Ukulingana kwamadoda nabasetyhini yenye yeengxaki ezibalulekileyo zekhulu lama-21. Namhlanje, ukuziphatha, imbono, isimo sengqondo malunga nentsapho, kunye nemilinganiselo yobomi ngokubanzi, kokubili kwindoda nabasetyhini, zihluke kakhulu kwezoookhokho bethu.
Ukulingana kwintsapho ngumxholo ongunaphakade weengxabano phakathi kwabameli bebhinqa kunye nendoda. Abasetyhini bafuna ukulingana kuzo zonke iinkalo zomsebenzi, kokubomi bentsapho kunye nokukhula komsebenzi. Ngexesha elifanayo, zonke iimpikiswano eziphakama ngenxa yeengxabano zidla ngokudibanisa nokungabikho kokuqonda kwengcamango yokulingana nokulingana.
Ukulingana phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, ngokwemininzi, kulukholo nje. Oku kuqinisekiswa yinkcazo yokulingana, epapasha iforum yoqoqosho yonyaka yonyaka obala amathuba amadoda namabhinqa kwezopolitiko, imisebenzi, ukunakekelwa kwempilo kunye nemfundo.
Amalungelo alinganayo ngesini
Namhlanje, uninzi lwahlukaniso lubangelwa yimpikiswano ngenxa yokungalingani kunye nokuphulwa kwamalungelo omntu. Abasetyhini bancintisana namadoda ekukholeni, okubangela ukungaxhatshazi phakathi kwamadoda, ngelixa umfazi elahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo kwiimpawu kunye nezithethe zakhe, kuba ngumfazi oshishino okhohlakeleyo. Kukho omnye uthi: "Indlela yowesifazane - ukusuka ehovini ukuya emngceleni." Kwaye le mzekeliso njengento yokugqithisa isisombululo kwiibini zesini ngokufanayo "njengabantu ababi." Kwaye ekugqibeleni ezi ngcamango ziye zabangela ukuba kungenangqiqo ukuba umfazi akhuphuke kwinqanaba lomsebenzi, kwaye indoda kufuneka idonse imithwalo yemfanelo phantsi kokungabaza kwamandla akhe. Ukulingana ubudlelwane ngeke kuguqulwe, nangona amawaka emithetho kunye nee-codec ezamkelekileyo, kwaye amanqaku amaninzi efundwayo ngokwesini, abaninzi baneliseke, de singayiqondi ukuba sonke singabantu, kwaye loo mqondo njengomsebenzi omuhle, amandla, ukuhlamba ukutya akuxhomekeke kuwo onke enoba ungumntu okanye umfazi.
Akufanelekanga ukuba ukucalulwa kwezesondo ezibuthakathaka kusekho kwaye ukulingana kwabasetyhini kubonisa, okokuqala, ukulingana kwamathuba. Umzekelo ovuthayo: kwinqanaba elilodwa kwisikhundla esiphakamileyo kwakukho ukhetho phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, ukhetho lunikezelwa indoda ngenxa yokuba yindoda yesini kuphela, nangona intombazana yayinamava kwaye ifanelekile ngakumbi kwesi sikhundla. Uphi lo logic?
Ngokwemvelo, enye into yayingenakukhunjulwa, oko kukuthi, umzabalazo wokulingana kwabasetyhini, okubandakanya ezinye iingxaki kunye neziganeko ezijolise kwimiba yesini, kubandakanywa nokunyuka kwabesifazane ukulingana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kucacile ukuba lo ngumzabalazo wokulingana kwintsimi yengqesho, kuba kule ndawo apho ibhinqa lifumana ukuphulwa kakubi kunye nokwenqaba. Ngenxa yokuba isizathu sangempela sokwenqaba bonke abaqeshi ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumqeshwa kungekudala emva kokufumana oko, kuba akukho mqhubi ofuna ukulinda i-economist iminyaka engama-2-3 ukuya kwenyuka ikhefu lokubeleka, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo kunzima ukugcina indawo kumama oselula.
Abantu abaninzi bacinga, kodwa ngaba ukulingana kobulili ngokubanzi? Kukho imibono emibini ye-polar kulo mbuzo, echazwe ngasentla. "Ngokuba" okanye "ngokuchasene". Iyesithathu ayinikezwa. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba bobabini amadoda anamava athile
Ekubeni, encinci ngokuvisisana nenyaniso yokuba indawo yowesifazane ayikho kwisitofu kuphela, abantu baqhubeka befuna kuye ukuba bahambelane ngoku iindibano ezimbini: unina onoxanduva lokukhuliswa kwabantwana, umyeni wakhe kunye nomsebenzi wezobugcisa, okuzikhupha ngokwenza umsebenzi wakhe. Kwakhona, amadoda ayadingeka ukuba abe nje iingcali ezilungileyo, kodwa "namadoda anamandla kweli hlabathi" kwaye abhekane neengxaki eziwela kubini abameli bebini. Yaye yonke le mzabalazo ekhoyo ayiyi kuyeka de siqonde ukuba sonke singabantu, kwaye akukho mntu uhlawulelwa nantoni na.