Ubutsha - I-Psychology

Sonke siyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuhlangabezana nomntwana ebusheni. Bobabini amantombazana kunye namantombazana akwazi ukulawuleka, musa ukuphendula xa ushilo kwaye uphukisa kakhulu nangona ziphi izizathu. Nangona umama noba bafumana ixesha elilukhuni ngeli xesha, kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba ngumzuzu onzima kakhulu kumntwana ngokwakhe, kuba akakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe kunye nezinye izenzo. Kule nqaku, siza kukuxelela ukuba zeziphi iimpawu ezivela ebusheni ngokwezengqondo.

Inkxalabo yobushushu kwizengqondo

Umntwana ngamnye, njengoko ekhula, ubhekane neenguqu ezahlukeneyo zomzimba kunye noququ. Ukususela kwiminyaka engama-11 ubudala, amakhwenkwe namantombazana banenkathazo eninzi yengqondo, ekhokelela ekuphuhliseni inkathazo enzima.

Isizathu sobunzima obunjalo sisekuveleni okungafaniyo kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo. Amantombazana kunye namantombazana ngeli xesha banokungaqiniseki ngokomzwelo, kwaye naziphi na izenzo ezingenasicalulo kunye nezenzo ezingalunganga kwicala labazali, abahlobo okanye abantu abangaziwayo bangakhokelela ekuphuculeni ukuxinezeleka okukhulu.

Ukususela kwingcamango yeengqondo, ubunzima obunzima kakhulu umntwana kufuneka anqobe ebusheni bakhe zilandelayo:

• Ububele obungavamile kwindlela abanye abantu abavavanya ngayo intombazana;
• Ukuzikhukhumeza okukhulu, ukukholelwa ukuba unokukwazi ukujamelana nayo nayiphi na imisebenzi ngaphandle kokuncediswa ngaphandle;
• izigwebo ezibukhali kunye nezigaba ezimalunga nabantu abazungezile;
• zonke iintlobo "zokugqithisa" - ukunyamezela kunye nokunyamekela kunye nokunyamekela nokungakhathaleli, ukunyaniseka okukrakra kunye nokuhlaselwa kunye nokuhlaziya kunye njalo;
• ukuphika kwegunya labazali kunye nabanye abantu abadala;
• ukudala izithixo kunye nokuqulunqwa kobuntu abangaqhelekanga, umzekelo, "iinkwenkwezi" zokubonisa ishishini.

Ukwahlukana kwengqondo yengqondo ebusheni kubafana kunye namantombazana

Ukususela kwinqanaba lokujonga ingqondo yengqondo, abantwana abasebancinci nabaseminyakeni yobudala beselula banesimo esifanayo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ulwahlulo oluthile omele ulunake xa uthetha nomntwana wakho, umzekelo:

• abafana baphulaphula ngokunyamekela imiyalelo yabadala kunamantombazana. Ukuba abafana bezona zihlandlo ziqala ukulandela abantwana abadala, amantombazana aqiniseke kuphela ngokwabo;
• amantombazana akhathalela kakhulu utshintsho kwimbonakalo yabo kunye nokuvavanya kakubi kwabanye;
• abafana abasebuntwaneni babesoloko bebonisa ubuchule obuhlukile, abazama ngamandla abo ukubonisa abanye. Amantombazana, ngokuchaseneyo, alahlekelwa ngamathuba afanelekileyo, ukuba beseneminyaka engama-10 ubudala.

Nangona ininzi abazali ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwintsapho yabo balahlekile kwaye abazi ukuba baziphathe njani, umntu kufuneka ahlale ezolile kuzo zonke iimeko aze azame ukubeka uxinzelelo kumntwana. Khumbula ukuba unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho inzima kakhulu kunokuba wena, kuba uya kuba nexesha elimangalisayo kwaye lide elifunekayo ukuba uphile.

Njengomthetho, xa uneminyaka eyi-16-17 inzima iqala ukuhla, kwaye ubuninzi beengxaki ziyancipha. Yiba nesineke, kwaye emva kwexesha uza kubona ukuba kulula ukuthetha kunye ne-scion yakho ekhulile.