaneleyo kumyeni wakhe, kwaye uyabetha i-alamu.
Njani ukuba? Bonisa ukuba unokuba ngumlingani othembekileyo. Musa ukukhangela iindlela zokutsala ingqalelo yomyeni wakho. Yenza iimeko ezifanelekileyo zokuzaliseka kwezicwangciso zakhe. Kwaye ke ingqalelo yendoda iya kubuya imbuyiselo, ukubonga ngokuphindwe kabini ngokuqonda kunye nomonde.
Imeko emibini: umyeni wayeka ukunikela ingqwalasela kwindawo esondeleyo
Kukho izizathu ezibini:
- uneengxaki ngempilo yomntu;
- umfazi uye kude kakhulu nomfanekiso wakhe wangaphambili.
Eyokuqala inokwenzeka kumntu wonke, kungenangqiqo ukusola umntu. Ngokuphathelele ukubukeka - ngamanye amaxesha umfazi ukhulula imikhwa yakhe engafanelekanga ngaphandle kwenkululeko. Ngokomzekelo, ukrakra okanye ukungabikho komsebenzi. Kule meko, wonke umntu uyaqonda ukuba kutheni umyeni wakhe engayithobeli.
Njani ukuba? Kuzo zombini iimeko, umonde wakho nomzamo wakho kuphela uza kuphendula umbuzo wendlela yokuqwalasela umyeni. Amadoda athola kunzima ukugqiba kwisibheno kwiingcali - ncedise oku, vala. Kwaye ngokuchaseneyo - unganqikazi ukucela umyeni wakho uncedo ekusebenzeni ngokwakho. Ukubuyisela kwakhona uxanduva lweentsapho kunye nohlahlo lwabiwo-mali luyakwazi ukukhulula ixesha kunye nemali ukutshintsha indlela yobomi bomfazi. Kule nqanaba kubalulekile ukugcina ubudlelwane obunobungane, bethemba-basenokuba sisiseko seminqweno emitsha yomtshato.
Imeko yesithathu: umfazi akasayithandi umyeni wakhe njengomntu
Ngamanye amaxesha isibini sitshintsha kakhulu. Umzekelo, umyeni waqhubeka nobomi bentlalo, kunye nomfazi ozinikezele kuphela kubantwana nakubomi. Ngexesha elithile umyeni ubona phambi kwakhe umfazi ongenamdla, onomdla kunye neendlela zokuphila ezikude naye. Umfazi ukhalaza ukuba umyeni wakhe uhlawula ingqalelo. Inyaniso yokuba wayezama ukuba ngumfazi "ofanelekileyo" kunye nenkosikazi yakhe, ayitshintshi nantoni na.
Njani ukuba? Kwinqanaba elithile, iindaba zefeydi zeCinderella, ezazizilindele zonke iintsikelelo ezivela kwinduna, zisola. Kodwa akukaze kube mva ukucinga malunga nokwenza kwakho. Ushishino, izicwangciso, nokuba yimpumelelo encinci - yile mpendulo, indlela yokutsala ingqalelo yomyeni wakhe. Akukho magic, enye yengqondo: eli bhinqa eliqaqambileyo kulo lonke ukuzaliseka kobomi luhle kakhulu, uluntu lwakhe lufuna ukuzonwabisa yonke iminithi!
Kwimeko yesine: umyeni wam unkosikazi
Ngamanye amaxesha kuyinto yokuba umyeni wayeka ukunyamekela. Nangona umyeni onothando ngokupheleleyo unokudala imeko enzima kwiintsapho. Ubuthakathaka obuncinane, impembelelo yobutywala, ukungaqondi kakuhle kunokukhokelela ekubonakaleni kwakhe kubomnye umfazi. Oku akukhankanyi ngokusesikweni.
Njani ukuba? Musa ukuzithoba nomkhuhlane uze wenze isigqibo kwisicwangciso esilandelayo: ukubuyisela umyeni, ukumshiya okanye ukugxila ebomini bakhe? Kwale meko, kukho iindlela zokubuyisela ingqalelo yomyeni. Ngokomzekelo, unokusebenzisa ixesha lokuba ugxininise ubudlelwane obutsha. Buyisela kwakhona "I" yakho ephukile "Siyi". Ukuqinisa ubuthathaka babo - ezemidlalo, ezengqondo, ukuphumla, ukuzaliseka kweetalenta kuya kunceda, njl. Isiphumo siya kuba ngumdla omtsha wobomi. Ngenye imini, ingqiqo yomyeni wayo iqinisekisiwe. Mhlawumbi, ingqwalasela yakhe iya kwanda, kodwa kungekhona into yokuba iya kufuneka.