Namhlanje, abantu abaninzi bavela kwihlabathi abagxeka abanye, kwaye abanye abantu bachitha ixesha labo begxeke indlela abanye abahlala ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, akufanele ubeke ingqalelo kunoma ubani ... Akudingeki ukuba uchaze nabani na uhlobo luni lokuphila, yintoni na okhethayo ebomini.
Yonke into ebalulekileyo yimiva yemihla ngemihla yokuba uyonwabile kwaye uyayithanda ubomi. Ukuba uhlala ngokwenyaniso yakho, akufanele ube neentloni okanye uxolise kumntu. Abanye abantu akufanele baqaphele indlela ohlala ngayo ubomi bakho, ngoko ungaze uxolise ngezinto ezilandelayo:
1. Ezi zinto ziphambili.
Oko ufuna umnwabo ubizwa ngokuba yingcamango yobugovu, ingcamango. Enyanisweni, akukho mntu kodwa unokukuvuyisa. Ukuzizalisa ngokwentlalo enokuthi ibe yinto ephambili ebomini.
Ukuba uthathe ubomi bakho ezandleni zakho kwaye ungalindeli ukuba umntu akufundise indlela yokuphila, ngoko sele sele ufunde izakhono ezibalulekileyo zokuzithuthukisa. Siyi-100% enoxanduva lobomi bethu, kwaye kuphela ngokubeka iminqweno yethu kwindawo yokuqala, sinokuvuya kwaye sincede abanye. Emva koko, sinokubanceda njani abanye ukuba, okokuqala, asincede thina?
2. Ukulandela amaphupha akho.
Ukuba ufuna izinto ezininzi ukusuka ebomini, akukwenzi ukuba ungathobeli okanye uchithe. Yenza ube nesifiso. Oku kuthetha ukuba unenjongo kunye namaphupha, kwaye ufuna ukuzifezekisa ngelixa kukho ithuba. Awuvumelani nancinci kunokuba uyakwazi. Abanye bangakubona nje ngokuba uphuphayo ongeke athole uvuyo, kodwa ekugqibeleni, akunandaba nokuba abanye bacinga ntoni.
Unako ukubulela into enikwa ngayo ebomini, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo, uzame ngakumbi, ngoko ukuphupha akubi.
3. Ukukhetha ixesha.
Kule hlabathi elitshintshayo ngokukhawuleza, ininzi lethu sichitha ixesha elininzi sinyamekela abanye size sanelise iimfuno zabo, sikhohlwe iimfuno zabo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba asiyi kugcwalisa "iikomityi zonwaba," ngoko sinokuzalisa njani abanye?
Zikhonze kwaye uzicabange ngawe - kungekhona ukuzingca, kuyimfuneko nje kwimpilo yethu. Akufanele unxolise ngesimemo esinqatshiwe okanye ukwenqaba umntu ukuba azikhathalele. Enoba ubeke iholide kwihotele yeenkwenkwezi-5 okanye uthatha usuku lonke kwi-Spa, akufanele uzive unetyala.
4. Ngokukhetha kwakho iqabane.
Akukho mntu unokugqiba isigqibo sokuba ngubani oza kuba nawe namhlanje. Akukho mntu kodwa unokwenza isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi imakhwenkwe okanye amantombazana oyithandayo, ngoko akufuneki ukuba neentloni. Musa ukunyanzelisa umntu ukuba anyuke ebudlelwaneni bakho. Nangona uthanda ngokwenene kwaye ukulungele ukunakekela umntu, akukho mntu unelungelo lokugweba ukhetho lwakho. Sonke sinye, size sithande ubomi kulowo nalowo wethu. Ukuba umntu engavumelani nendlela ohlala ngayo kunye kunye naye odibana naye, ngoko ke abangabikho ebomini bakho.
5. Ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo zakho.
