Wonke umntu uphupha ukuqonda, ukwamkelwa njengokuba, uncedwa kwaye uncedwa kwiimeko ezinzima. Ezi nqwenela zixhomekeke ngakumbi kwiintsapho zobudlelwane . Yingakho kungathandeki xa amalungu omndeni eqala ukubonisa ukungathandi nokungahloneli.
Ngenxa yeziganeko zabo zomzimba nezengqondo, amadoda angaphezu kwamabhinqa ukuwahlonela amaqabane abo. Abameli bezesondo ezifanelekileyo banokunyamezela ixesha elide, kodwa ke baqala ukukhangela iingcebiso kwi-psychologist indlela yokufundisa umyeni wabo ukungahloneli.
Iingcebiso zezengqondo zendlela yokufundisa umntu isifundo sokungahloneli
Ngaphambi kokujongana nentlonipho yendoda yakhe, kukufanelekile ukuba sicinge ukuba uyayenza ngenjongo okanye ngomkhwa othile oye waqhubeka ususela ebuntwaneni. Ukuba ukungahloneli kunye nokunyaniseka kuthathwa kwixesha lakhe elidlulileyo, umonde kufuneka ukuba umntu aqonde ukuziphatha kwakhe okungalunganga.
Izinto ezibi kakhulu, ukuba umntu ubonisa ukungamhloneli ngokucacileyo, ebonisa ukuba usekhaya lomnini kwaye unelungelo lokwenza oko akufunayo. Ukuba umfazi ucinga indlela yokuziphindezela kumyeni wakhe ngenxa yokungamhloneli, unokusebenzisa ngokunjalo le ngcebiso:
- Memezela ukukhwabanisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo "kudlala ngokuthula" okunceda umntu ukuba aqonde ukuba into ayiphumelekanga.
- Musa ukulala naye. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubusuku obuninzi bwanele ukwenzela ukuba indoda ibe yinyameko.
- Yenza njengoko akwenzayo, elandela umgaqo "iso kweso". Ukuba indoda ingabuyi emsebenzini, emva kokuhamba nabahlobo, unokuphinda uphinde uziphathe ngokulandelelanayo ngosuku olulandelayo, ushiye inqaku ngamagama athi: "Ndoda, ndagqiba ekubeni ndihambe nabahlobo bam ..."
- Isihlwayo esikhulu kunazo zonke kukuthintela intanda. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu uthanda ukuchitha ngokuhlwa kunye, shiya indlu. Ukuba uyakuthanda isidlo sakusihlwa - ungayipheki. Kukho iphupha elimnandi kakhulu: umfazi kunye nomyeni wakhe banamathuba athile,
ezinye iindlela ongakhetha kuzo, indlela onokuhlwaya ngayo umyeni wakho ngokungahloneli umfazi wakho. - Yeka ukuhlamba nokutshiza. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva kuya kucaca ukuba uyacaphuka.
- Shiya abantwana kumyeni wakhe kwaye uhambe kwishishini, uhambo loshishino. Iintsuku ezimbalwa zodwa kunye nabantwana banako ukuphazamisa nayiphi na indoda.
Nangona kunjalo, indlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha ukuba awuyihloneli intsapho kukubonisa ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo , umonde, ingxoxo, ukuchazwa kunye nokukhangela izilungiso. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kwintsapho kukulondolozwa imeko efanelekileyo. Ixesha liya kudlula, kwaye umyeni uya kuba mncinci kwaye abe nomusa, kuba impembelelo enhle yomfazi iya kunceda intliziyo ebuthathaka.