Ukwahlukana ngokwawo yimeko esicinezelekileyo, engathandeki kubo bobabini bomtshato. Kodwa kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu, ukuba omnye wabatshatileyo unemvakalelo yenye, abazange bapheleke kwaye abazange baqhoqhe. Yintoni enokuyenza xa ukuhlukana nomyeni wakhe kuwe akunakwenzeka kwaye nendlela yokubuyisela umyeni wangaphambili kwaye wakha kwakhona ukususela kwintlalo yolonwabo - emva koko kwinqaku.
Indlela yokubuyisela umyeni kwintsapho - kwengqondo
Into ephambili yokuqala kukuqonda ukuba uluphi uhlobo lweemvakalelo onalo kumyeni wakho wangaphambili. Mhlawumbi oku akunjalo uthando, kodwa uthando, umkhwa oye waphuma ngaphezu kweminyaka yobomi bentsapho. Kwimeko enjalo, kuya kuba ngcono ukumvumela ukuba aye. Emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbi ukugcina ezintliziyweni zethu iinkumbulo zolonwabo oludlulileyo, asiyikuvumela ukuba lube nolonwabo olutsha oluya kubonakala lungakumbi.
Kodwa ukuba uyamthanda ngokwenene umyeni wakho wangaphambili kwaye ungacingi nje ubomi bakho ngaphandle kwakhe, ngoko kufuneka ulwele ulonwabo. Isinyathelo sokuqala endleleni yokubuyisela umyeni wangaphambili emva kokuqhawula umtshato kuyintetho yentliziyo. Ukudibana naye kwaye uxoxe ngokunyanisekileyo ulwalamano lwakho, zama ukuqonda kunye kunye nantoni na engafanelekanga. Emva kwengxoxo, unokuqonda indlela yokuqhubeka. Mhlawumbi, owokuqala uya kuthi ngoko akafuni ukuzama ukuvuselela ubuhlobo. Kwimeko apho, mhlawumbi kufuneka uphumelele. Kodwa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba akayi kucinga kwakhona ukuzama ukuvuselela ubuhlobo, ke uhlalutye iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo uze uzame ukuziphepha ukususela ngoku ngoku.
Enye umbuzo ukuba unomdla wokubuyisela umyeni ongaphambili xa sele esatshatile. Ngokuqinisekileyo, iimvakalelo zakhe zibalulekile, kodwa ekubeni umtshato uyonwabile ezimbini, kubalulekile ukuba ungacingi nje ngeyakhe, kodwa nangemvakalelo yakhe. Emva kwayo yonke into, mhlawumbi umyeni owake wafumana ulonwabo lwakhe kwaye nawe, kufuneka uzame ukuhlala.
Ubomi buzalisekile ngeemangalo ezingalindelekanga kwaye ulonwabo lwakho selukhange lukhange kwindawo ethile ejikelezileyo, kwaye nonke ninyathelwa kwindawo. Ngoko ufanele ukwazi ukuqonda xa kulungele ukulwa nokuzama, kwaye nini-ukuyeka ukuhamba.