Xa wena nomyeni wakho niseyunithi epheleleyo ebantwini, kwiphepha, nangona kukho iimbambano kunye nokungavumelani kwindlu, unokufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko kwaye ulungelelanise yonke into ukuze indoda ingashiyi intsapho. Imigudu embalwa nje iyadingeka. Kodwa xa kwenzeka ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho sele niqhawule, kuya kuba nzima kunzima ukulungisa imeko. Ngokukodwa ukuba nguye owenza isigqibo.
Ukuba umyeni uphumile, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba ukwazi ukuyibuyisela. Kodwa okokuqala, zifake ngaphakathi kuwe, ngendlela oye waphatha ngayo yonke eli xesha. Ukuze ukwazi ukuba wenzeni ukubuyisela umyeni wakhe, kufuneka uchaze ngokucacileyo ukuba yintoni isizathu sokuhamba kwakhe, ukuba akakuthandi njalonjalo.
Iindlela zokubuyisela umyeni wakhe
Impendulo yempendulo yombuzo othi "Ndingathini na ukuba umyeni wakho othandekayo?" Ngaba baninzi, kodwa akuzona zonke ezifanelekileyo kule nto okanye kuloo meko. Masinike isiluleko esibalulekileyo esibalulekileyo kwinto enokwenziwa ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuba isiphumo siphumelele.
1. Ibhunga lokuqala: Ukuba ebomini obumbene wawuyi-initiator of scandals, iimbambano kunye neenkqubo, ngoko, nangona uqhawule umtshato , mbize, nithethe kwaye nixolele ngokunyanisekileyo zonke iziphazamiso ezibangelwa kanye. Akufuneki ukuba umcele ngqo ukuba abuyele ekhaya, kufuneka uwathathe amagama anjalo, emva koko yena ngokwakhe uya kuwufuna.
Ukuba umntu uyakuthanda kwaye uyashiya ngenxa yokuba uzame, nangona ungazi kakuhle, kuyo yonke into ekhoyo ukuba 'uphile kulo mbane,' ngoko, ukuva amazwi enceba, uya kucinga ngokubuya. Ngethuba le "truce" kwaye emva kwayo, zama ukulawula ukukhupha kwakho. Wena ungumfazi, kwaye abafazi kufuneka babe bulumko. Yiya kwi-compromise.
2. Ibhunga lesibini: Kukho imeko echaseneyo, xa ibhinqa lincinci, likhulu kakhulu, luthando. Uyamhlonela ethembekileyo aze amxolele ngokupheleleyo zonke izinto ezimbi. Indoda ingumfazi, umzingeli, usegazini lakhe, kwaye uzama "ukufumana" umfazi, nangona athe watshata naye.
Ukuba intombazana iyaqonda ukuba i-antics yakhe iya kunyamezelwa yintombi engaphezu komthandi wayo, "uya kukhanda ngobu budenge ngokuthandana" kuze kube sekupheleni kwekhulu kunye nokushiya intsapho. Kodwa ukuba yena, eyazi zonke i-pluses kunye ne-minuses yakhe, uya kuphulaphula rhoqo xa ehamba phambili kwaye engcono kunaye emhlabeni, ngoko kuya kuba neemeko ezahlukileyo. Ekuqaleni, wayeya kuthotywa, kodwa ke - abafundisi, baya kuba buhlungu. Ukuba uqaphela umxholo othi "ukudumisa nokubonisa indoda yakho ethandekayo", mbonise ukuba unomlingiswa , ukuba unokuba nemvakalelo kwaye unengcamango.