Umama Wamaxesha usoloko usenza imimangaliso. Enye yemimangaliso inelungelo lokubizwa ngokuba ngumvelaphi wobomi obutsha, umntwana omdala omlindeleyo kunye nomnqweno. Kubazali abaninzi, umhla apho umntwana wabo uza kubonakala ungabalulekanga kakhulu, ukuba kuphela umntwana ozalwe enempilo. Abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, zama ukucwangcisa ukukhulelwa ukuze ulungiselele ngokucacileyo ukuvela kommangaliso, ukulungisa iimpahla zonyaka, ukulungelelaniswa okufunekayo ngaphambili, kwaye ukhethe igama lomphathi wegama labo. Kodwa yintoni kanye imfuneko yokukhokelwa xa ukhetha igama lomntwana? Abazali bonke abayayazi impendulo yalo mbuzo.
- Zininzi iindlela ezahlukileyo zokukhetha, siza kugxininisa kubaluleke kakhulu: kuqala, igama kufuneka lidibanise negama eliphakathi kwaye lichazwe kalula, umzekelo - uAlexander Sergeevich okanye u-Elena Lvovna. Kodwa akukho nto iphosakeleyo xa ufuna "ukukhahlela" kwaye uthabathe igama elingalindelekanga. Nangona kunjalo, lungele ukulungiselela ukuba, umzekelo, u-Sigismund Arsenievich ngokwakhe uya kuthwala amandla amaninzi, kuba abantu abanamaqabana anqabileyo nabangavamile bahlala benempawu ezifanayo.
- Okwesibini, akuyimfuneko ukubiza lo mfana igama elinguqhawe eliqaqambileyo leencwadi ezinqulo, apho ude kwaye ungazibiza. Emva koko kukho iingxaki ngokubhaptizwa komntwana. Ewe, uya kubizwa ngelinye igama ukubonisa ubhaptizo kwincwadi yamabandla, kodwa, uyazi, mhlawumbi, umprofeti u-Mohammed ngokwakhe akafuni ukuxelela igama lakhe nommeli wenye inkolo.
- Omnye umthetho oqhelekileyo ngokubhekiselele ekukholweni kobuKristu kukuthiwa igama longcwele onokuhlonelwa ngomhla wokuzalwa komntwana. Kukholelwa ukuba ngale ndlela umntwana uya kuba phantsi kobomi bakhe bonke ubomi bakhe.
- Ukuba ngaba abazali abatsha abanalo naziphi na izimvo, sifanele siphenduke, sihlole ihlabathi elisijikelezile, ngamanye amaxesha imeko okanye ukudibanisa kweemeko zifuna ukukhetha okwenyani kuphela. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba intombazana yazalwa ngo-Meyi 1, kwaye nakwiidolophane lase-Maiskoe, u-Elena ufika engqondweni? Nantsi imeko ngokwayo ixelela amaMaya ukuba avele phambi kwehlabathi lonke uzuko lwayo!
- Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukubizwa ngegama lentsapho efile. Kukholelwa ukuba uya kulidla ilifa, kwaye kunye nayo intlungu kunye ne-fiasco yomdlali wokuqala. Kodwa ke kukho abo bacinga ukuba lo mgaqo "ulungele iindlebe" kwaye ungaboni nto ephosakeleyo ngunyana ethwele igama lomntakwabo othandekayo, onomusa kunye nozuko, okuyizinto ezilungileyo kuphela ezikhunjulweyo.
Ukukhethwa kwegama ngumsebenzi ngamnye. Abazali bavame ukuzithatha, ngamanye amaxesha izimo zokuzalwa zabantwana zifuna isigqibo, ngokuchasene neeminqweno zabanye, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu ukukholelwa komzali ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umntwana wakhe, ephethe eli gama, uya kuvuya, enempilo kunye neentente. Kwaye ngoncedo lwengcaciso kwiziko lethu unako ukuthabatha igama lentsana, ufumane intsingiselo yamagama, imihla yemihla, kunye nokuhambelana kwazo.