Ukungenzi-nto-ukungakwazi komntu okanye umfazi wokuzalwa ukuzala ukukhulelwa umntwana-kunokuvela ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, oku kuchatshazelwa iingxaki zendalo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ingqondo yengqondo yokungabikho kwengqondo.
Le meko iyenzeka xa umntu engafuni ukuzalwa komntwana, kwaye ufumana amaxhala amaninzi ahlobene nokuzalwa kwabantwana. Kwiengqondo, ngenxa yoko, kukho ingcamango "yebhloko": ingqondo yomntu iyakwazi ukuthintela ukukhulelwa, nokuba nefuthe elibi ngqo kumsebenzi wokuzala. Esi sizathu sokuba isibini esipheleleyo, siphelile ngokwenyama, asikwazi ukukhulelwa umntwana.
Iingxaki zengqondo zengqondo
Iingxaki zeengqondo zokungabikho kwindoda kubasetyhini zihlala zihluke. Nazi ezinye izinto ezinokuchaphazela ukuba umntu akakwazi ukukhulelwa:
- ukwesaba uxanduva;
- "Ingxaki yemali", oko kukuthi, ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli ukubonelela ngemali ngemali;
- uxhalaba malunga nendlela umyalelo womntwana oya kutshintsha ngayo ulawulo lobomi kwintsapho;
- ukwesaba ukuba "nguyise oyisibi".
Ukungabikho kwengqondo kwabasetyhini kungenziwa ngenxa yezi zizathu zilandelayo:
- ukwesaba intlungu ngexesha lokubeleka (ingakumbi ukuba umfazi uyazi ukuba unesihlungu esiphantsi);
- iimvakalelo ngento yokuba akakwazi ukuhlangabezana nendima entsha njengomama;
- ukwesaba ukuxhamla ngokupheleleyo ekuzalweni kokubeleka ngexabiso lomsebenzi kunye nesimo kuluntu;
- ubudlelwane obuyinkimbinkimbi kunye noyise woomntwana;
- "Ukuqaphela" kwingxaki yokungabikho kwengqondo.
Ndingayinqoba njani intsingiselo yengqondo?
Ukuxazulula ingxaki yokungazinzi kwengqondo kubandakanya unyango. Okokuqala, olu luncedo lwengqondo, oluya kuthi, xa kungabikho ukungabikho kwengqondo kufuneka kunikezelwe kuzo zombini amaqabane. Ukuba ukusuka kumbono wonyango unakho konke, kufuneka uqhagamshelane neengcali. Kukho iingcali zeengqondo ezenza ngokuchanekileyo kule ngxaki. Ugqirha onjalo uya kukunceda ufunde indlela yokulahla ukungabikho kwengqondo kwengqondo.
Unokukunceda ekuxazululeni le ngxaki. Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zezibini ezifuna ukukhulelwa umntwana:
- Ukulala ngesondo kuphela ngenjongo yokukhulelwa. Hlaziya kwaye uyeke ukubala iintsuku kunye nemijikelezo, nje ukulibala malunga nexeshana. Vumela ubuhlobo bakho obusondeleyo bukhululeke ngakumbi.
- Yenza umtshato omncinci kubomi bentsapho. Zama ukuhlawula enye ingqalelo, ukunyamekela. Khumbula ukuba abantwana bazalwa ngothando!
- Ungaziphepheli iingxoxo ezingenangqiqo kwesi sihloko. Thelane omnye nomnye. Umntu osondeleyo unokunika inkxaso engcono yengqondo. Zive ukhululekile ukuxelela abanye iinkxalabo kunye neenkxalabo.
Ukungabikho kwengqondo kwengxaki yinkinga elula ukuyixazulula ukudlula ukungabikho kwengqondo kunye nezifo, iimpawu zomzimba, njl. Kufuneka wenze umgudu omncinci, kwaye iinzame zakho ziya kuhlawula ngokukhawuleza.