Ukuthanda ukupasa kwinyanga ngenye yezenzo zamandulo ezindala. Kwixesha la mandulo, ibhinqa ebudeni bexesha lokuya esikhathini lalibhekwa njengedemon eyaziwayo, kwaye igazi le mvelaphi lisetyenziselwa ubuninzi bezithethe. Ukupeliswa komntu ngale ndlela kulula, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukukususa, kuba kuthintela i-instincts. Uluhlu olunjalo luthando alubangelwa iimvakalelo, lunikeza kuphela ukukhangela okungenakulungileyo. Siza kujonga indlela yokuqaphela ukupasa ngothando kwimihla kunye nendlela yokulahla ngayo.
Imiqondiso yesipelo ngenyanga
Indoda eyaba yintlanzi yesipelo kwinyanga, iya kuba yintlungu yokudandatheka kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba, ekuziphatheni kwayo kuya kugcinwa kukungabikho komsindo okwenziwe ngumsindo. Ukunqwenela kunye nokunyaniseka kuyamthusa, uyabachasa, ufumane uxinzelelo oluninzi. Ukongeza, iimpawu zesipelo zilandelayo:
- kunciphise libido ukuya kumgangatho ophantsi;
- bhanya okanye ngokuphambene nokubukeka okungenasiphelo;
- ukugatywa kwemikhwa kunye nokubonakaliswa komntu ngamnye;
- unqwenela ukungathandabuzeki kokuqhawula, okubangela ukuba umntu abe necala kunye nobutshabayo kumntu kuye.
Eyona nto ibonakaliswe ngokugqithiseleyo iimpawu ezinjalo, ngokukhawuleza kulungile ukufumana ingcali efanelekileyo eya kukunceda ukususa ukuthanda upelo, de ibe waqala ukutshabalalisa ubuntu kunye nempilo yomntu.
Ungasusa njani ukupasa ngothando ngenyanga?
Ukuba uthando lwenyanga luyenziwe yintombazana ngokwayo, kwaye kungekhona yintlola yecandelo, ungayisusa wena. Kodwa umlingo oqinileyo, owenziwe ngumqeqeshi, unokususwa kuphela omnye umlingo onamandla.
Indlela elula yokususa isipeliso sothando ngoncedo lweenyanga nyanga lulandelayo:
- Kwiintsuku ezingamashumi amane ixhoba le spell kufuneka ligcine ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza. Utywala obungenakuvunyelwa, ugwayi, iiskese, inyama, ukutya okunamafutha.
- Ukuphuma emzimbeni kuya kuzo zonke iibisi ngeli xesha, kwaye ukuzinceda ngokwabo, kubalulekile imihla ngemihla ukusela amanzi angcwele, ukufunda ngeglasi "uBawo wethu".
- Bonke oonxibelelwano, unxibelelwano kunye nokuba uthethe ngecala lokupeliswa kufuneka lime. Umntu kufuneka afunde ukulandela iingcamango ngaye kwaye azibalekise kuye, aphazamiseke ngenye into.
- Emva kweentsuku ezingamashumi amane kufuneka uye ecaweni uze udlule isakramente yentlanganiso.
Ukuba uthando lwentsimbi lwenyanga aluzange luyenziwe ngutitshala, kodwa nge-amateur, oku kuya kukwanela ukuyilahla. Ukuba ubona ukuphucula, kodwa kungekhona ukuphilisa okupheleleyo, ukuzila ukutya kufuneka kuqhubeke. Ukuba oku akunakunceda, qhagamshelana nochwepheshe.