Enyanisweni, abaninzi bethu baye bakuva into efana neloyiko lomntwana. Kodwa yintoni le nto, kwaye ukuba le nkwantyi yomntwana, kwaye ingakumbi yintsana, ibonakala - kungekhona wonke umntu onokuphendula. Yingakho incoko yethu namhlanje iya kuhamba ngendlela yokwenza uloyiko lwengane.
Iimpawu zokoyiko umntwana
Xa uthetha malunga nokwesaba kwabantwana, akusiyo ingqiqo ukwenza ukugcinwa kwesifo eso negama elisemthethweni ligama alingazi. Ngoko ke, kuchanekile ukuthetha ngeempawu, kodwa ngeempawu zokwesaba kumntwana kunoma yiphi ubudala, kuquka umntwana. Uloyiko ligama eliqhelekileyo lokukhushulwa kweentloni apho umntwana ekhula ngenxa yokoyika. Ewe, i-psyche yengane iseplastiki, kwaye ezininzi izinto ezidlulayo zidlule, zingashiyi nto. Kodwa ngezinye iimeko, kubangele ukwanda kwenyameko ekukhathazeni, okubonakaliswa ziziqendu zokukhala okungenangqondo, ukunciphisa ukutya, ukulala, ukungabikho komzimba, ukunyakaza okanye ukuphuculwa kwentetho. Isizathu sokwesaba kwintsana sinokuba sisandi esicacileyo, umzekelo, inja yokukhwaza okanye ukuqhuma kwezinto zokuqhuma umlilo, isandi sokuduma, ukuxabana kwekhaya. Ukwesabisa umntwana unokuqhaqha ibhaluni okanye uzame ngokunyanisekileyo ukumthabatha ezandleni zomntu omdala. Umsindisi uyayika, kwaye ebonakala ekhuselekileyo ngokukhunjulwa ngale ntsana, unokuqala ukwesabisa abazali ngesifuba nobusuku bobusuku, umnqweno usoloko uhamba nomama. Intsana evulekileyo neyovuyo, xa isaphila ingxolo, ingajika ibe yi-beech eneemisonto, igubungele nayiphi na isandi esibukhali.
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokubuyisela iimvuthu, ngokuqinisekileyo, siya kuba nothando olungapheli lomzali. Uya kukuxelela indlela yokuncedisa ngokufanelekileyo umntwana ukujamelana noyiko lwakhe: ukulandela umendo wezonyango okanye ukuphendukela kwiingcali zabantu. Kukho nawuphi na, indlela yokuphelisa ukwesaba iya kuba yinde kwaye inzima.