Ngokuqinisekileyo kuyo yonke incwadi yokuphupha kunokwenzeka ukuba ufunde ukuba ukuba umfazi womthandi amaphupha-intombazana kufuneka ilungiselele amava amanzulu. Kuyaqondakala ukuba ukuba umfazi ulwalamano nomntu otshatileyo, ngoko uhlangabezana noxinzelelo olunzulu imihla ngemihla. Emva koko, nangona ukuba iimvakalelo ziyahlukana, ubuhlobo kufuneka bufihliwe ngokucokisekileyo. Ngoko, umfazi womntu othandekayo amaphupha ukuba ubuhlobo bakho obufihlakeleyo buza kuvuleka kungekudala. Ukuba intombazana yabona iphupha elinjalo, kufuneka ihlale ilumkile.
Kungenzeka ukuba ngaphandle bafunde ngokufihlakeleyo, kuquka nomfazi womthandi. Unxibelelwano olunjalo luzisa intlungu kunye nosizi kumacala onke enxantathu yothando, ngoko kuya kuba ngcono ukuba umntu anqume kwisinqumo sokugqibela kungekudala.
Ngendlela, nangona umfazi engazange azi ngeemeko zomyeni wakhe, iphupha elinjalo lithetha ukuba ungummangali osesikweni, kwaye kungekudala kuya kubakho ubungqina boxhumo lwakho.
Kutheni umfazi okhulelwe womthandi ephupha?
Ukuba intombazana iphupha ngomfazi okhulelweyo womthandi okanye umfazi onabantwana - ufuzisela ukuba, nokuba uyazi malunga nokuxhamla komyeni wakhe, akayi kukhwabanisa aze azame ukufumana inyaniso. Nangona kunjalo, ulwalamano nomntu otshatileyo lungcono ukuyeka. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umfazi osemthethweni akayi kuziphatha kakubi, kodwa uya kuqala ukulawula umyeni wakhe, kwaye akayi kuba nethuba lokunikela ixesha elinye kwelinye ibhinqa.
Kutheni uphupha umfazi womthandi wangaphambili?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukubona umntu owayengumthandi ephupheni kuthetha ukuba ukhumbula amaxesha apho wawuhlangene. Mhlawumbi iimvakalelo azizange zenzeke kunye naye okanye kunye nawe. Ukuba uphupha umfazi wakhe, oku kuyilumkiso: musa ukuphazamisana nolwalamano lwabo, akukho nto enokuthi iya kwenzeka, ukuziphatha kwakho kuya kuzisa intlungu kuwe, owayengumthandi kunye nomfazi wakhe.