Ixesha eliyiminyaka emithathu ukuya emine, abazali abaninzi banikezelwa nzima, kwaye baqala ukuva malunga neengxaki zeminyaka emithathu . Ukongezelela, ukuba ixesha lokubunjwa komntu onemizi ngemizimba ithatha indawo yeso sizathu sokuba "kutheni", umntwana uqala ukukhohlisa . Ingaba yinto eyoyikisayo kwaye kutheni inkunzi iqala ukuthetha ubuxoki?
Iingcamango okanye ubuxoki?
Masiqale ngento yokuba inkohliso yabantwana ayifuni ukufihla intliziyo emnyama. Inyaniso kukuba xa uneminyaka engama-5 umntwana akafuneki ukukhohlisa abazali bakhe, kwaye akakwazi ukuba angayenza njani okwamanje. Njengomthetho, izizathu zimsulwa kwaye zichazwe ngokucacileyo ngokuzikhethela kokuziphatha ngeli xesha.
Ukongezelela, masingakulibali malunga neengqondo zabantwana abaneminyaka eyi-3-4. Ukukholelwa kwabo ngezinye iinkhathi kubonwa njengento yokukhohlisa. Ukuba kusasa umntwana wakho waqhekeza into okanye aphule, ngoko ngokuhlwa uya kuthetha ukuba akananto. Akunakukukhumbula le meko. Kodwa kukho izizathu ezichanileyo zokuthetha ubuxoki okanye ukuphazamisa amaqiniso.
- Ingane inokuthi ityala lincinci ukuba lilungele ukulindela. Ngelishwa, sihlala sibeka ithemba elikhulu kumntwana kwaye silindele ngakumbi kuye kunokuba unako. I-crumb ifuna ukuba yinto engcono kakhulu kwaye ngoko iyakwazi ukugqithisa ngokucacileyo imeko yangempela yezinto.
- Ukungabikho ngqalelo. Kwimvuthwa yesimanje yobomi, ngamanye amaxesha akukhoxesha elaneleyo leengane ngaphambi kokulala umntwana okanye ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza epakini. Iintsana zikhumbule kakuhle xa abazali bebonisa ukunyuselwa ngakumbi kwabo kwaye bazame ukuphinda le meko. Ngako oko "isisu sokugula" ngezinye izihlandlo asiyiyo isizathu sokunyuka kwi-kindergarten, kodwa isicelo somama.
- Uloyiko lokugwetywa. Abazali bahlala bebonisa ukubaluleka kakhulu kwizinto eziphathekayo, imibono kawonkewonke okanye imigangatho eyenziwa kuluntu. Ukuba umntwana ususwe into entsha okanye embethe omnye umntwana, ngelixa uqhubeka ukukhala okanye esinye isijeziso esibi kuye, kulula ukuba umntwana axoke.
- Ukuxelisa abadala. Esinye sezizathu zokukhohlisa ngokuqhelekileyo ngumzekelo wabanye wabazali. Amanga alungileyo ekuqondeni kwethu kumntwana angaba ngumzekelo wendlela yokuziphatha, kwaye akwazi nje imida yale nto engenamacala.
Yintoni abazali abayenzayo?
Into yokuqala kufuneka ufunde ayizange iphathe kakubi umntwana. Khumbula, xa efunde ukutya ngokuzimeleyo kunye nophalala phantsi, awuzange ummangele. Wafunda nje. Nantsi imeko iyafana.
Iintsana ziqala ukukhohlisa kuphela ukuba akukho nenye indlela. Ukuze ugweme iingxaki ezinjalo, qalisa rhoqo. Yonke into ivela kwintsapho, khangela izizathu kuyo. Kungenzeka ukuba ubeka uxinzelelo oluninzi kwi-crumb kwaye ubeke umthwalo ongenakubekezelelwa kuwo. Musa ukufuna kuye iziphumo zeOlimpiki kwiqela lezemidlalo okanye ubunkokheli kwiqela. Mdumiseni ngenxa yeempumelelo ezincinci kwaye ugxininise izenzo ezifanelekileyo.
Nika ixesha elaneleyo lokukhusela ukungabikho kwengqalelo. Ukuhlawulisa umthwalo weveki phakathi kweeholide zentsapho, kwaye uxakeke ngemini enencwadana ebusuku okanye incoko emfutshane kunye nengxoxo yosuku oludlulileyo. Ngendlela, ukuba wena
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, iziganeko ezininzi zibonakalisa ukuba umntwana uyakhohlisayo okanye uyaphambukisa inyaniso:
- omncinci akabukeli emehlweni akho, uhlala evala umlomo wakho ngesandla sakho, udonsa i-earlobe yakho okanye ulungise iinwele zakho;
- ubuso obungaqinisekanga, isantya sokuthetha ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza, omncinci uchitha ixesha;
- Ukuba ubuya kubuya, ngoko kwibali kuya kubonakala ukuba kuvele amaqiniso amatsha okanye adala aguqulwe.