Ngelishwa, iimvakalelo ngexesha lethu ziye zaba yintloni. Uninzi lwexesha esichitha kuluntu apho kufuneka siphulaphule okanye siphulaphule, kodwa singabonakalisi iimvakalelo. Ungavumeli umntu ukuba akuxelele ukuba awukwazi ukuveza ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zakho. Kakade, musa ukuthukuthela esidlangalaleni kumphathi, ukuba akakuphakamisi kwinkonzo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba siphila kuluntu apho kungamkelekanga ukuzithetha. Ewe, yonke imvakalelo kukho ixesha kunye nendawo, kodwa akufanele nanini ukuba neentloni malunga noko uvakalelwa ngethuba.
6. Indlela ofumana ngayo imali.
Akunandaba nokuba ufumana iibhiliyoni okanye amakhulu eminyaka, ukuba oko wenzayo kukulethela ulonwabo. Ukuba umsebenzi uvumela ukuba uzincede wena kunye nosapho lwakho, nangona kungakhange kuthathelwe ingqalelo kakhulu kwaye uyayithanda, uze ungavumi ukuba umntu enze ukuba ucinge ngenye indlela.
7. Ngenxa yokuba uhlale unethemba.
Ehlabathini apho abantu besitsho njalo kuthi: "Yithemba okulungileyo, kodwa lungiselela kakhulu", kunzima ukuhlala unethemba. Nangona kunjalo, ezininzi izazinzulu kunye nabaphandi emhlabeni jikelele bayazibona iingenelo zokucinga okulungileyo, phakathi kwabo - ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, ixesha elide lobomi, ukuphuhlisa ukucinga okucinga.
Imoya emihle kumaxesha anzima kunokudala ummangaliso kwaye usenze sibe namandla ngakumbi kwaye sikwazi ukujongana kangcono neengxaki.
8. Kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Abanye abantu bathanda ukukhumbula iimpazamo zabanye esikhathini esidlulileyo. Kodwa ngelixa begxeka wena kunye nobomi bakho, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba oko ufumene nakho ngamava oye wakhupha konke okufunekayo. Ekupheleni kobomi, siya kuba neempawu zethu kunye neenkumbulo, ngoko ungavumeli nabani na ukuba basuse kuwe. Siphila kwaye sifunde, kwaye idlulileyo lethu alichazi.
9. Yintoni oyidlayo.
Abantu bathanda ukuxelela abanye indlela yokutya okufanelekileyo nokuba yini eyenza bazive bebhetele, kodwa, ekugqibeleni, kufike kuwe. Kanye njengoko akufanele ubenzele abanye indlela yokutya ngokufanelekileyo, ungavumeli abantu baqaphele indlela yokutya. Iimvumba zigxekisa inyama zokutya kwaye zicinga ukuba oku kukudla okuthe tye kubo bonke abantu, kodwa, eneneni, kuphela unokugqiba isigqibo sokuba kukuphi, kungekhona omnye umntu.
10. Ukubiza "okuqhelekileyo".
Abanye abantu bathanda kakhulu ukufumana iphoso kwimimandla emininzi yobomi babantu, ukwenzela ukuba aba bahlazo babe neentloni ngendlela abahlala ngayo. Sidinga ukuhlala enyanisweni yethu, nxamnye noko abanye bathi. Khumbula, ukuba umntu uvakalelwa usongelo ukusuka kwicala lakho, uya kukukhwele. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu baziva bengakhululekile kwaye bengonwabanga ubomi babo ukuze baziva bebe bhetele, badinga umntu ukuba axubushe, abone umona.
Akukho mfuneko yokuxolisa xa ufuna abantwana bakho bafunde esikolweni sasekhaya, badle ukutya abakhulile kwimiyezo yabo kwaye bafuna ukufundisa abantwana babo ngokubakhombisa ubomi boqobo, kungekhona oko babonisayo kumabonwakude. Wonke umntu ufanele aphile ubomi obuya kumsondeza.
11. Ngokwakho umbono.
Unokumhlonela umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uluvo lwabanye. Ukuba unombono, unganqikazi ukuyiveza, nangona ingahambelani nembono yesininzi. Ihlabathi alisoze litshintshe xa sishiya izimvo zethu kuthi, kuba ngamaxesha onke iimbono ezilungileyo zizalwa kwiimbono zethu kunye nembono.