Umntwana okhohlo

Xa abazali beqaphela ukuba umntwana wabo uyadla, aphuza, atsala ngesandla sakhe sobunxele, baqala ukuxhalabisa: umntwana usekhohlo! Oku kufumaneka kuphazamisekile, kuba inkunzi ayifani nabanye abantu. Ziyakwazi ukuqondwa, kuba umntwana unabantu abasesandleni esisekhohlo ubonakala ngathi unomdla. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali banquma ukuba umntwana kufuneka ahlaziywe. Kodwa ngokwenene, ngaba kuyimfuneko? Indlela yokuchonga umntwana oshiyiweyo? Kwaye ngokubanzi, yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana ekhohlo?

Kutheni umntwana ekhohlo?

Ubomi bomntu buqulethe i-hemispheres ezimbini: ngakwesobunxele, ojongene nokucinga nokungathethi kakuhle, kunye nelungelo, elijolise ekudaleni nasekucingeni. Phakathi kweengalo kunye ne-hemispheres zeengqondo eziwela iinjongo zentliziyo, ngoko xa ukulawula i-hemisphere elungileyo, umntwana ulawula kakuhle isilungu esisele. Ukulawula kommandla othile kuthintela iimpawu zengqondo yabantu. Ngoko ke, phakathi kwabangasemva, ipesenteji zabantu abanezipho zikhulu kakhulu: ziyimvumi kakhulu, ziyazi kakuhle i-brush nodongwe. Nangona kunjalo, abaxhasi basekhohlo banemvakalelo, bayicatshukiswa lula, baqhubeka.

Ingaba umntwana ushiyiweyo okanye unikwe ilungelo?

Ukuze kuqinisekiswe i-hemisphere ephezulu ukusuka kwi-crumb yakho, abazali kufuneka bagcine isandla somntwana ekwenziweni kwezenzo ezahlukeneyo. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ukushiya kwesokunxele kugqitywe ekupheleni kweminyaka emi-3-5. Kwaye ke, kwaye kungekhona ngaphambi kokuba abazali bacinge ngendlela yokuqonda ukuba umntwana ushiye isandla. Ngoko, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokufumana isandla esikhokelayo:

• cela umntwana ukuba atyebise unyawo lwakhe;
• qaphela indlela ikhefu edibene ngayo;
• unike itekityi encinane into yokudlala eyayithatha;
• Nika umntwana amabhokisi ambalwa ukuwavula;
• ubona uhlobo luni lwesandla umntwana ekupenda;
• Buza umntwana ukuba asule itafile nge-rag;
• Cela umntwana ukuba aphakamise into esuka phantsi;
• Nika umntwana iibhotile ezimbalwa kwaye ucele ukuba ahlasele iibhloko.

Uyazi njani ukuba umntwana uyakushiywa ngesiseko sale mi sebenzi? Kufuneka nje uqaphele ukuba yeyiphi isandla isana esenza isenzo esisebenzayo, oko kukuthi, isula itafile, ingayifaki iifom, ivula ibhokisi, njl njl.

Ukufunda ukuba umntwana uyakwesokunxele, abazali bayazibuza ukuba ngaba bangabafundisa kwakhona. Iengqondo zanamhlanje zichasene nale nto, kuba ukuhlaziya kufana nohlobo logonyamelo phezu kwengqondo yomntwana, olawulwa ngongqondo olufanelekileyo kwimvelo. Kamva, abantwana abahlaziyiweyo bafunda kakuhle, bacaphuke kwaye bacaphuke.

Ukuba umntwana wakho uyakushiya

Ukuqonda ukuba umntwana wakho levoruk, gxininisa oku akukufanelekanga. Abanye akufanele baphathe le nto njengento engavamile, ukuze umntwana angabi nantoni. Unako, ngokuchaseneyo, xelela lo mfana malunga nabasemagqabini abashiyekileyo, malunga neempumelelo zabo.

Akunakufaneka ukuba ugxeke u-crumb, umemeza kuye ukuba akaphumelelanga. Abanikeli bekhohlo banentlonelo kwaye banesichengeni, kwaye ekubeni bangenangqiqo banokuvalela.

Kubalulekile ukukhuthaza ukuthatha umntwana ngomculo, ukupenda okanye olunye uhlobo lobuchule.

Abazali kufanele balungiselele ukuba isikolo somntwana silindele iingxaki kunye nezifundo. Inyani kukuba yonke into igxile kubani-bambi-kwaye kubhala iileta kunye namanani okubandakanya. Kodwa indlela yokufundisa umntwana okhohlo ukuba abhale? Lungiselela isandla somntwana kwixesha lokufunda esikolweni: ukuthenga okanye ukwenza amathoyizi ngokwabo ukuphuhliswa kwezakhono ezifanelekileyo zezithuthi. Xa umntwana sele esele waba yiklasi lokuqala, qiniseka ukuba ubambe isibambo ngokuchanekileyo, ngaphandle koko isandla siya kudinwa. Ukuze kube lula, ungathenga izixhobo ezizodwa zeeofisi zexesha, kwaye uthuthukise izakhono zokubhala ziya kunceda iresiphi ekhethekileyo kubantu abashiya. Xa ubhala, incwadana kufuneka ifakwe kwi-20 °. Ukubhalwa kwileta nganye kufuneka kuboniswe kwindlela ehamba phambili.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umgcini wesobunxele usele ntsapho, abazali bafuna umonde kunye nokwamkelwa komntwana njengoko kunjalo.