Nayiphi na ubudlelwane bokuqala bubukeka njengenganekwane, kodwa emva kweminyaka embalwa iqabane lijongene nomoya wabo womtshato kunye nefuthe elingakaze lenzeke emehlweni abo. Oku kuya kuqinisekiswa kungekhona ngenye ibhinqa. Ukuze ubuyele kuye umdla wendoda ethandekayo, ngokukrakra ngokwaneleyo, ngokulula. Into ephambili yokukhumbula ngokuphathelele ubulumko bentombi yincinci elincinci kuluntu ngamnye.
Indlela yokubuyisela umdla womyeni wakhe?
Ukuze uhlaziye iimvakalelo zangaphambili zethenda, iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba ulahlekise amatyala, xolele umthandi wakho. Ubudlelwane kufuneka buhlale buphuculwa, kwaye nayiphi na inguqu enokuthi ayinakwenzeka ukuba, kunye nabo, baphathe kunye nomthwalo wokuhlambalaza, amazwi angathethiweyo, ukukrakra nokudabuka.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba usuku lokuqala xa ufumanisa ukuba nguye kuphela owayefuna ukumelana nayo yonke iminithi yovuyo kunye nemimozulu embi. Hlala emva, vala amehlo akho uze uzame ukugxila kwilo xesha. Zama ukuphendula le mibuzo elandelayo:
- Ndiyintoni ngoko?
- kutheni ndiyamtsala?
- Ngaba ndingabuyisela le mpawu yomlingisi , ukuziphatha nokunye?
- Ngaba ndilungele ukutshintsha ukuze ulwalamano lwethu luzaliswe uthando lolutsha kunye nexesha elingalibalekiyo lonwabo?
Kubalulekile ukuba ube ngumfazi ongekho mntu ufuna ukushiya. Kwaye akubheki ngabantu abathandekayo abafuna ukugcina umthandi wabo phantsi kwesithende, ngokuhlwa, ukulungiselela imibala yekhwele kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zeemidlalo ezingenasidingo.
Ngeke kubekho ukuthetha ukuba abaninzi abafazi abafumana isitampu kwiipasipoti zabo, bayeka ukuzikhathalela, babukele ukubukeka kwabo. Njengoko uyazi, amadoda anjengamehlo kunye nale ndaba idala nje ngehlabathi, kodwa abantu abaninzi banokulibala malunga nalo.
Ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba ngumnye oya kuyika ukulahlekelwa. Kwaye,
Kubalulekile ukufunda ukufihla imvakalelo yakho encinci, kwaye ungamthumeli umyalezo ngamnye ngomzuzu. Yonke into ifanele ibe ngokumodareyitha kwaye oku akufanele kululibale.