Ukugxininiswa kwengqalelo kukukwazi ukugcina ingqalelo into efanayo. I-psychology yenkcazo ibonisa ukuba ingcamango yenye yeepropati zayo ezisisiseko, kwaye ngokuyininzi ibeka umgangatho wokwenza kakuhle nokuphumelela ukuxazulula iingxaki ezahlukeneyo.
Zininzi iinkqubo zifuna ukugxinwa rhoqo kuthi, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukugcina, kuba oku kufuna ukunyameka kwengqondo kwaye ikhokelela ekukhathala. Ngaphezu koko, kukho ukuphulwa ngokukodwa kokuqwalasela ingqalelo, okwenza kube nzima kakhulu kwaye kungenakwenzeka.
Ukuphazamiseka kwengxaki
Ukungabikho kwengqalelo kungabininzi kwiindidi:
- Ukunyaniseka kwengqondo kungekho imeko apho umntu engena ngokukhawuleza engahambi ngaphandle kwezinto ezithile. Ngamanye amaxesha ubizwa ngokuba yi-prostration, ukuba ngumbuzo wokungabikho kwengqondo engqondweni kwaye uhambelana nokunciphisa amandla, ukungabi nentshisekelo kwinto eyenzekayo, ukuxhalaba, njl njl. Kungenzeka ukuba kunokongamela, ukungabikho kokulala, impilo embi okanye ukuqhuba ixesha elide lomsebenzi onesidima.
- Ukungafihli komfanekiso kubonakaliswe ukuba umntu akanako ukusabalalisa ingqalelo phakathi kwendawo yangaphandle kunye neengcinga zakhe. Isizathu sixininiso kwimida engaphakathi.
- Ukuba ngumfundi kuphezulu kakhulu kutshintshi.
- Ukungafihli komdala kukuguqulwa kakubi kokuqwalaselwa.
- Ukubangela ukunyanzeliswa kwengqondo , ukungabikho kokugxininiswa kwengqwalasela, ukuphepha ukukhusela iingcamango malunga nezinto ezithile, ukungayithobeli.
- Ukungabikho kokukhetha - ukukhutshwa kwezinto eziqhelekileyo, umzekelo, intliziyo eqhelekileyo ayinakuchukumisi ingqalelo yethu, njengendlela yokuphefumula, kunye nokukhawulwa kwewashi ekamelweni lakho.
Iindlela zokuqwalasela ingqalelo
Ingqalelo ingaba yinto yokuzithandela okanye ingabandakanyeki, ngokulandelanayo, ingqwalaselo yenkcazo iveliswa zombini ngenzame yokuthanda kwaye ngokwayo, kunokuthiwa, ngokuzithandela, ngokusekelwe kwintlalo yomdla kuloo nto. Akufuneki ukuthetha, kwimeko yokuqala, kukho amandla amaninzi okugcinwa kwexesha elide lokugcinwa kwengqalelo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekudeni, kwaye kunokuba kunqunywe ngexesha. Ukuxininiswa kwengqwalasela, ngokusekelwe kumdla kwinto enzima kakhulu, kwaye inomdla wokuvelisa. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza izinto ozithandayo kwaye ubangele umdla.
Indlela yokuphuhlisa ingqwalasela?
Ikhono lokugxila kwizinto ezithile likhula ngobudala. Kunzima kubantwana ukuba bagxininise ixesha elide, kodwa sele befunda abantwana besikolo samabanga aphansi, ngokusemthethweni, banokukwazi ukufumana izifundo kwaye bafumane ukukwazi ukufunda. Ngaphandle koko, kukho ukuthetha ngokunyanzelisa nokunye ukuphulwa.
Ukuxilongwa kokuqeqesha kuqwalaselwa kwinkqubo yokufunda. Umntwana kufuneka agxininise kwisifundo esinye ixesha elide, ngokuthe ngcembe uyasetyenziselwa imithwalo enjalo aze aziphathe ngokulula. Ngethuba lokugqiba, umntu unomdla ngokungazenzisiyo, owamvumela ukuba ahlanganyele kwimisebenzi yobugcisa. Ukuba uzijonga njengomntu ophazamisekile, uhlala uphazamiseka ekusebenzeni imisebenzi kwi-stimuli yangaphandle kunye neengcamango zakho, ezithintela umsebenzi ophumeleleyo kwaye ukhulule ezinye iziphazamiso, ungazama ukusebenzisa iindlela ezizodwa ukugxininisa ingqalelo yakho, zama ukunyusa umdla (umzekelo, ulungiselele ukukhuthazwa okongezelelweyo).
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuqwalasela ingqalelo:
- iingqondo. Thatha iphepha kunye ne pensile, qala ukudweba umgca, ugxininise yonke ingqalelo yakho kwipencilensi. Njalo ixesha lokuphazamiseka liphazamisekile, yenza i-zigzag, uze uqhubeke ucingisise kumgca oqhubayo. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uqikelele ukuba ungagcina ingqalelo ixesha elingakanani, ngokukhawuleza ikhefu liza kuba lide;
- kwiziko lephela. Indlela efanelekileyo yokuchitha ixesha kunye nenzuzo kwizithuthi zikawonkewonke okanye kumgca. Khetha into, umzekelo, ipowusta yentengiso. Zikhethe ixesha elide kwaye ugxininise into, cinga kuphela ngalo, de kube ixesha liphuma.
Kancinci ukwandisa isikhala; - kubala. Ukuba, ngelixa ufunda incwadi, uqaphela ukuba awukwazi ukubamba ingqalelo yakho, phawula iimida xa uphazamiseka. Buyela kwindawo okhumbule ngayo kwaye uqale ufunde kuyo. Ekupheleni kwephepha, qho ngalunye, khumbula ngengqondo iingongoma eziphambili. Emva kwexesha, inani lamanqaku kufuneka linciphise.
Ukuba iingxaki zengqalelo azikwazi ukulungiswa ngokuzimeleyo, kunokuba luncedo ukubona ugqirha oza kunceda ukufumana indlela engcono yokuphuma kunye nokunika iivithamini zokuxininisa.