Umbuzo wokuba ngabazali bafanele balele nomntwana okanye nokuba kungcono ukufundisa umntwana ukuba alele ngokwahlukileyo kusekhona imbangela yeengxabano ezininzi. Oogqirha bezilwanyana, izazi zengqondo kunye nabazali bahlukana zibe ziinkampu ezimbini: abanye bathi ukulala okuhlangene kunceda umntwana ukuba abe nexhala, ethembeke ngakumbi kwaye akhuphuke ngokukhawuleza, kanti abanye bephikisana ngokucacileyo, ukuphikisa ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntwana alele ebhedeni kunzima kunokuba "ahambele" , xa umntwana ekhula.
Makhe siqwalasele iingongoma eziphambili zombini.
Ku:
- ubuthongo obunxulumene nabazali bamphulaza umntwana, umvumela ukuba azive ekhuselekile. Uyabanceda oomama abancinci, abavumele ukuba bangaqhubeki ngokuphindwe kasikhombisa kwi-cryb's baby;
- ukulala kunye nonina, umntwana uvakalelwa ukuphefumula, ukuphalaza nokuvumba. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kubantwana abatsha, abade bekunye kunye nonina. Ukwenzela ubuthongo obumbene uthi kunye nokusikeka kwayo - zonke izilwanyana zilala kuphela iintsana zabo. Akukho mntu uya kulwa nelokuba ukufudumala komama kunye nokunyamekela, ukuhlala rhoqo kunye nayo kubaluleke kakhulu kubantwana ababuthathaka nabangaphantsi kwexesha, kunye neendlela ezintle zokukhuthaza ukukhwabanisa.
Umgcini:
- enye yeengxabano ezinzima kunxamnye nengozi yengozi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, iintlekele zolu hlobo zinqabile, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba ungabandakanyi loo nto. Ingozi iphakama xa omnye wabazali ethatha iipilisi zokulala okanye ukhathele kakhulu - kwiimeko ezinjalo, ubuthongo buba bunzulu kakhulu, kwaye umngcipheko wokungcolisa ngengozi umntwana kumbhedlele okanye "ukulala" kuba phezulu. Akuyimfuneko ukulala nomntwana kunye nalabo abalala ngokungazenziyo, bavame ukuguqula okanye banokushukumisa izandla okanye iinyawo zabo ngokukhawuleza-kulula kakhulu ukulimaza umntwana ephupheni.
- ukulala ngokubambisana kunye nabantwana kungonakalisa ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe. Oku kuyinyani ngokukhethekileyo kwiintsapho apho, ngokubonakala komntwana, upapa uqala ukulala ngokwahlukileyo, ushiye umbhede womtshato kunye nonina. Oku kwenza ukuba azive "wesithathu engabonakaliyo" kwaye ngokukhawuleza angaguquleka kwiingxaki ezingundoqo zengqondo. Ukuba uyise uhlala elala nomfazi wakhe nomntwana, mhlawumbi, ukuphumla nokulala ngokupheleleyo, akayi kuphumelela. Uthando ngomntwana lukhula kancane kumadoda, kwaye okokuqala luya kuba nomona kumlingane kumntwana (kaninzi ngaphandle kokuqaphela oko). Ukongezelela, ubuthongo obudibeneyo phantse njalo ukulahlwa ngokupheleleyo ngesondo nomyeni. Kunzima kakhulu ukugcina isigqirha sobomi besondo, ukuba umntwana ulala nabazali bakhe ubusuku bonke.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo kubantwana abajwayele ukulala nabazali babo, kukho ukuxhomekeka okuqhubekayo kubo, abantwana baqala ukuxhaphaza umama nobawo, befuna ukunakekelwa kwabo rhoqo kunye nokuba khona kwabo.
Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alale kwisibhedlele?
Cinga ngemigaqo ephambili yokuncedisa umntwana ukulala kunye. Ukuba ufika kwisigqibo sokuba umntwana usele ngokwaneleyo ukuba alala ngokwahlukileyo, ungabuyi phantsi uze uqhubeke. Lungiselela ukuba akuyi kuba lula: abanye abantwana banamathela kwiintsuku ezimbini okanye ezintathu, kwaye abanye balungiselela abahlaziyi bezobudlova, bazixhaphaza kunye nabazali babo. Ukuba kubonakala kuwe ukuba zonke iindlela ezifundiswayo zokufundisa umntwana ukuba alele embhedeni sele sele ziphelile kwaye uzimisele ukuyeka kwaye uvumele u-crumb aqhubeke elala nawe, cinga ukuba ngokuziphatha okunjalo uvumela umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba amahlazo kunye nokukhala kunceda ukufezekisa okufunwayo. Ungathandabuzeki, kwikamva umntwana uya kudla ngokungahambi kakuhle kwaye ahlaziye, asebenzise ukuhluleka kwakho ukuhlala uqhubeka kunye nokunyamezela.
Khumbula: isigqibo senziwe, kwaye kufuneka ufike ekupheleni. Kodwa musa ukukhawuleza, yenza konke kancinci ukuze umntwana angabi noloyiko kwaye unethuba lokutshintshwa kwiinguqulelo. Qala ukubeka ithoyizi phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho. Ekuqaleni ufake isikhalazo esiseduze nawe ukuze ubone indlela umntwana alele ngayo, kwaye umntwana, evuka ebusuku, unokukubona. Kancinci kancinciza umntwana ukuba athabathele. Ukubeka iimvuthu zokulala, khuluma naye ngelizwi elithule, elithulekileyo, ungamemeza ukuba akahlali ubuthongo bodwa njengesohlwayo.
Xa umntwana esetyenziselwa ukulala ngokwahlukileyo, shenxisa isikhalazo kwii-nursery. Ungatshintshi izithethe ngaphambi kokuba ulale - vumela ithoyizi apho umntwana elele khona iya kuhlala isondele ngalo busuku. Ukubeka umntwana, uthetha naye, ubambe ngokubamba, xela iingxelo, yenza konke okufana nokuqala. Kucetyiswa ukuba uthenge isibane sasebusuku, ukuze uvuke ebumnyameni kwiindawo zokulala, i-crumb ayizange ibone. Musa ukumthusa umntwana ngeendaba malunga neebhokhwe kunye nezinye izilo zomsuku-mnyama - oku kuya kunceda nje okwethutyana, kwaye emva koko
Abantwana abadala (iminyaka engama-4-5) bakuthola kunzima ukuchaza isizathu sokuba bangalali nabazali babo, kwaye umntakwabo okanye udade omncinci unako. Kule meko, zama ukusebenzisa umkhangeli ophazamisayo - thengisa kwifenitshala enhle yezingane - ngendlela yoomatshini wokubhala, inqwelo (yinkwenkwana) okanye inqaba yentombazana (kwintombazana). Kungcono ukuba umntwana ngokwakhe ukhetha ikotini. Cinga ukuba kungenzeka ukuba iphupha elihlukile njengelungelo elifikeleleke kubantu abadala kuphela, vumela umntwana abe nekratshi ngokuzimela kwakhe.
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba inkwenkwe iyaqonda ukuba abazali abahlose ukuba babuyele kwisigqibo sabo, uya kuxolelana, kwaye baya kulala belele.