Umona wecala awuniki ukuphumla. Ndifuna ukubuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo, ukulungisa iintshukumo ezinobulungisa kwaye ndonwabele ubomi bam bonke. Hayi, oku akunakwenzeka, umatshini wexesha awunakwenziwa. Sifanele sihlale apha kwaye ngoku, sinyamekele yonke imizuzu yethu kwaye sifumane amandla okuxolela zethu iimpazamo.
Inentliziyo ikati
I-Samoothestvo okanye i-self-flagellation yenye yezona zinto "zizithandayo" zoluntu. Ukuzisola, ukufumana imfesane kwabanye kuba nethemba elihle. Ngoko i-psyche ihlelwe ukuba ifune izizathu, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ibuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo. Abo bangenakuzixolelanisa baze baxolele "iimpazamo" zabo, bezama "peresnjat" icebo lobomi babo, ngokwengqondo bethabatha amatsha amanyathelo kunye nezinto ezintsha ezinokuzenza. Kodwa simele sikhumbule ukuba eziseleyo zidlulile kwixesha elidlulileyo. Xa ungeke ukwazi ukulungisa nantoni na, kungcono ukucinga ngemiphumo kwaye uzame ukuyihambisa, endaweni yokuzitshabalalisa ngaphakathi.
Iimeko ezininzi ebomini azixhomekeke kuthi. Awukwazi ukuba uya kukhubeka nini na. Awukwazi ukwenza utshani kuyo yonke indawo. Awukwazi ukulawula yonke into. "Kwakungekho mfuneko ukuba uye apho kwaye uhambe kakhulu, ngoko bekungayi kundiphanga ...". Akunakunqanda ukuphikisa ngale ndlela. URob unako kunye naphakathi kwentsuku, kwaye kwindawo ephakamileyo, naphi na naphina xa i-gangster ifuna. Kwaye ukuba kunjalo, kutheni sizigxeka kwiimeko ezinje, ziziphi izizathu?
Indlela yokulahla samoyedstva?
Ingqiqo yecala inqanda umntu ukuba "abuyele". Ukugxininisa kwiziganeko ezenzeke ngaphambili, akayikuhlawula ingqalelo into efunekayo yokuphila.
Kubalulekile ukuyeka ukuzimela, kuba kungenjalo unobungozi bokuzilimaza kunye nempilo yakho. Landela iziphakamiso ezingezantsi:
- nceda wamkele iimeko. Ukuxoxisana nento eyenze yenzeke yinto yokuqala omele uyenze;
- zama ukufumana "pluses". Iziganeko ezinokuthi zichithwe nakweyiphi na imeko, le yinto enye yengqondo yethu;
- uyavuma ngokungahambi kwakhe. Kwiimeko ezifanayo, ezifana nokuphanga okanye, uThixo akavumelekanga, ukuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo ngokungekho. Kumele kuqatshelwe kwaye iyeke ukuziva ixanduva malunga noko kwenzekayo;
- bafumana inkuthazo yokuphila kwangomhla. Zivuselele ngeinjongo, iphupha lakho. Kukho ixesha elininzi eliqaqambileyo nelovuyo ebomini, ngenxa yokuba kulungile ukuhlala. Fumana amandla okujamelana ne ntlekele, ukubuyisela kwizinto ezimbi kwaye uhambe kunye nentloko yakhe ephakamileyo.