Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana bahlala kunye nonina, kwaye oobawo abaninzi benza okusemandleni abo ukuphepha ukugcinwa kweemvumba kunye nokusebenza koxanduva lwabazali. Okwangoku, kukho eminye imizekelo xa abantu abanomdla, abanothando nabalumkileyo befuna ukuba umntwana ahlale nabo.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqwalasele ukuba kwezinye iimeko, abafazi abakhathazeki ukukhulisa umntwana, kwaye bavulele ngokuzithandela umzali wesibili. Ngokuqhelekileyo, intsapho nganye ineemeko ezahlukileyo, kwaye imfuneko yokushiya umntwana kunye nopapa inokuvela kwanomama ocebileyo.
Kule nqaku, siya kukuxelela indlela onokushiya umntwana kunye noyise ekuqhawuleni umtshato, ukuba umama akanalo ithuba okanye umnqweno wokukhulisa umntwana wakhe ngokwakhe.
Kwenzeka ntoni emva komtshato ukuba ushiye umntwana kunye noyise?
Njengoko kuphawuliwe ngasentla, ukuqhawula umtshato phambi koomtshato abangaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-18 eRussia nase-Ukraine kwenziwa kuphela yinkantolo. Ukushiya unyana okanye intombi kunye noyihlo, kuya kufuneka uvelise ngexesha loqhawulo-mtshato ukuba kukho imeko efana nale:
- indlela engafanelekileyo yokuphila komama kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, inzala kababa;
- ukhuseleko lwemali lopapapa, umsebenzi ozinzileyo kunye nomvuzo ophezulu, ezi zinto ziya kukwazi ukuqinisekisa iimeko apho ubaba wengane enamathuba amaninzi okugcinwa kwayo;
- ubukho beengqondo ezingenakwenzeka kumama, kunye nokukwazi kwakhe ukukwazi ukwenza;
- Umlinganiselo wembopheleleko kayise ngomntwana wakhe mkhulu kunowomama;
uhlobo lokuhamba komsebenzi womama, ngenxa yokuba akanako ukunyamekela umntwana; - umnqweno oneminyaka engama-10 engaphezulu kweminyaka engama-10 ukuhlala noyise kunye nokunyaniseka kwakhe noyise.
Xa inkundla idlula isigqibo sokushiya unyana okanye intombi kunye nopapa, unina akalahlekelwa ilungelo lokumfundisa kwaye unoxanduva lokugcina umntwana kunye noyise. Ukuba amaqela akakwazi ukuvumelana ngokwabo, inkundla inokuthi idibanise ikhefu lokutyelela umama nendodana yakhe okanye intombi yakhe, kunye nokubuyiselwa kwimeko yakhe yokugcinwa komntwana kude kube uninzi lwayo.