I-Egoism yinto ephawulekayo yobungqina obonisa ukuba ayikho into ebhetele yobuntu. I-Egoists ihlala nzima, kunye nazo zonke iindawo ezikuyo. Ngenxa yoko, kukho isiqalo esinobungozi obungenasiphelo. Into engathandekiyo ngolu hlobo kukuba ukuzingca umgangatho ongeyena ozalwa ngumntwana, kodwa ufumene, udlalwa ngabazali abanothando ebuntwaneni. Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana ezingcungcuthekayo, kwenzeka ntoni kwaye nokuba kunokwenzeka yini ukulungisa imeko - siza kuxubusha le micimbi ngakumbi.
Ukuzingca komntwana
Akunakutsholwa ukuba kuyimfuneko ukukhusela ukuphuculwa kobugwenxa kwiintlanzi. Ukususela ekuzalweni komntwana, ukuzingca yinto eqhelekileyo kunye nendlela yokuphila. Ngomnyaka wokuqala wobomi, ngokukhawuleza ukuba kukho into efunekayo okanye engathandwanga yi-crumb, ubika ngale nto ngokukhala okukhulu. Ingane ayicingi ngabanye, malunga neminqweno okanye iimfuno zabo, kubalulekile kuye ukuba zonke iimfuno zakhe zidibene. Ukukhula kancinci, umntwana ufunda ukukhwela , ukuhamba, ukuthetha, ingqalelo intsapho yonke isalugxile kuye, kodwa kusasa kakhulu ukuthetha ngokuzingca. Inguquko efikayo xa umntwana eqala ukuqonda "yena", uzihlukanise nabanye, aphikise. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka kwiminyaka emithathu, xa isigamazwi "I" sivela entetho. Kule nqanaba lokusebenzisana noluntu, umntu kufuneka afune iindlela zokuthintela ukwakheka kobugovu.
Iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo zabazali
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali abafumani lo mgca wobudala kwaye baqhubeke bekholisa umntwana ngazo zonke iindlela ukuba nguye owona mhle, unye kuphela, njl. Nangona ukuqonda kwengane, into yokuba sele esele ichaza kakhulu, abazali bayakuphepha ukuthintela, baqhubeke beyanelisa kakhulu "Ndiyathanda, ndinike." Umntwana ukhula ngokweenkanuko, ukuba ngabazali, ugogo nomkhulu kunye nabo bahlala bezama ukunikela kuphela into enhle kakhulu, enomdla kakhulu, "Ndiya kuba nzima, kodwa oku kulungile kuwe". AmaMama nabazali bayakhohlwa ukuba ixesha lokuba umntwana afunde indlela yokunceda ngayo, zibeka iimathoyizi zazo, zithathe izinto ezichangekileyo kwaye zingacingi ukuba ziba yingxaki enkulu kwixesha elizayo.
Izindlela zokuthintela nokulungisa imeko
- Akukho mntu uthi ukuze kuthintele ukuphuhliswa kobugovu, iitalente zomntwana kufuneka zinciphise okanye zinganakwa. Ngokuphambene noko, ukudala ubuntu obugcweleyo, qhubeka udumisa umntwana, ungayidluli kwaye uqhathanise impumelelo yakhe kunye nempumelelo yabanye abantwana. Ukuba wayifake ientyatyambo ezintle, ungagxininisi kwinto yokuba wenza okungcono kunokuba uKatie okanye uVanya, ndixelele ukuba le ntyatyambo yayinhle kakhulu kunokuba ixesha lokugqibela.
- Okumangalisa ngokwaneleyo, nikela ingqalelo kakhulu umntwana wakho ukuze angenayo imfuneko 'yokubetha' iinyembezi kunye neenkwenkwezi. Ukuba umntwana uhlala eyazi ukuba uyadingeka, ukuba uyathandwa, ukhula emoyeni ococekileyo, akayi kumzabalazo rhoqo, kwaye uya kuvuya ngokucinga kwabanye, kuba abanye bacinga ngaye.
- Funda ukuba ungasetyenziswa ngumntwana. Ukuba uthe wachaza "cha", bhinqa umgca wakho ukuya ekupheleni. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana ukhawuleza ufunda indlela yokufezekisa into efunwayo ngeendlela ezingathembekanga, ngaphandle kokunyamekela iimfuno zabanye, kwaye le yindlela ecacileyo yokuzingca.
- Qiniseka ukuba ubonisa umzekelo wokunyamekela abanye. Musa ukumnika i-candy yokugqibela, kodwa ulwahlule phakathi kwakhe nobaba. Bonisa indlela ovuyayo ngayo ukuba umntwana uncediswe ukunyathela iincwadi zakhe. Ukuthabatha intsana kwi-kindergarten, ungabuzi kuphela ngezinto azenzileyo namhlanje, kodwa nangokuba ngabahlobo bakhe bawenza ntoni, ziziphi iimpawu ezenziwe kwiplastiki, into abayifumayo, njl.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuphawula iimpawu zokuziphatha okubi, ungakhathazeki, ungamjezeli umntwana. Ikheyibhile ekhethiweyo kwibhokisi lebhokisi okanye ibhola kwiklasi yezemfundo yesikhundla asiyikho isizathu sokufumana izigqibo. Jonga umntwana, cinga ngeempazamo ozenzileyo ekukhuliseni kwaye uzame ukubeka yonke indawo kwindawo yayo.