Imilinganiselo yokuphila yangamhlanje idinga inzondelelo eninzi, siyaqhubeka sifunda kwaye sikhula, sizama ukunika abantwana bethu imfundo enhle kwaye siqhube kuzo zonke izikolo zophuhliso kunye njalo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuphuhliswa kwenkcubeko yomntwana. Uya kuphi na umntwana ukuba akhulise le nqanaba lezithethe? Ungayisebenzisa njani ixesha kunye nenzuzo kwaye ushiye imvakalelo ecacileyo? Makhe sibone oko unokucinga ngako nendlela yokuchitha iveki kunye nomntwana, apho ungahamba nayo yonke intsapho.
Uya kuphi ukuhamba nomntwana?
Ngokusoloko kusihlwa, oomama kunye nabantwana bathabatha umntwana wabo ukuhamba baze bangene ngaphambi kokulala, kodwa, njengommiselo, awuhambi ngaphezu kwepaki yesithili. Umntwana onjengaye kwaye uthetha noontanga, ngabazali phakathi kwabo, kodwa kukho indawo ezininzi apho ixesha lingasetyenziselwa ukuzonwabisa kwaye kunenzuzo! Nazi izicwangciso ezimbalwa kubazali apho ungahamba nomntwana wakho mahhala okanye ngokuchitha imali encinane:
- Imiboniso yezilwanyana. Sihlawula ingqalelo encinane kwiiposters kunye nezipapasho malunga neziganeko ezikwisixeko sethu. Iimvakalelo ezininzi kumntwana ezibangela ukuqhagamshelana nabazalwana abancinci, ukunciphisa imvumba kwimiboniso yeekati okanye izinja, amathikithi apho (ukuba kukho) ukuba, ngokusemthethweni, angabizi.
- Kukho indawo ezininzi apho ungaya khona umntwana ukuba uphumle emva kweveki yomsebenzi. Ukuba umzi unomlambo , ulunge ngokuhlwa (ikakhulukazi ehlobo) ukuze ulungiselele isidlo sakusihlwa ngesimo sepikinikini elunxwemeni.
- Ngaba uyaqiniseka ukuba uyazi malunga nayo yonke iminyuziyamu edolophu yakho ? Ngokuqinisekileyo awuzange ube kwiimyuziyam ixesha elide, kutheni ungahambi khona nomntwana - kunokuba lunolwazi olungakumbi kunanoma iyiphi iphepha le-Intanethi!
- Kunzima kakhulu ukukhetha apho uhamba khona nomntwana omncinci . Kodwa ukususela kwiminyaka engama-2.5 kulungele ukubonisa i-puppet theater kumntwana-ihlala ilwandle. Ngendlela, kubazali, le nto ikwazisa ukucinga: inqaku elonwabisayo ukunqabana, ungayilungiselela loo ndawo yaseshashalazini ekhaya.
- Ngekhefu, unokuhamba nomntwana apho uye waya khona ixesha elide, kodwa uhlala uhlehliswa ngenxa yokungabi nako. Umzekelo, iiyure ezimbalwa kwi- zoo ziza kushiya imbonakalo iintsuku ezimbalwa!
- Uya kuphi na ukuphumla nomntwana omdala . Mthetho ngokucophelela, cela umntwana xa ufuna
hamba, mhlawumbi, le ndawo iya kuba yindawo yokuzonwabisa. Ewe, ukhetho aluyona nto eyona nto, kodwa kufuneka kwakhona uzilungiselele kakuhle! Yilapho abazali abafumaneki ixesha lokuhamba nomntwana, ngoko ke le midlalo. Kwaye! Akukho imfuneko yokukhetha ukusebenza kwengqiqo, qalisa ngephulo lokudlala, umeme umhlobo osondeleyo wengane yakho kunye nawe, ngoko uza kuchitha ixesha kunye nenzuzo, kwaye umntwana uya kukubonga ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Isixa esichithwa nabazali ngexesha lethu sinokulinganisela ubunzima begolide. Ukuphuhlisa umntwana wakho ngokomoya nangokwemveli, iimathematika ziya kumfundisa kwaye esikolweni, kodwa uya kumnceda ukuba abe ngumntu! Yiba nomdla kuzo zonke izinto ezinomdla kumntwana wakho: imibukiso, iminyuziyamu, imisebenzi, kweseksi. Ngoko uhlala uyazi apho uhamba khona kunye nomntwana kunye neeyure ezimbalwa ezixabisekileyo zexesha onalo, unokuchitha ixesha lokuzonwabisa kwaye uthanda.