Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa ukuba uninzi lwabantu abaselula lubuza ukuba "ukuhlambuluka" kukuphi, abaninzi baya kukuchaza njengento ethile yexesha elidlulileyo, kungekhona kulo lonke elifanelekileyo kulo mnikelo. Kodwa, ukuba uthethe ngokunyanisekileyo, akukho nto isondo ngakumbi kunokuba uhlambuluke ngokomoya, ugcine ubumsulwa.
Ukuthetha ngokuqhelekileyo, ubumsulwa bubulumko bokuphila, ukunyaniseka kwezenzo, iingcamango, ukungcola kwangaphakathi, okuphambili kwexesha elingunaphakade, iinjongo eziphezulu ngaphezu kwexesha elithandayo, ezinonophelo ezonakalisayo.
Akunjalo imfesane imfesane kufuneka ifake ingubo kumgangatho. Emva kwakho konke, ubumsulwa bubona isimo sengqondo esibalulekileyo kuye nakwabanye.
Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, loo nto intombazana ithandwa ngokukodwa kubantu. Akumangalisi ukuba isiqhamo esinqatshelwe sihle. Kwaye ukudala intsapho, ngobudlelwane obunzulu, bafuna ubunobuntu obunjalo. Akukho namnye ongayenqaba umfazi ohlakaniphileyo.
Intsingiselo yegama elithi "ubumsulwa"
Ngokomlando, eli gama lisetyenziswe ngentsingiselo eyahlukeneyo, nangona uxhulumano olude kunye nesithethe senkolo. Ngoko, ukuhlambuluka rhoqo kuthetha ubuntombi, ukuzithiba, ukuziphatha ngokukhawuleza.
Isibhambathiso sobumsulwa
Kuyaziwa ukuba ubumsulwa ngumgangatho wokuziphatha kubo bonke abathi bangamaKristu. Isibhambathiso sobunyulu senziwa nge-tonsure. Akunalo kuphela ukugcina ubuntombi bomzimba, kodwa nokugcina ubunyulu bomoya, iingcamango nokucinga. Emva koko, iingcamango zesono ziyahambelana. Kuphela kumntu ukugweba umntu, indlela engalindelekanga ukuba abe nekhanuko yesono esinesono. Ngenxa yezizathu zonqulo, isifungo sobunyulu sibizwa ngokuba yi-celibacy. Ukubeleka kwamkelwa ngabo bonke abo bathetha ukunikela ubomi babo kwinkonzo kaThixo.
Ubungcwele beBelt
Kwimbali yoluntu kukho le ngcamango, yinto enomtshini owawuvalela umfazi kwindoda yokubetha. Kubonakala kwiGrisi yamandulo. Amaxhoba ale divayisi ayegqoke "ibhanti elungileyo" ukuze amlondoloze ekukhulelweni okungafunekiyo. Emva kokuzala umntwana, amakhoboka awazange asebenze, kwaye oku akuzange kuzuze abanini-khoboka. Ngoko ibhande lesikhumba lalinamacala amabini: ibhinqa lokuqala lalingenayo inqindikazi, okwesibini, kwadlula phakathi kwemilenze yakhe. Esebenzisa kakhulu izixhobo ezinjalo ngexesha eliphakathi.
Ibhande lesikhumba ayilona nje into efanelekileyo yokwenzakala. Emva koko, lo lwakhiwo olunzima lwaluquka inani elikhulu lokukhiya elalikhusele inxalenye engaphantsi yowesifazane. Yalungiselela ukuvula okuncinci ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zemvelo. Kuhlambulukile kobuqu kwaye akufanelekile ukuthetha.
Isitshixo esisodwa esivela kuloo bhanti yayigcinwe malunga neqabane.
Ubumsulwa kunye nesilingo zichasene nezimvo. Kwaye kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, naphezu kokusasazeka kwale mihla, owokuqala uxabiseke kakhulu.
Ngoko, akusayi kubakho ukuqaphela ukuba ukuhlambuluka kweCaucasus kuyona nto ibalulekileyo ekukhetheni umfazi ozayo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuhlambuluka nokuhlanzeka kugcina inhlonipho nesidima salo lonke uhlobo kuze kube namhlanje. Akukho mntu uvuthayo ngomnqweno wokuphazamisa imbali ngohlobo "lomtshato ongcolileyo". Oku kuphakamisa ukuba ukugcina ubumsulwa ngaphambi komtshato kuyinto ebalulekileyo phakathi kwezizwe zaseCaucasus. Kwaye ngoko amantombazana aseCaucasus agcina ukungcwaliswa kwengcwele kwixesha elizayo elikhethiweyo, ngokungafani nolutsha lolutsha, olubhekisa ubumsulwa, ukugcinwa kwalo kufuneka kukhuliswe ukususela ebuntwaneni.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba okwangoku, loo mbono njengobungqina bendoda buqhelekile. Lawa madoda angakwazi ukuphumelela empilweni, kodwa ngubani ofuna ukufikelela kwiinjongo eziphezulu, angazivumeli ukubala amanqaku emincili.
Ngoko, ngokukhawuleza kuyafaneleka. Kwisoloko ihlaziywa, kwaye iya kuxabiswa kakhulu kunokugqithisileyo, ukufikelela. Emva koko, umntu omsulwa uyabahlonela aze azithande yena, oku kuthetha ukuba abanye baya kumphatha.