Umntwana uqala ukunyula izandla zakhe kwisibeleko sikamama. Ukuphumelela yintlekele yendalo engabonakaliyo ngokubonakalayo kumntwana ukuya kwiinyanga ezi-4-5 ubudala. Emva koko, inkqubo yokuzondla ngokwayo iya ekudleni kwaye umntwana usubeka izandla zakhe emlonyeni.
Xa umama eqala ukuxhalabisa, kutheni umntwana ecela intonga yakhe, uyalibala ukuba le ngcamango engumntu onikezelwe ngendalo ayifuni nje ukuxelela unina malunga nendlala evelayo, kodwa inceda umntwana ukuba azinciphe kwaye azive ekhuselekile.
Indlela yokunciphisa umntwana ukuba alise ibhola?
Xa ebona umntwana ephosa amanqindi emlonyeni, abazali baqala ukukhangela indlela yokondla umntwana kulo mkhuba omubi. Kodwa ngaba lo mkhuba unobungozi ngokwenene?
Ukuba ngaba abazali bexhalaba kukuba umntwana udla ngokukhawuleza, kufuneka kubone ukuziphatha kwakhe ixesha elithile. Kungenzeka ukuba ikhefu elide phakathi kokutya lithatha umntwana, kwaye uqala ukulamba ngaphambili, apho uya kunikwa ibele okanye umxube. Ipeni kule meko ihlala ikhona.
Njengokuba ingcambu yesondlo isenokusebenza. Kule meko, ukutsala ibhokhwe kusinceda umntwana aphephe ukubetha xa amazinyo okuqala avela.
Njengenye indlela yokutsala ibhokhwe, abazali banako ukunikela umntwana usana. Nangona kunjalo, akuyiyo yonke into evuma ukuba umntu atshintshe. Akunabantu abadala abagxininisa kwi-ingono, ukuba umntwana uyala ukuthatha emlonyeni wakhe.
Isiza esingaqinisekiyo sokusana sinokubangela ukuba kuvela, sele sele ekhulile, ngesimo sokungakhuseki, sokwesaba ikamva. Ngako oko, kubalulekile ukuba ungayithinteli umntwana ukuba angamlisi, kodwa ukumnika ithuba lokunandipha eli xesha lobuncinci. Oku kuya kumvumela ukuba azive ekhuselekile kwaye abe nokholo oluyisiseko kwihlabathi. Akukho mntwana uthabatha umlenze emlonyeni wakhe de kube yiminyaka emibini, emithathu, emihlanu. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngunyaka womntwana, isidingo sokusana sinciphisa ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwabantu abadala.
Impembelelo yokutsala ibhokhwe ekulumeni nasekudaleni amazinyo
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali banenkxalabo yokuba ukuba umntwana oza kulinda ixesha elide uya kulimaza ukukhula kwamazinyo. Ewe, ngandlela-thile, amazinyo ayafuduka kwiindawo zabo zokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, esi siphumo siyabonwa kuphela ngokumalunga namazinyo obisi. Iidokotela zamazinyo zithi ukutsala iminwe neengqayi kwasebuntwini akuchaphazeli ukukhula kwamazinyo asisigxina.
Ukuzama ukubopha izandla zentsana, ukutyhawula iminwe yakhe ngeendlela ezibuhlungu kunokuthi kwandise imeko kwaye kwandise ukukhusela komntwana, ozofuna ukuphinda athole intshontsho. Into ebalulekileyo abazali abangayenza kule meko kukushiya umntwana yodwa.