Ubudlelwane besondo buyinto ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngamanye amaqabane aneemfihlelo zayo, ezinye zazo esiza kuzama ukuzisombulula.
Kwabesilisa abathile, ukulala ngesimo sengqondo sokuphumla
Kukho amaxesha apho umntu enzima kakhulu kwaye anikezele, ukwabelana ngolwazi olumkhathazayo, akafuni kwaye ngelixa adinga kuphela ngesondo kuphela. Kunqabile kakhulu kubakho abameli bezesondo ezinamandla abanokuveza iimvakalelo zabo, iintlungu, ukwesaba okanye ukudideka. Ngaloo ndlela, ixesha elithile umntu uyasindisa yonke le mvakalelo ngaphakathi kwakhe, aze aphumele ngaphandle kunye kunye nokuqhelekileyo, ngokucinga kwakhe, ngendlela yesondo. Abasetyhini ngenye indlela ejikeleze, ukuba bakhathazekile ngento ethile, kunzima ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini. Kwaye ngamadoda, ubuhlobo bobulili ngamanye amaxesha kuphela indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo. Abasetyhini abaninzi banamava enjengeemvakalelo kwaye baziziva besetyenziswe.
Indlela yokusombulula le ngxaki?
Zama ukuthetha nomlingane, kodwa kungekhona ngexesha lesini. Eyona nto ibhetele, ingaboni ukubonakala ukuba iyanelise iimfuno zayo, kwaye emva koko kuzisa ingxoxo ebalulekileyo. Nika iqabane ukuba uqonde ukuba uyamqonda, kwaye ungasolanga ngokuziphatha okunjalo. Ukuba uyayiphika indoda ehlala kuyo ngaphandle kwesizathu esibalulekileyo, uya kuziva engeyomfuneko kwaye uyatshatyalaliswa.
Ukuba umntu uqala ukutshatyalaliswa, ngokucacileyo umvumele ukuba azi ukuba ufuna ukulala ngesondo, kwaye uyasichukumisa ngamazwi athi "Ndiyeke", ndikholelwe, ngexesha elizayo angenakukufuna. Wonke umntu ulala ngesimo sengqondo sakhe esifihlekileyo, kwaye uyayinqabela. Ngaloo mihla, intanda ethandekayo iyazihlazisa kwaye iyakhathazeka kakhulu ngale nto. Ibinzana lakho - "Ndikhathele", uyaziqonda - "Awunamkeli, andikuthandi." Ngako oko kubonakala ukuba amadoda athande abesifazana abangafihla umnqweno wabo kwaye bahlale bekulungele ukulala ngesimo, banjalo bazive benokuzithemba kwaye banqatshelwe.
Ukuba ukhathele ngokwenene kwaye unganamandla okulala, cacisa yonke into kuye ngokuzolileyo kunye neengxabano. Emva koko, akafanele abe namahloni aze ahlaselwe. Yithi uyamthanda kunye nesondo kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ngoku ayikho ixesha elifanelekileyo, kuba naye unemiba enjalo.
Ukulungiswa akuthethi ukuba nesifiso sokulala ngesondo
Abasetyhini abaninzi baya kumangaliswa, kodwa ukulungiswa kwindoda kungekuthethi ukuba uyavuswa ngesondo kwaye ufuna ukulala naye. Ukuze kucace, makhe siqwalasele izizathu zokumiswa, ezingabandakanywa nokuvuswa kwesondo:
- Ukulungiswa kwasekuseni kudla ngokuba ngenxa yokuba umntu unesisindo esipheleleyo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, uxinzelelo kwicandelo elincinci leeplavis landa.
- Ukugquma kweengubo ezinxibileyo kunokukhuthaza ukulungiswa, kunye nayo yonke into, kuba ipenis ikhona
inani elikhulu lokuphela kweentlungu, ukuxabana okwandisa ukuhamba kwegazi. - Ukulungiswa kuthintela uxinzelelo , kuba ngeli xesha imithwalo yegazi iminyene, kwaye ngenxa yoko, uxinzelelo luyanda.
Ngaba nesondo okanye uthando?
Amadoda ahluke kakhulu kwabesetyhini, kwaye ukuba uthanda ukuthandana, bakhetha ukuzithemba kunye nesondo esifanelekileyo, ngokukodwa xa kufuneka ulahlekelwe uxinzelelo kunye nokukhathala, abangenabo abahlobo abangcono kakhulu abathandekayo ngabaninzi abasetyhini.