Amaphupha apho ubona othandekayo, yinto eqhelekileyo. Mhlawumbi awuzange uvumele ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo kunye nezinga elingaphantsi kwengqondo onalo. Iphupha elinjalo linokuba yinkcazelo kuwe ukuba lixesha lokuba uqhubele phambili kwisigaba esitsha ebomini uze uthi intlekele kwixesha elidlulileyo. Itokiki inikezela ezininzi ukutolika kwemifanekiso ebonwayo.
Ngokusekelwe kwiinkolelo ezithandwayo, umntu ovela kumaphupha akho, ngokuqinisekileyo ucinga ngawe, ukuba ngokumalunga nomlingane owayengumlingani akakwazi ukunceda ukuzithemba.
Yintoni umlingani wangaphambili aphupha ngalo?
Ukulala kululeka ukuba ebomini bobubomi uza kwenza isenzo sokukhawuleza, esiza kukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi. Xa umntu owayengumfana ebonisa ukuva okufudumalayo - ngumqondiso wokuba ufanele ulungiselele ukuxakeka, kwaye kungekhona nje ukulungelelanisa. Ukuba ephupheni uya kumanga nomlingane wangaphambili, ngoko, kwikamva elikufutshane, ulindele ukutshatyalaliswa. Ukwabelana naye ngesondo kunye naye uthembisa ukugqithiswa kwemfazwe emdala.
Esinye isizathu sokuba umntu owayengumfana osempilweni amaphupha angenakuthelekiswa naye kunye naye. Zama ukushiya lo msebenzi, njengoko oku kungabangela iingxaki ezinzulu ngokwenene. Iphupha malunga nomlingani wangaphambili unokufanisa ubukho bokuba noyiko okanye ukungcatsha kubathandekayo. Xa ubona iqabane elidlulileyo litshatile kwaye lonwabile - uphawu lokuba ngokwenene uya kumxolela umntu ngenxa yokuhlambalaza. Ukuba uzibona njengomfazi wendoda ebengumfana, kufuneka ulungiselele uxhalabo kunye neengxaki. Ukuchazwa kwesizathu sokuba umthandi wangaphambili ephupha ngokumomothekayo-obunokubakho ngobomi bokwenene ungathandabuzeki ngokungathandabuzeki ubuhlobo bakho obukhoyo.
Ephupheni, ubonile uthando lwakho lokuqala, mhlawumbi, lufanekisela ukuba udinwe ngumntu omdala, ogcwele uxanduva, ukukhathala, njl. UDreambook uncoma kulo mzekelo ukuphazamisa, umzekelo, uhambahamba okanye wenze intlanganiso yothando.
Fumana isipho sokuphupha kumntu owayekade esithandana naye - i-harbinger yokungcatshiswa kwangaphambili kwikamva elikufutshane. Ukuba ubetha okanye ubulala iqabane elidlulileyo, ngoko kwixesha elizayo uza kuba nethamsanqa kuzo zonke iinjongo. Umtyholi ucebisa ukuba angabi noloyiko aze athathe isigqibo nakwiindawo ezithandabuzayo. Iphupha apho ubona umntu owayengumthandi olwalamano olutsha, ukhuthaza umntu onolwazi olutsha oluya kukuvumela ukuba wenze ubudlelwane. Xa ungakhange uqaphele umntu wangaphambili ephupheni - luphawu lotshintsho olubalulekileyo ebomini, kungekuphela kwakho. Kwakhona, iphupha libikezela intlanganiso enokwenzeka kunye nomnye owayengumlingani.
Kutheni ukuba uthando lwangaphambili luhlala luphupha?
Kule meko, kufuneka ucinge ngokucophelela uze uziqonde ngokwakho, mhlawumbi iimvakalelo kunye nokunxibelelana phakathi kwakho ukhona, kwaye unako ukulungisa. Umntu owayesakuba ngumntu uhlala ephupha, kodwa ngelo xesha unalo uthando olutsha, ngoko ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba unalo uthando olwaneleyo nothando,
Yintoni umfana owayefile ephuphayo?
Kule meko, iphupha lingasilumkiso sokuba unengozi enkulu. Ukuba umntu ofileyo ephupheni unokukunceda ukujamelana neengxaki okanye ukukusindisa kwingozi enkulu - lo mqondiso oza kukuxelela ukuba ungaphantsi kokukhuselwa okungabonakaliyo okuya kuhlangabezana neengxaki ezininzi.